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Holding brain science in one hand and rich emotional presence in the other, this book feels timely and necessary.Shauna Niequist, New York Times bestselling author of Present Over Perfect
Why is there such a gap between what you want to do and what you actually do? The host of Ask Science Mike explains why our desires and our real lives are so wildly differentand what you can do to close the gap.
For thousands of years, scientists, philosophers, and self-help gurus have wrestled with one of the basic conundrums of human life: Why do we do the things we do? Or, rather, why do we so often not do the things we want to do? As a podcast host whose voice goes out to millions each month, Mike McHargue gets countless emails from people seeking to understand their own misbehaviorwhy we binge on Netflix when we know taking a walk outside would be better for us, or why we argue politics on Facebook when our real friends live just down the street. Everyone wants to be a good person, but few of us, twenty years into the new millennium, have any idea how to do that. In Youre a Miracle (and a Pain in the Ass), McHargue addresses these issues. We like to think were in control of our thoughts and decisions, he writes, but science has shown that a host of competing impulses, emotions, and environmental factors are at play in every action we undertake. Touching on his podcast listeners most pressing questions, from relationships and ethics to stress and mental health, and sharing some of the biggest triumphs and hardships from his own life, McHargue shows us how some of our qualities that seem most frustratingincluding negative emotions like sadness, anger, and anxietyare actually key to helping humans survive and thrive. In doing so, he invites us on a path of self-understanding and, ultimately, self-acceptance. Youre a Miracle (and a Pain in the Ass) is a guided tour through the mystery of human consciousness, showing readers how to live more at peace with themselves in a complex world.

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Copyright 2020 by Mike McHargue

All rights reserved.

Published in the United States by Convergent Books, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.

CONVERGENT BOOKS is a registered trademark and its C colophon is a trademark of Penguin Random House LLC.

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Names: McHargue, Mike, author.

Title: Youre a miracle (and a pain in the ass) / Mike McHargue.

Description: New York: Convergent, [2020] | Includes index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2019048567 (print) | LCCN 2019048568 (ebook) | ISBN 9781984823243 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781984823250 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Self-acceptance. | Self-realization. | Self-management (Psychology)

Classification: LCC BF575.S37 M43 2020 (print) | LCC BF575.S37 (ebook) |

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LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2019048567

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2019048568

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Contents

In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.

F RED R OGERS , The World According to Mister Rogers

Authors Note
(You Dont Want to Skip This One)

Dear Reader,

Last spring, I watched a butterfly emerge from its cocoon in my front garden. I was struck by how it struggled. The tiny creature often stopped, presumably out of exhaustion, even on this critical threshold of its metamorphosis from caterpillar to a creature that can soar through the air. At times, I was concerned it wouldnt make it at all.

Forgive me if this seems presumptuous, but I think I know how the little bug felt. In many ways, this book is my own cocoon, spun from words and paper instead of silk. A couple years ago, when I started writing it and exploring the science of why we struggle to change our behavior, I was self-assured in a peculiar way: finding confidence not in my mastery of life, but in my capacity to surrender to it. But life has a way of challenging the stories we tell ourselves to survive, and the past eighteen months have been a metamorphosis for me. I have been through loss and grief, a medical diagnosis, and a mental health crisis, and lost all the money I spent a lifetime saving. If youre going to read this book, you and I will spend many hours togetherand for that to work, I have to be honest with you at the beginning.

This is a dangerous book. The process of researching and applying its insightsfrom psychology and sociology to neuroscience and behavioral economicschanged my life in dramatic and unexpected ways. There has been pain, struggle, and loss. In the pages that follow, Im going to be honest about what Ive learned, in the hope that it might help anyone else whos fighting to emerge from their own cocoon.

Parts of this book could be a tough read, depending on how your life has unfolded. I write about my experiences with trauma and suicidal thoughts, and if youve got some scar tissue, my stories may bring up pain. (Youll find that the opening of the book sets the stage for honesty.) Take a break if you need it. You can set this book down anytime youd like. Ive included ample resting points in the flow of the text to help. Ill be here, in these pages, whenever you need me, so there is no need to rush.

Finally, while the stories I tell in this book are based on real events, Ive sometimes reordered them, combined separate events together, and offered my recollections of what other people said, all for the sake of time and readability. Consider them based on a true story, as they say across town in Hollywood.

Im so excited to share this book with you.

Peace, Love, Entropy,

Mike McHargue, or Science Mike

Los Angeles, California, 2019

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Why Did I Do That?
The Battle of You vs. You

The barrel of a shotgun tastes like pocket change and fireworks. The flavor is overwhelming, like a battery pressed to your tongue, though the taste and aroma are quickly matched by the discomfort of what it takes, physically, to put such an instrument in your mouth.

After placing the stock of the weapon on the ground, you lean forward and awkwardly bow your head, as if in prayer. If your goal is suicideand it must be, or why else are you pointing a shotgun at your head?you want to make sure as much shot as possible passes through your brain. So, still leaning forward, you lift your forehead into a less penitent posture. The result is pain, with the barrel smashing against your teeth and jabbing into the gums behind them.

Shotguns are called long guns for a reason. With the barrel in your mouth, you cant reach the trigger while maintaining the critical head-to-barrel angle. My solution to this problem was improvised: I slipped off my right shoe and put my toe on the trigger. Doing so stretched my hip flexors uncomfortably and put strain on my knee. Ive never liked pain, but I could cope with this discomfort. In a few seconds, I wouldnt feel anything ever again.

I was sixteen years old, and tired of pain, rejection, and fear. My heart ached so much, and so constantly, that I didnt want to have a heart anymore. So here I was, sitting in my parents bedroom with my fathers hunting gun in my mouth. I took a deep, smoky, metallic breath and pushed the trigger with my toe.


I FELT THE clunk even more than I heard it. It reverberated through my teeth and into my skull.

Ill never forget that feeling, the ultimate anticlimax. Confusion washed over me, bordering on panic. How was I alive? Turns out, Id cocked the gun successfully but hadnt loaded it right. I was saved by my ignorance of guns, and too afraid to try again. My heartbeat hit triple digits as I fell on the brown carpeted floor and sobbed.

I hadnt been an obvious candidate for a suicide attempt. I was a lanky teenager who played in a band and had a lot of friends. My parents loved me and provided a lifestyle that was comfortably middle class. I had a car and everything. My life looked about as stable and secure as adolescence can be.

Lying on the floor that day, I couldnt believe that Id pulled the trigger. Taking ones own life goes against some of our most powerful instincts, those for living and self-preservation. This is why, when someone attempts suicide, the most obvious response for the people closest to them is to ask the unanswerable question, Why? For people like me, howeverthose who have survived suicide attemptstheres an additional, equally puzzling question: Did I really want to die?

The answer seems clear. After all, Id put a loaded gun in my mouth and pulled the trigger. But if Id really wanted to die, why hadnt I picked up the shotgun, troubleshooted the problem, and then tried again? How could I want to die badly enough to pull a trigger once, but not twice?

Why, instead, did I lie on the floor, full of grief and shame, lamenting that I had failed even at killing myself, while feeling thrilled by the tears on my cheeks because those tears meant I was still alive? How could I be happy at the same time I wished to be dead?

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