P RAISE FOR
When Perfect Isnt Enough
Move over, Lucy Ricardo; here comes Nancy Kennedy! I wish I could say I loved reading about Nancys foible-prone life because its so unlike my own, but the truth is I can relate far too well! The good news is that Nancys insights into what it means to be an imperfect woman loved by a perfect God left me feeling encouraged and even grateful, although Ill probably never look at chicken salad the same way again.
K AREN L INAMEN , author of Im Not Suffering from Insanity Im Enjoying Every Minute of It!
When Perfect Isnt Enough gave me hope that Proverbs 31 is not just a postcard from the spiritual, virtue-al heights, but a truth that authentic women can live out every day. Nancys ability to combine rich, biblical insight with her everywoman antics provides a lift for the mind and spirit. (If only it could do the same for my body)
A NITA R ENFROE , comedienne and songwriter
If you want a read that will make you laugh out louda read that actually describes your life in a way youve not yet confessedthen your next read should be When Perfect Isnt Enough. Nancy Kennedy may not be perfect, but now I can laugh and even rejoice in the fact that Im not perfect either. You will love this book!
L INDA E VANS S HEPHERD , author, speaker, radio host, and founder of Right to the Heart of Women
If youre tired of the condemnation, guilt, and obsessiveness that often accompany religion, youre going to love this book. I know its for women and Im a guy, but as I read this book, Im reminded of Gods love, his acceptance, his grace, and his laughter. Guys need that too. Nancy Kennedy is a major benediction!
S TEVE B ROWN , author and professor at Reformed Seminary in Orlando, Florida
Contents
1 Next on Oprah: The Virtuous Woman and Those of Us
Whod Like to Wring Her Perfect Little Neck
A Note to My Readers
I n 1995 someone from a publishing company called and asked if I would like to write a book for them. At first I laughed.
I dont know how to write a book! I told the woman. Up to that moment, I had only written funny stories for magazines like Christian Parenting Today and Marriage Partnership. So they assigned me a talented editor, Shari MacDonald Strong, who helped me shape those stories into a book: Help! Im Being Intimidated by the Proverbs 31 Woman.
Seven years and six books later, that first fearful plunge into the world of book publishing has been one of my most requested books. Im pleased that WaterBrook Press is publishing it as When Perfect Isnt Enough, with the same stories as the original version, plus added devotional and study material.
I want to thank everyone who wrote and requested this book after it went out of print. That means a lot to me. God has been so gracious.
Speaking of Gods graciousness, I feel the need to inform you that many of the stories in this book have been fictionalized for humors sake and illustration. Poetic license, if you will. But the point illustrated in each storythat Gods grace covers all our shortcomingsis no fiction but wonderfully true.
Now as you begin reading this book, my prayer is that you will hear Gods voice assuring you that he loves you dearly, just as you are, and that in Christ you have already been made perfect.
Proverbs 31:1031
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her howehold;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Introduction
Dear Mrs. Proverbs Thirty-One Woman,
I must confess, I never really thought much about you until recently. To be honest, Ive always tried to avoid you. Please dont take this personallyIm sure youre a lovely woman. I mean, your husband praises you, and your children rise up and call you blessed, and all (and next to my mom, you probably make the worlds best apple pie).
What I want to know is, how do you do it? How do you get up early, bring food from afar, plant a vineyard, speak with wisdom, make coverings for your bed, build up your biceps, and do all the other stuff? Do you take vitamins plus iron plus calcium plus minerals? If not, then whats your secret?
Does your husband ever leave his orange peels wrapped up in a dish-towel so that when you pick it up the peels fly all over the floor? How do you find time for him at the end of a long day? Does he always consider you worth more than rubies?
Tell me, Mrs. P., are you content with your life? Do you have any regrets? Do you ever feel like changing your name and not telling anybody because you justcantdoanotherthing?
Frankly, I find your list of daily activities rather intimidating. I wish I could do everything you do (with the exception of holding a distaff and grasping a spindlemainly because I dont know what they are), but I dont see how I could possibly squeeze one more thing into my already busy schedule. When do you find time to consider a field and buy it? Before you extend your hand to the needy? After you watch over the affairs of your household? And what do you look for, anyway, when you consider a field for possible purchase?