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This book is a how-to guide to the concepts and skills at the heart of consensual dominance. If you are new to dominance, still figuring out just what its all about or what you want it to mean to you, then this book will provide you with a solid foundation from which to start. If you already practice dominance and are interested in improving your ability to create deep and lasting power dynamics then youll find many advanced concepts and concrete techniques to integrate into your own personal style.
What consensual dominance means here is any kind of intentional, mutually desired, mutually fulfilling exercise of power and control between partners. There are a lot of different kinds of connections that fit that broad definition, and the fundamental principles that this book explores can be applied to any of them. So it should be just as valuable whether you practice dominance in occasional intense evenings within an otherwise egalitarian relationship, in a full-time power exchange relationship, in long distance or online relationships, in pick-up play with strangers at BDSM clubs, or anywhere else.
This book also doesnt assume that you fit any stereotype about what a person who dominates should look or act like. It looks at dominance as a practice -- as something that any person can learn to do, rather than something that some people are -- and it is meant for anyone with a desire to learn to practice dominance well. It is written to be accessible to absolute beginners, as well as to switches and primals and tops and mommies and daddies and bigs and masters and trainers and Goreans and heads-of-house and owners and label-defying powerplayers. (And dont worry if you have no idea what any of those labels means dominance has nothing to do with labels.)
If you have an interest in the bedrock principles of inspiring, deepening, maintaining and enjoying control over a person who dearly, desperately wants you to control them, then this book is for you.

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What People are Saying about The Heart of Dominance

"Absolutely the best, most grounded book Ive read on the topic of consensual dominance and submission. If Id had this book a quarter century ago, it would have saved me (and my partners!) untold frustration. Other books teach you how to tie a clove hitch or where to hit with a paddle, but Heart of Dominance gets to the core of consensual power imbalance. From the most nurturing of ageplay scenarios to the harshest of owner/property lifestyles, it explains the process by which the desires of two people, each with their own histories, needs and limits, can be transformed into the stuff of steamy and seamless erotic power play.

- Janet W. Hardy , author and educator

"The world of erotic power dynamic play, usually referred to as dominance and submission, is often mired in lots of misguided and ego-based advice. Not this book. Here you have a balanced, grounded and realistic examination of the topic. No pontificating dictates. No directives from some mythological past. Instead, the author beautifully rolls out a clear explanation of what such play is and is not and how to make it hot, fun and safe. If youre a seasoned player in this realm of kink, this book will likely further inspire your explorations. If youre a newcomer interested in this topic, this would undoubtedly be one of the first books I suggest you read."

- Race Bannon , writer, speaker and activist

"Wow! I just learned a lot reading The Heart of Dominance. This is way more than a manual! The depth of information Mr. Fulmen offers to those interested in this path of interpersonal power will serve D/s players all the way from scene explorations, to 24/7 consensual lifestyle. I love his down to earth compassionate focus, explanations and practical advice. From forging and maintaining connection, attention to desire, safety, competence, transparency and the deep insights he shares clearly show his respect and understanding of D/s dynamics."

- Cleo Dubois , BDSM educator and ritualist


The Heart of Dominance

By Anton Fulmen


Copyright 2017 Anton Fulmen

All Rights Reserved

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Acknowledgements

Ive been to a lot of classes and workshops on dominance. Ive read a lot of books, followed a few blogs and gotten to observe some excellent role models. But where Ive really learned the most has been alongside the people whove explored, experimented, played and danced the dance with me. Credit for the wisdom and experience in these pages goes to those who have been my partners: ann, jezzie, Pele, toy, Willow, Yv, and others with whom I shared time that was shorter but no less precious.

I also owe gratitude to all those who read my drafts and gave me the benefit of their perspective and ideas.


Table of Contents

1. Introduction

What and Who This Book Is For

The book you are holding is a how-to guide to the concepts and skills at the heart of consensual dominance. If you are new to dominance, still figuring out just what it's all about or what you want it to mean to you, then this book will provide you with a solid foundation from which to start. If you already practice dominance and are interested in improving your ability to create deep and lasting power dynamics then you'll find many advanced concepts and concrete techniques to integrate into your own personal style.

What consensual dominance means here is any kind of intentional, mutually desired, mutually fulfilling exercise of power and control between partners . There are a lot of different kinds of connections that fit that broad definition, and the fundamental principles that this book explores can be applied to any of them. So it should be just as valuable whether you practice dominance in occasional intense evenings within an otherwise egalitarian relationship, in a full-time power exchange relationship, in long distance or online relationships, in pick-up play with strangers at BDSM clubs, or anywhere else.

This book also doesn't assume that you identify as "a dominant," or that you conform to any stereotype about what a person who dominates should look or act like. It looks at dominance as a practiceas something that any person can learn to do, rather than something that some people areand it is meant for anyone with a desire to learn to practice dominance well. It is written to be accessible to absolute beginners, as well as to switches and primals and tops and mommies and daddies and bigs and masters and trainers and Goreans and heads-of-house and owners and label-defying powerfuckers. (And don't worry if you have no idea what any of those labels meansdominance has nothing to do with labels.)

If you have an interest in the bedrock principles of inspiring, deepening, maintaining and enjoying control over a person who dearly, desperately wants you to control them, then this book is for you.

The Reluctant Dominant

One thing this book does assume is that you want to dominate. If someone else has slipped this book under your pillow because they want you to dominate, but you aren't sure whether or not you're into the idea, then it may or may not be useful for you.

The book takes a broad view of dominance and will introduce you to many varied ways of doing it, as well as debunking some distasteful myths that sometimes turn people off of the idea. If you have any undiscovered or unexplored passion for dominance, this is a good place to feel out that latent interest.

On the other hand, many people simply have no interest in practicing consensual dominance. They might be perfectly capable of taking command in any number of situations, but they don't get excitement or fulfillment from commanding their partners. If you read this book and it all leaves you cold, that's okay. Not wanting to dominate doesn't make you less powerful or less capable or less anything, except maybe less of a match for someone who craves domination.

There are all kinds of things that make perfect sense to do for a partner's sake. If your partner loves Indian food, you can learn to cook a mean vindaloo even if you really prefer burgers. If your partner really, really, really wants you to dance with them, you can take dancing lessons and learn to do it and go out and dance with them just because it makes them happy. If your partner fantasizes about being tied up, the giving and loving thing to do is learn some ropework, even if you've no particular interest in it yourself.

But dominance is different. Often the very core of what a person is wanting from submission to you is to please you, or make you proud, or meet your expectations. What they need is directly connected to your passion for dominating them . They want to be subject to your desires. They want to feel used as a toy for your gratification. If you're making up rules that you don't enjoy having to enforce, issuing orders that you don't really care if they obey, or having them crawl around on all fours just to cater to their desire to be dominatedit will often be unsatisfying for them as well as for you.

My advice is to not practice dominance solely to please someone else (though certainly most of us do enjoy pleasing our partners). Don't let yourself be wheedled or pressured into practicing dominance. Don't do it because you want to impress someone. Don't do it because you're afraid your partner will leave you if you don't. Don't do it to avoid looking weak or because you think you should want it.

Instead, read this book with an eye toward the wide diversity of different styles and flavors in which dominance can be practiced, and look for a kind of dominance that speaks to you, one that you think might feed you, that you could get really invested in and really want to explore. Then try dominating in line with that true dominant drive.

If you don't find any such drive, again: that's perfectly okay. And in that case the most genuinely dominant thing to do is say "no thanks; this isn't for me."

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