Neely Steinberg, Ed.M.
Skin In the Game: Unleashing Your Inner Entrepreneur to Find Love
A Love TREP Publishing Book | 2013
Published by The Love TREP Publishing
Boston, MA
All rights reserved
Copyright 2013 by Neely Steinberg
The Love TREP is a registered trademark with the USPTO.
Cover design: Avery Managhas
ISBN-13: 978-0989723503 (The Love TREP)
ISBN-10: 098972350X
Printed in the United States of America
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Dedicated to the following people who helped me on my entrepreneurial journey to find love:
My parents, Nancy and Stephen, and my brother, Randy, for helping shape me into the person I am today. My friendsyou know who you arefor giving me the love and support I needed when times were tough. My longtime therapist, Dr. Cohen, for being a sounding board and an empathetic listener, for being a voice of reason, for holding up a mirror when I needed one, and for aiding in my growth as a woman and a human being trying to live a more connected, happy life.
And to Dave, the love of my life, the man to whom my entrepreneurial journey steered me. Your support, advice, encouragement, and all the other wonderful things youve given me that defy description, mean the world to me. Your love has empowered me to write this book and believe so strongly in its contents. I love you.
(I Am An Entrepreneur Manifesto. Reprinted with permission.)
Created by Matt Cheuvront.
- The above manifesto can be purchased as a poster here: http://store.coolpeoplecare.org/collections/posters/products/i-am-an-entrepreneur-poster
Who Should Read This Book?
W hen you picked up this book, perhaps you were expecting a few anecdotes and touchy-feely catchphrases to start things out, and if this is what you are looking for, there are many, many dating books out there that will appeal to you. But this book espouses a different approach. This book is written for women who are ready for love and willing to work for it. Women who arent afraid to take a few risks or turn the mirror on themselves and look inside. If you wanted to learn how to renovate your house, would you rely on anecdotal advice, or would you seek out a well-researched, clearly explained, step-by-step guide that gives you all the information you need to leap in and take charge yourself? Renovating your approach to dating can be handled much the same way, and I wrote this book to show you the way, the entrepreneurial way.
As you will soon read, I advocate a trial and error approach to dating. That is the entrepreneurial way. This approach may take time. You may need to date entrepreneurially for a year before meeting that special man. For others, it will take longer. And some of you may meet your match within a few months of finishing this book. Everyone is unique, and were all at different levels of self-awareness and self-growth. I dont believe in dating systems that claim to help you find your partner within a very specific amount of time. Ive purchased those books. And while they can be helpful in certain ways, I dont believe in putting an exact timeframe on a persons dating journey. Just know this: If you really make the time and effort to do the Action Steps outlined in this book, I believe you will create the results you want in your life in a healthy, measured way that is right for you.
Disclaimers
All names and identifying information pertaining to real-life persons and dating anecdotes have been changed in the pages that follow to protect identities.
All opinions expressed herein are my own and not those of any other person or entity, unless explicitly stated.
T he entrepreneurial way is at its core a method based on action and forward motion. As a dating coach who advocates an action-oriented approach, this is precisely why I believe entrepreneurship is such a worthy field for singles to draw from. I want you to always think of yourself as being in forward motion when it comes to your dating and love life, and that every step you takebe it big or smallis a part of that forward motion (even the ones you feel were mistakes). To that end, there is a section dedicated to Action Steps at the end of each chapter, which you should work on as you progress through these pages. First, though, I encourage you to read the book in its entirety without interruption.
(*SIDEBARS! Note: In the paperback version of this book, I have sidebars peppered throughout. The sidebars offer extra tips, suggestions, explanations, definitions, affirmations, pep talks, and much more. Due to ebook formatting issues, I have had to include these sidebars within the body of the text. You will know its a sidebar when you see a *, the font size is smaller, and the text is set in a box and parentheses.)
Having lived in the world of entrepreneurship education for so many years, this is an area with which I am well acquainted, but I understand that the majority of readers are new to entrepreneurship and its concepts and will thus benefit from giving the book a once-through read without too much stopping and starting. Theres a lot to digest about both dating and entrepreneurship within the pages that follow, so I encourage you first to enjoy the reading process, familiarize yourself with the subject of entrepreneurship, and understand generally how the different components will work in your dating and love life. Once youve finished a first pass, you can dive in, one chapter at a time, and start working on the Action Steps. If you are so inclined, please purchase the workbook for Skin In the Game, which is available on Amazon or through my website (www.thelovetrep.com). The 200-page workbook will be an excellent resource for you as you embark on your entrepreneurial journey. It recaps major concepts from this book and outlines detailed instructions for all of the Action Steps within each chapter. The workbook allows you to complete all of the Action Steps (exercises, journaling, etc.) in one place.
(*Action Steps. Use the action steps at the end of each chapter to keep you moving forward.)
To be successful in your entrepreneurial journey to find love, it is important that you complete the Action Steps as outlined in each chapter, and do them in sequential order, especially in Parts I and II. For instance, you cant jump into the various exercises in chapter 5 (Part II) if you havent started the process of removing obstacles, as outlined in chapter 3 (Part I). Part III will help facilitate the work you are doing in Part II.
I strongly encourage you to follow my recommendations, but if you do choose to skip around a bit, it is my sincere hope that you take away something by employing the entrepreneurial mindset and approach in your dating and love life. I truly believe the entrepreneurial way is a force that can transform lives, so much so that Ive based my dating coaching business, The Love TREP, around it. (Trep is common shorthand for entrepreneur.) If you take away just one insight that has the power to make a difference in your dating and love life, then I believe I have succeeded as a dating coach. It is also my hope that this book inspires you to get excited again about dating and the prospect of finding love. As you become a Love TREP,