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Praise for I KNOW IM IN THERE SOMEWHERE
... a valuable and important book for all the women who have been told they are too needy or emotional, who remember powerful urges only as distant relics from girlhood, or who wonder where their strong sense of self disappears to whenever they get in a relationship. Brenners realistic approach flies in the face of many self-help techniques... Innovative advice like this, along with Brenners no-nonsense style... make this book a user-friendly guide to discovering the wisdom we each carry within ourselves.
Body & Soul magazine
This is the self-help book women have been waiting fora book that understands women and their emotions, inside and out. This wise, healing book offers women a profound process to discover and to trust their inner truths, and at the same time, deal positively with the people who matter most in their lives. I Know Im in There Somewhere is a must for real women living in the real world, looking for ways to hold on to their authentic selves in the midst of imperfect lives and relationships.
Laura Davis, author of The Courage to Heal
We humans have been accumulating inner wisdom and increasing goodness for several million years. How is it that we so easily lose touch with this side of who we are? Dr. Helene Brenner has done something very important. She shows us how to identify our inner powers and strengths and live from them. Listen up, men: This ones for you too.
Larry Dossey, M.D., executive editor, Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine; author of Healing Beyond the Body, Reinventing Medicine, and Healing Words
Helene Brenners book, I Know Im in There Somewhere, touches all the truths I am aware of. The minute I picked it up and began to read it I knew she was aware of what every woman needs to know and live. I have learned from my work with cancer patients that the women who internalize feelings and live the role of good girl are more likely to develop breast cancer and other afflictions. This book can help you become fearless, start living an authentic life, and save you from a host of afflictions.
Bernie Siegel, M.D., author of Love, Medicine & Miracles and Prescriptions for Living
I Know Im In There Somewhere is the kind of book that stays with you long after you read it, that will stay on your night table to be consulted again and again. I highly recommend it!
Joan Borysenko, author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy Women: Balancing Work, Family and Your Inner Life
I Know Im in There Somewhere offers a rich, practical guide for finding and following ones true self, for learning self-acceptance and strength. Using womens stories, advice, and self-exploratory exercises, this gifted therapist gives startling new ways for women to access and liberate their deepest selves.
Dana Crowley Jack, author of Silencing the Self: Women and Depression and Behind the Mask: Destruction and Creativity in Womens Aggression
This breathtakingly insightful book could be subtitled Womans Search for Meaning. Like Frankls classic, it is a deeply thoughtful exploration of how we can come to peace with ourselves and the world around us. Intensely readable and psychologically sound, readers will see themselves on every page through the authors real-life stories that illuminate her immediately useful, yet gentle, suggestions. Read it and reap.
Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! and Whats Holding You Back?
If theres only one book you read this year, let it be this one. Put yourself in the hands of a wise and gentle Master Therapist who can help you awaken the power and clarity youve always known you could feel... but didnt know how. Many books say they can change your lifethis one really will.
Ann Weiser Cornell, author of The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing
Brenner offers women realistic ways to pursue dreams, encouraging them to accept and interpret their feeling and then guiding them into action... it is empowering.
Eleanor Stables, The Washingtonian
Helene G. Brenner, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and the director of Womens Counseling and Psychological Services in Frederick and Bethesda, Maryland. She is a master therapist and seminar leader who has used the ideas and methods described in this book to help hundreds of women experience the fulfillment of living from their true selves and Inner Voices.
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