Shannon Popkin - Control Girl: Putting God in Charge of My Happy Ending

Shannon has a wonderful ability to translate the truths of Gods Word into interactive Bible studies that speak to relevant issues women face today. Control Girl is a penetrating look at how selfishness and self-protectiveness wreck livesand why surrender and trust are Gods life-giving pathways to true freedom and joy.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author and Revive Our Hearts teacher and host

Authentic, relevant, and truth-filled, Control Girl is written especially for any woman longing for security, peace, and joy. Through her Bible-based teaching and humorous stories, Shannon reminds us God never intends us to carry around the burden of control, and instead offers us the gift of sweet surrender to him. I finished Control Girl being reminded afresh that for those who love God, there awaits the happiest Happy Ending imaginable. Hooray! Highly recommended!

Cindy Bultema, womens speaker, Bible teacher, and author of Red Hot Faith

In the style of Liz Curtis Higgs, Control Girl is an easy and entertaining read, yet Shannon Popkin packs a punch where we so need it if we are to be set free from the stressful habit that robs our joy and ruins our relationships!

Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies

No one wants to be enslaved to anger, anxiety, or fear. Yet many battle those emotions without making any headway in their struggle to fix themselves and others. In Control Girl, my longtime friend Shannon Popkin offers an alternative strategy. She shows how biblical thinking helps readers understand the conditions of their hearts so that they can find freedom in true spiritual growth through the wisdom of the Word and the power of the Holy Spirit. I highly recommend it.

Dr. Chris Brauns, pastor of The Red Brick Church and author of Unpacking Forgiveness and Bound Together

When you start out reading a book for an endorsement and it becomes your Bible study, that is a good sign. Instead of making notes about how good the book is, I found myself writing down how God was using Shannons words to address the heart of my own control issues.ControlGirl is helping me solidify my foundation as a Jesus Girl, giving me confidence to practice surrender first and be OK with God not answering all my questions.

Jen Ferguson, coauthor of Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couples Journey to Freedom from Pornography

If youve ever struggled with control issues, read this book. With personal vulnerability, biblical depth, powerful personal illustrations, and pointed application questions, Shannon Popkin reveals how seven women of the Bible can teach us how to surrender our will to Gods design for our future. Its ideal for personal use or for small-group studies.

Carol Kent, speaker and author of Becoming a Woman of Influence

Psst You there the one with the control issues. I know you have a craving to control. We all do. We have since the garden of Eden, but theres hope! In this funny, tender, and truth-telling book, Shannon Popkin peels back the layers of our control problem. If that sounds a bit like a root canal, wait until you crack the cover. In a tone that feels like coffee with a close friend, Shannon bravely goes first, letting us see the reality of her own need to control while simultaneously pointing us to the hope found in Gods Word. You will find your heart warming, your lips smiling, and your fists unclenching as Shannon leads you away from control and toward sweet surrender. A must-read for every woman east of the garden.

Erin Davis, author, blogger, and recovering Control Girl

Shannon gets painfully honest and to the point as she challenges all of us Control Girls to surrender that burden and experience the Happy Ending God has planned! She takes us through the lives of seven women from Scripture to help us discern more readily when we are grabbing for control rather than walking in the rest that Christ provides.

Kimberly Wagner, author of Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior and coauthor of Men Who Love Fierce Women

Delightful. Insightful. Helpful. Popkins sweet blend of storytelling and Scripture helps the medicine go down. If youre a control freak, this study is just what the doctor ordered.

Mary A. Kassian, author of Girls Gone Wise

Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible

2017 by Shannon Popkin

Published by Kregel Publications, a division of Kregel, Inc., 2450 Oak Industrial Dr. NE, Grand Rapids, MI 49505.

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All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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To Ken

who inspires me to become

a Jesus Girl

K EN : T HANKS for loving me, leading me, and letting me share my message. Youre the ink in my pen. Lindsay, Cole, and Cade: My sweet kids, I love you so. Thanks for having love that always hopes and always perseveres, even when Im not at my best (but boys, you know it makes it worse when you sing the Control Girl song). May you always fly to Jesus with your every need. My parents: Im so proud to claim you. Dad, youre the kind of father I wish every girl had. Mom, your gracious way of serving, giving, and loving inspires me to be a Jesus Girl.

Chris and Jamie Brauns: Your friendship is a gift. Chris, you may deserve credit for first discovering my inner Control Girl with a McDonalds cup in hand. Thanks for inspiring me to write and investing in me for so many years. Jamie, thanks for helping me sort out life while I sort laundry. This book, in large part, is a recap of our conversations. Jackie VanDyke: From the junior high bus to trails and treadmills, were on this journey together. Your input, both on what the Bible says and how to live its message, is such a gift to me. Angela Gebhard: Thanks for loving me and my family. Your love for Jesus makes me want to love him more. My favorite visits with you are when we cry. Cindy Bultema: Your confetti-like encouragement is catching. Thanks for taking me under your wing and inspiring me to keep going. Del and Deb Fehsenfeld: God has blessed me so much with your encouragement and writing guidance over the years.