Businessman Company - Power of Self-Control: How to Build Self-Control Habits and Take Charge of Your Life

Power of Self-Control:

How to Build Self Control Habits and Take Charge of your Life

Businessman Company

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We live in a world that is designed for the strong individuals, not the weak ones.

Introduction

Once upon a time, there was a child who passed some elephants. He noticed that there was an elephant tied to a rope. It was clear that the elephant can break free any time he wants to, but for some reason, he didnt. Therefore, he went to the hunter to ask him about the reason behind this.

Child: Why doesnt the elephant make any effort to run away?

Hunter: Good question! We all know that the elephant is strong, dont we? However, when this elephant was very young and much smaller than now, I used the same size rope to tie him and that was enough to keep him in his place. As he grew up, he started to believe that he cant break away and that he will be for ever stuck. He believes that he is weak and the rope can still hold him, so he never tries to break away.

What is the purpose of this story?

Most people get programmed since early childhood to behave in a certain way, walk in a certain way, and talk in a certain way. Many folks start to form opinions and beliefs based on what others tell them. They stay stuck in their comfort zone and never try to challenge the beliefs that they believe in just like the elephant in the above story.

Therefore, we start to find that divorce is on the rise, many companies go bankrupt, and friends lose each others. We also see folks who experience headaches, heart attacks, ulcer, worry, anxiety, and stress on the rise due to negative programming.

My dear reader, are you like the above type? If so, you can put an end to negative programming right now. You and I can learn to change this negative programming with something else so we can live happily and so we can reach our desires.

However, this change can only by made by making a firm decision to change. It is your decision that will change your life for the better.

You have to realize that any change begins within. It begins with your way of thinking which will give you mental wealth that will help you to lead a happy life.

This guide is not designed to be only read, but to be used as well. When you learn to apply the information in this book to your life, you will begin to free yourself from the prison that you have put yourself in and you will learn to have more self-control. So let us start the journey together, shall we?

Self-Talk

Do you sometimes hear an internal voice calling you as if someone else is talking to you?

Did you ever try to wake up early to finish a project and start hearing two internal voices coming from you; one that encourages you to get up and the other voice encourages you to stay a sleep? Which voice usually wins?

Do you remember a time where you had to get up to exercise, but an internal voice made you stay sitting down instead?

Do you ever talk to yourself? We are all humans that think and talk. Do you talk to yourself with a loud voice?

Imagine that while you are having a tough discussion with your manager at work, you started to think to yourself He is stupid! I hate him

Maybe you have gone through a negative experience that has caused you some pain or negativity and from time to time; you hear a voice that reminds you of this experience and makes you relive the same emotion?

Let me ask you; if your manager at work asked to see you in his office first thing in the morning on Monday; what will you start to think?

You might start asking yourself many questions such as:

What does he want from me?

Why does he want to see me?

Is he going to fire me?

What did I do wrong?

You start to focus on all the negativities and expect something bad to happen, correct?

Isnt possible to control your self-talk and start thinking to yourself thoughts like:

How much raise is he going to give me?

I doubt that you start thinking this way right now. You might also go home and start fighting with your partner which could cause both of you tension.

My dear reader, more than 90% of the negative expectations that you believe are going to happen will never happen. One of the Universities in California did a study about self-talk in 1983 and what they found was that 80% from what we say to ourselves tend to be negative and works against us. Imagine how this would affect us in the long run.

What the study also found that more than 75% from our negative self-talk tend to cause us high blood pressure, ulcer, heart attacks, and many other kinds of illnesses.

There are 5 sources that affect your self talk:

1. Your parents

Do you remember the statements that your parents told you when you were a child such as You are lazy, You are messy and not organized, You are stupid.

If you are from the majority, then I have big news for you; as a person you have heard more than 148,000 NOs until the age of 18. Imagine, 148,000 times.

2. School

If you go back in your memory to the time when you were a child, you probably will remember a time where you have experienced a negative remark from one of your teachers or classmates.

3. Friends

Friends tend to affect each other constantly and learn bad habits such as smoking, drinking, and drugs. In reality, most smokers have learned to smoke in their teens from the peer pressure that they feel from age 8-15

4. Media

According to one of the studies, teenagers tend to spend 39 hours every week to watch television. If the teens see a singer or an actor behave in a specific way, they try to imitate him even though the behavior might be negative.

5. You

In addition to the 4 factors mentioned above, you also program yourself constantly. Your regular self talk can affect you to feel happy and successful.

Three levels of self talk

Now, lets talk about the three levels of self-talk:

1. Inner Fear

Inner fear is the most dangerous level of self talk as it makes you lose hope and makes you feel incompetent. Inner fear usually is good at sending you negative signs that will stand in your way from reaching your goals in life such as: Im shy, Im weak, my memory is weak, I cant lose weight, I cant quit smoking as I tried many times and failed, I cant wake up early in the morning, I cant speak in front of others, and many other none-sense excuses.

This is what people usually do is send negative signs to their subconscious mind until the negative signs become to be part of their beliefs, which affect their behaviors and emotions.