Manguso - Ongoingness : the end of a diary

the end of a diary

Graywolf Press

Copyright 2015 by Sarah Manguso

The quoted lines on are excerpted from When You Are Old by William Butler Yeats.

This publication is made possible, in part, by the voters of Minnesota through a Minnesota State Arts Board Operating Support grant, thanks to a legislative appropriation from the arts and cultural heritage fund, and through a grant from the Wells Fargo Foundation Minnesota. Significant support has also been provided by Target, the McKnight Foundation, Amazon.com, and other generous contributions from foundations, corporations, and individuals. To these organizations and individuals we offer our heartfelt thanks.

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ISBN 978-1-55597-703-0

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First Graywolf Printing, 2015

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For Adam

I started keeping a diary twenty-five years ago. Its eight hundred thousand words long.

I didnt want to lose anything. That was my main problem. I couldnt face the end of a day without a record of everything that had ever happened.

I wrote about myself so I wouldnt become paralyzed by ruminationso I could stop thinking about what had happened and be done with it.

More than that, I wrote so I could say I was truly paying attention. Experience in itself wasnt enough. The diary was my defense against waking up at the end of my life and realizing Id missed it.

Imagining life without the diary, even one week without it, spurred a panic that I might as well be dead.

The trouble was that I failed to record so much.

Id write about a few moments, but the surrounding timethere was so much of it! So much apparent nothing I ignored, that I treated as empty time between the memorable moments.

Despite my continuous effortin public, in private, in the middle of the night, and in moving vehiclesI knew I couldnt replicate my whole life in language. I knew that most of it would follow my body into oblivion.

From the beginning, I knew the diary wasnt working, but I couldnt stop writing. I couldnt think of any other way to avoid getting lost in time.

I tried to record each moment, but time isnt made of moments; it contains moments. There is more to it than moments.

So I tried to pay close attention to what seemed like empty time. I made my writing students sit silently for twenty, thirty, forty minutes. Then we all wrote about the almost nothing that had happened. I was always running between the classroom and the photocopier so we could read, right away, about the almost nothing that had just happened.

I wanted to comprehend my own position in time so I could use my evolving self as completely and as usefully as possible. I didnt want to go lurching around, half-awake, unaware of the work I owed the world, work I didnt want to live without doing.

To write a diary is to make a series of choices about what to omit, what to forget.

A memorable sandwich, an unmemorable flight of stairs. A memorable bit of conversation surrounded by chatter that no one records.

Why do people keep diaries? Prisoners, explorers, regentsof course. But there are so many others, nobly addressing the entire future.

I was one of the others, but I wasnt writing to anyone.

Inside the cover of one notebook I copied some lines of poetry as a love letter to my future self:

When you are old and grey and full of sleep ,

And nodding by the fire, take down this book ,

And slowly read, and dream of the soft look

Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep

Hypergraphia , the overwhelming urge to write. Graphomania , the obsessive impulse to write. Look up the famous cases if youre interested. Nothing about them ever helped me with my problem.

Like many girls I was given a diary. The book bore pictures of teddy bears on every page. I wrote in it every now and then out of a sense of duty.

When I was nine I brought the diary to the beach where I went with my parents every summer. My mother reminded me to write in it each night. I didnt enjoy the task and remember her dictating lines like In the old town center, the shops keep their doors open for all to see.

I didnt need a diary then. I wasnt yet aware of how much I was forgetting.

I meet people who consider diary keeping as virtuous as daily exercise or prayer or charity. Ive tried for years , they say. I start a diary every January. Or I dont have the discipline. They imagine I have willpower or strength of character. It would be harder for me not to write it , I try to explain. It doesnt feel like (in one friends words) a big fat piece of homework. I write the diary instead of taking exercise, performing remunerative work, or volunteering my time to the unlucky. Its a vice.

I started keeping the diary in earnest when I started finding myself in moments that were too full.

At an art opening in the late eighties, I held a plastic cup of wine and stood in front of a painting next to a friend I loved. It was all too much.

I stayed partly contained in the moment until that night, when I wrote down everything that had happened and everything I remembered thinking while it had happened and everything I thought while recording what I remembered had happened.

It wasnt the first time Id had to do that, but as I wrote about the art opening I realized my self-documentation would have to become a daily (more than daily?) practice.