This book is a collective set of opinions from our experience and expertise and is not meant to be perceived as clinical or doctoral advice. We do not purport to be doctors or psychologists; rather, we offer our opinions about what works today to create fabulous relationships. All names and identifying details have been changed in the illustrative and composite stories and case studies in this book.
This book is not meant to take the place of a licensed professional. If you feel you are in need of medical or psychological advice regarding your personal relationships, we encourage you to take care of yourself and get the help that you need.
INTRODUCTION
Do you wish your man would open up more about his feelings, conquer his commitment-phobia, be more generous and more affectionate, wax his unibrow, stop scarfing bacon burgers, propose already, take you on a romantic weekend getaway, tell you he loves you more often, and surprise you with flowers just because?
Of course you do!
And why?
Because you love him. Unfortunately, thanks to Mr. Darcy, Mr. Big, Dr. McDreamy, and all those other Mr. Perfect heroes in Cinderella-like tales, women have been duped. We've spent our entire lives being told that when we meet Mr. Right, he'll fall madly in love with us, put a sparkling ring on our finger and he'll also clean up after himself, dote on us, romance us, remember to call when he's going to be late (yet again), and that everything will be roses and chocolate-dipped strawberries for all eternity. But no such luck. Suddenly, Mr. Wonderful is not so perfect after all. He needs serious alterations and fast before you lose your mind.
If this scenario sounds familiar, you're not alone. The good news is that we've found a way for you to get what you want from your man and your relationship. Welcome to a new method of communication: Man Whispering.
The key to changing the course of your relationship starts and stops with you and the words you use to communicate with your man. Learning to Man Whisper means that you have to start to think, speak, and act differently than you have been in the past and the payoff is that Man Whispering actually gets your man to do the things you've always wanted him to do, all the while getting him to think it was his brilliant idea to do so all along!
In a desperate attempt to make our boyfriends, fiancs, or husbands more like the Mr. Perfect we thought we were committing to, many women pick up the nasty habits of nagging, demanding, cajoling, and more nagging in order to get our men to do what we want them to do. The result? Not what we thought it would be. It turns out (surprise!) that nagging does not get our men off the couch and springing into action. Instead nagging only results in men looking for more excuses to escape from us and honestly, who can blame them? Nagging makes a man feel like he is a loser who can't do a damn thing right not your Prince Charming. And nagging only leads you to become yet another disillusioned woman taking out the garbage herself and wondering what the heck is wrong with her man. Nag and nobody wins!
Yet when you learn how to Man Whisper, fairy tales do come true. You'll have your man eating out of the palm of your hand and you'll be lavished with his time and attention in the most generous ways without begging, resentment, or backlash. (It's true!)
In fact, it's actually within a man's DNA to behave like the dreamboat you've always wanted him to be you just need to learn how to bring it out of him. Men actually want to fix things, take care of you, be your knight in shining armor, clean the pool (probably not in a Speedo, but hey, Man Whispering has been known to get men to do just about anything to please women), fix the sink, and do whatever it is you request of them. Why? Because men want to please you.
The good news is that Man Whispering doesn't involve complicated strategies, intimidating theories, games, or manipulation. Instead it's simply a shift in your perspective and in the words you use, how you phrase them, and the way you lay out requests. You'll love it, and he will too we guarantee it. And after you learn the methods in this book, we promise that other women will corner you in bars and stalk you on the street wanting to learn your secrets with men. Because when you learn how to whisper to his mind, body, and spirit, a man wants to make you happy the way you always dreamed a man would.
So whether you're dating a new man, are in a long-term relationship, are hitched, or fall somewhere in between, you can start Man Whispering right now. In fact, it can turn your relationship around no matter how far south or sour you fear it's gone. You'll start enjoying the benefit of a more balanced and complementary romantic relationship that you've long wished for.
So what are you waiting for? Read on and start whispering!
PART 1
Whispering to Relationship Bliss
CHAPTER 1
The Man Whisperer Method
Five steps to getting what you want from a man (every single time!)
The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he is a baby.
NATALIE WOOD
You can't change a man. But a man can change!
DONNA AND SAM
What Is Man Whispering?
Man Whispering is a new way of communicating with men that makes them want to turn off the TV, tell their buddies next time! when they're invited to a poker game, and put down that beer to give you their full attention. Finally he will no longer think of you as his ball and chain. Instead, you'll become his beloved girlfriend, wife, or fiance. He'll be genuinely excited to spend the rest of his life with you, dote on you, want to listen to you in a caring, thoughtful way!