Shannon Kubiak Primicerio - The Divine Dance. If the World is Your Stage, Who Are You Performing For?

The
Divine Dance

Books by
Shannon Kubiak Primicerio
FROM BETHANY HOUSE PUBLISHERS

Being a Girl Who Leads
Being a Girl Who Loves
Being a Girl Who Serves
The Divine Dance
God Called a Girl
Life. Now.*

If the world is your stage,
who are you performing for?

The
Divine Dance

SHANNON
KUBIAK PRIMICERIO

The Divine Dance
Copyright 2006
Shannon Kubiak Primicerio

Cover design by Jennifer Parker

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Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438

Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan.

Printed in the United States of America

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Primicerio, Shannon Kubiak.
The divine dance : if the world is your stage, who are you performing for? / Shannon Kubiak Primicerio.
p. cm.
Summary: Recognizing that teen girls spend much of their time trying to please their friends, parents, and teachers, Primicerio encourages these girls to stop performing for the world and start dancing for the One who mattersProvided by publisher.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7642-0343-5 (pbk.)
ISBN-10: 0-7642-0343-6 (pbk.)
1. Teenage girlsReligious life. 2. Self-actualization (Psychology)Religious aspectsChristianity. 3. Self-perception in adolescenceReligious aspects Christianity. I. Title.
BV4551.3.P775 2006
248.8'33dc22

2006031682

To Mom, Dad, Darlin, and Papa
thanks for being the loudest of my balcony people.
I love you guys!

And for my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ
thanks for setting my heart to the rhythm of writing and
for giving me the chance to dance. I love you so much!

A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

I have no explanation for how it happened, really. The story of how I got published has been recounted thousands of times in the last three years, and for some reason it never loses its wonder. The only explanation for it is that it was a God thing. Only twenty years old when I first wrote The Divine Dance, I had no idea if anyone would ever want to print it, and I definitely didnt have any credentials to write a book. All I did was tell my story.

And one by one people began to tell me that this is their story too. The numbers now reach into the thousands. Girls and women everywhere seem to feel the same pressures I felt (and still feel) to perform for other people. We all seem to have critics and fans that fill the auditoriums of our lives. All of us have closets jam-packed with pretty costumes and glittery masks that we tend to hide behind. Every single one of us wants to be somebody special. Yet none of us feel like we are.

Thus the performance begins. Step by step we begin dancing our way through life, hoping that someone will notice all of our hard work and make it all worth it. We want someone to clap; we want someone to cheer. We want someone to give us a standing ovation and throw roses at our feet. We want to be princesses. And even more than that, we want to be loved. So we dance, and we dance, and we keep on dancing until we are worn out and there is nothing left.

Four years have passed since I wrote this book, and my life is very different now. Back then I was a college student wanting to fall in love, wanting to graduate, wanting to dance for someone who cared. Now Im a college graduate, a wife, and the author of more than a handful of other books. Yes, life is different now. But the choices are still the same: I can dance for God or I can dance for the crowd.

This book was initially written as a book for teens. And in its truest form, it still is. But I have received far too many e-mails from women in their twenties, thirties, fortieseven seventiesto believe that only teens will read it. No matter how many books I write in my lifetime, this will remain the one dearest to my heart. The Divine Dance is my life message. Writing this book brought me to freedom. Continuing to live out its purpose is what keeps me free. It is a lesson for women of any age.

We all dance for somebody. And if dancing for the crowd has brought you tired and weary to these pages for the first time, welcome. If you are an old friend who has come back to be reminded of the message that has already touched so many, welcome back. The message of this book is one we all need to hear over and over again.

Thats why when the opportunity arose to reprint this book with Bethany House Publishers, I chose not to alter the content of the book at all. The text remains exactly as it was when it was first publishedonly some study questions and dancing steps have been added at the end of each chapter to aid you in your journey as you dance with the Lord.

May the following pages bring you the freedom you so desperately seek as you learn to accept Gods grace. May you rest in His peace as you turn your back to the crowd and learn what it means to dance for the Audience of One.

Grace and peace,

Shannon Kubiak Primicerio
June 7, 2006

FOREWORD

All the fairy tales are true, you know.

There is a real Prince. He came from the vast kingdom of His Father with one purpose: to woo and win His long-sought-after bride. One day, He will return to carry her away, and they will be together forever.

Thousands of stories, movies, and songs tell this story. All of them have borrowed the theme from one book: the Bible.

Several years ago I was on a live radio interview where the host started by saying, How can you call yourself a Christian and write romance novels? In that moment (after gulping mightily), I had a piercing thought.

Its because when I was in high school I read a book that changed my life, I answered. In the first few chapters everything falls apart and you think theyre never going to get back together. About three-quarters of the way through the book, He moves heaven and earth to prove His love for her, and still she wont come wholeheartedly to Him. But finallyin the last chapterHe comes riding in on a white horse and takes her away to be His bride and live with him forever.

The radio host scoffed. How could a book like that change your life? It sounds like a formula romance novel to me.

I grinned and said, Really? Thats funnybecause I was talking about the Bible. Theres a white horse and everything.

The host froze. Radio listeners everywhere caught nothing but dead air.

Its all true, I said plainly. God is the Relentless Lover and we are His first love. He never gives up on us because He wants us back.

We cut to a station break rather abruptly, and the radio host looked at me through teary eyes. Youre right. I never saw it that way before.

For nearly two decades I have been sharing this truth with young women under the cover of novels. Forty of them, to be exact. When I read