Lisa Bevere - Out of control and loving it!

Acknowledgments

M y deepest appreciation to my husband, John, who believed enough in me never to allow me to remain comfortable but who has always challenged me to move into the realm of Gods grace and call on my life. May we never be satisfied until we behold His glory. You are truly Gods gracious gift, my friend, and my closest confidant.

To my four precious sons. Addison, your tenderness, determination, and zeal for righteousness are commendable. Austin, your creativity, sensitivity, and courage are inspirational. Alexander, your love, joy, and laughter are delightful. Arden, your strength and fiery determination challenge me to live life to its fullest. Boys, I will always love you deeply. Each of you is a unique and special blessing from God.

To my mother, whose encouragement throughout this project meant so much to me. The best is yet to be.

To our entire staff at Messenger International. May God reward your faithful diligence.

To the Charisma House staff who labored along with us. Deborah, you have been so supportive throughout the editing process. Stephen and Joy, we consider you partners and friends to this ministry.

To my Father God. You more than anyone else know how utterly impossible this book would have been without Your direction and guidance. I fall upon Your grace, eternally grateful.

Contents

Part I: The Captive Woman

Part II: The Fruit of Fear

Part III: Free at Last

Foreword by John Bevere

W e live in a world where lawlessness abounds. Today more than 65 percent of our population has been marred by the tragedy of divorce. This is often the end result of wounding words and actions. In our day many have been abused, both verbally and physically. What makes it worse is that the abuse occurs most often at the hands of the very people who are expected to nourish and protect the ones abused. Even more damaging is the fact that most of the pain is inflicted during childhood when personality and views on life are being developed.

No one has escaped the abundance of hatred, jealousy, greed, and selfishness that has spawned breaches and betrayals in relationships within our society. All of this and much more are contributing to a major problem called lack of trust.

In light of this, most would never confess a love for being out of control. Rather, most would say, Out of control and despising it is the way I feel. Because of this lack of trust in todays world, most strive to take control of their lives and their surroundings, thinking its the only way to survive. People believe that to be in control means they will be secure and successful. In these times, men, and especially women, are taught either directly or indirectly to be independent and self-sustaining. They learn how to control.

In this book Lisa shows that those who control their lives, relationships, and surroundings are the ones who are in bondage. The very freedom they seek is lost. Conversely, those who have relinquished control to the Lord are the ones who are actually in control and who walk in life and freedom.

Jesus said, For whoever desires to save [or control] his life will lose it, but whoever loses [control of] his life for My sake will find it (Matt. 16:25, nkjv ). These are easy words to recite, but they are hard words to live, especially in a society where selfishness abounds.

This book revolves around these words of Jesus. It is a very practical book that will show how to relinquish control to our Savior and find the peace so many are looking for. The revelation knowledge contained in this book is both profound and life-changing. When I read the chapters, I exclaimed, Not only should women read this book, but men also. I can see that many couples are going to read it together.

Being married to Lisa, I can honestly say the truths you are about to experience in this book are not just a studied-out teaching. I have walked with her through every one of them. I have been able to witness the transforming work of the Holy Spirit in her life. She has grown rapidly in the Lord because of her willingness to be open and honest about herself in the time of the Lords training. Her example has encouraged me to be open and honest about my own life as well. As you read you will not be afraid to open the guarded areas of your own life to the One who loves you.

There is no other person I respect and love more than Lisa. I trust her with my life, not just because shes my wife and best friend, but because she is a woman who truly fears the Lord.

Thank you, Lisa, for being the godly wife and mother you are. Thank you for obeying the Master and bringing forth this message of His. I am grateful to the Lord for the privilege of being married to you.

John Bevere Author and speaker Messenger International

Introduction

S ome of you reading this book may find your lives out of controland you hate it! Everything around you is chaos. Things are out of control because you are in control. God is challenging us to relinquish management of our lives so we can be out of controland love it.

This book is a record of my personal journey from fearful, fanatical control to a place of rest under Gods control. I have been brutally open and honest in the hope that you would see yourself in my fears and foolishness. So, as you read this book, let it reflect on your life and not the life of another.

We are a people in transition. During transition God is more concerned with our condition than our comfort. Because this is true, often He will allow the upheaval of our circumstances, finances, social standing, security, and relationships. Seasons of change are crucial, critical times in our lives. It is in the whirlwind of transition and turmoil that we find out what we are made of and who is actually in control.

I found that whenever I was in charge I ended up with a mess. Even though I wanted the mess fixed, I was afraid to let go for fear it would grow bigger. Well, it is time to let go. When God is in control, even our messes are ordered under His care. This is not a book about indifference; it is one about caring and loving enough to turn loose.

You may be lamenting, Id let go if only I knew how! You let go when you make your will subservient to Gods will. It is when we lose our lives that He can save them.

We all have areas in our lives where we have relinquished our guardianship. Yet there are other areas we are afraid to entrust even to Gods care. God is asking us to yield completely so He can surround us with His protection and care. He wants us in over our heads.

I like to compare letting go with the process of learning to swim. It can be both exhilarating and terrifying. In order to swim you must first learn to float, allowing the water to hold you up. Only then do you discover the freedom and liberty of swimming. This natural principle reflects a spiritual transition from our natural rule to the rule of the Holy Spirit.

The body of Christ is the collective strength of all of its members. God is in the process of healing each joint and member in His body. To accomplish this He is dealing with us as individuals in order that we might be whole. This book is my testimony of this refinement in my personal life. Though this refining is far from complete, I believe the witness of this process will encourage you to forget what is behind and strain toward what is ahead (Phil. 3:13).

PART 1

THE CAPTIVE WOMAN

I was tired of acting free when I was not, tired of acting strong when I was in fact weak.

Three years ago I fell into one of the deepest depressions of my life. It lasted about one month. I remember my only hope was when my sisters pastor prayed for me. She said, The Lord says you are a daughter of Zion. I had no idea what that meant. I felt a little dejected. After several weeks of this darkness, one evening I turned on the television, and there you were, Lisa. You mentioned your book Out of Control and Loving It! I thought , I have to have that book. Right now! When I got the book and opened it, you can only imagine the tears when I turned to chapter one and read, Awake, Daughter of Zion. I just sat there crying, knowing that every word that followed was straight from the throne of God. That was the night my depression ended, as I was so filled with hope that the demons of darkness ran! This will always be a cherished memory of Gods faithfulness to me.