Adams Media - Sexual Positions: Your guide to incredible, exhilarating, sensational sex

The Secrets of Great Sex books are concise guides, focusing on only the essential information you need. Whether youre looking for a new sex position to try, need advice about achieving real intimacy, or want to know how to please your partner, theres a Secrets of Great Sex book for you!

As George Michael once sang, Sex is natural, sex is fun. While both statements may be true, it may not always feel that way. Yes, sex is a natural, biological process as old as mankind, but for many peopleespecially those who are self-conscious in the bedroomsex (good sex, at least) may not seem to come naturally. And if you are worried, anxious, self-conscious, or otherwise distracted, sex probably wont be much fun, either.

The good news is, great sex isnt an impossible feat. In fact, it may be much more attainable than you may think. It may take a little bit of effort and perhaps a little practice (which will be fun, I promise!) but before you know it, your sex life will be better than you ever dreamed possible.

The truth is, you probably already have the basic ingredients for a terrific sexual experience: desire, passion, primal urges, and a willing partner. Most likely, you are letting yourself get way too hung up on technique (or your perceived lack thereof) and how you insert Tab A into Slot B. Fortunately, thats stuff you can easily learn, if you have the motivation and dedication. And, since youve made the effort to pick up this book, Im assuming you are indeed eager to learn. Thats half the battle.

Exploring and learning about our sexual nature comes easily to some people and seems challenging to many others. We arent taught much about sex unless we were lucky enough to have parents who werent afraid to talk about it. Young people learn about sex from their peers or from experimentation. The older a person gets before he has experienced some kind of sexual encounter, the more ill-equipped that person will feel upon actually entering a sexual relationship.

When we feel well informed, practiced, and excited about sex, it becomes an awesome experience. We are born with all the right equipment for sex. What we need is a sort of an owners manuala guide to help us learn, give us ideas with which to experiment, and supply the guidelines to let us know that we are on the right track.

Every couple and every sexual encounter a couple has is unique. It may not feel that way to you right now, but, as you begin to learn more about your sexual nature, you will begin to observe the differences each time you make love. By doing this you will have a basis from which to expand even further. Becoming consciousbut not self-consciouswhile having sex is the key to having each separate experience feel new, exciting, and creative.

Each one of us is responsible for our own sexual happiness. It isnt our lovers responsibility, though it is wonderful if we feel partnered with someone who wants to have sexual happiness, too. The Secrets of Great Sex series is designed with the goal of giving you every tool necessary to have a complete, satisfying, expansive sexual and sensual experience.

These guides will inform you for many years to come and provide the insight and knowledge you need for a future of great sex. A long life, a healthy life, a happy life, and a great sex life all go together!

If youd like to learn more about great sex, check out The Everything Great Sex Book, 2nd Edition , available in print (978-1-4405-0148-7) and eBook (978-1-4405-0149-4) formats.

New positions are possibly the best way to introduce variety and interest into a sexual relationship. They can be exciting, a little challenging, and often inspiring. There are really only a handful of basic positions, but there are many, many variations on each of the basic ones, and practicing variety will help any couple reach greater pleasure.

Many Eastern cultures believe that male and female energies run opposite to each other. The Taoists say that man pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) from his feet, up through his penis and then upward into his heart. Woman, on the other hand, takes her energy (yin) from the top, down through her heart and then to her genitals. Hence, the war of the sexesshe needs a heart connection before she has sex; he needs sex before he can have a heart connection. How do they proceed?

Your choice of positions can have a major influence on your yin/yang relationship. Yin is the receptive principle. Yang is the active principle. The position you choose, and its appropriateness for your particular needs, can make the difference in whether you experience a female/male energy dance or a war of the sexes.

When a woman opens up her sexual repertoire to include trying positions where she is on top and in control, she becomes the male principle or the yang in the sex act at that moment. This empowers her and can give her a growing confidence in taking a more sexually active role. When the male is on the bottom, he can move into his feminine yin side. This takes the heat off, so to speak. He can relax. He doesnt have to be in charge and perform. The simple act of trying a new position can often be transformative for a relationship.

Even the most experienced and mature lovers can always discover a new sexual move, technique, or position. This can be exciting, even if you currently enjoy a satisfying sex life. When you investigate a new position, you can count on having new things to talk about and learn together. Exploring new positions should be fun, and you should be prepared to communicate with your partner and laugh at yourself if you dont quite get it right away. Youll probably find that some positions will work well for you and some just wont at all.

The more positions you try out, the more your awkwardness or reluctance will disappear and the easier it will become to learn new ones. Youll find yourself becoming willing to try other new things with your lover. Thats what makes exploring different positions so important. This form of trying something new will often lead to a transformed sexual relationship. For couples who want to learn and add to their sexual repertoire, exploring new positions can be one of the best ways to do it.

Experimenting with different positions may also help solve the problem of the imperfect fit. That is, a woman with a large vagina may end up with a man who has a smaller penis. Or, on the contrary, a woman with a tight vagina may have a lover whose penis is too big for her, causing her pain during intercourse.

A couple that experiences these types of problems has to try new positions to get the very best out of their lovemaking. Positions that hurt the woman or dont allow her to move her hips and adjust her body to her partners are going to contribute to an uncomfortable sexual experience.

If the woman or man cant communicate problems like this, the couple may begin to shy away from sexual activity. This can be the beginning of a downhill swing in the relationship. The couple may never come out of it, all because neither person could say they werent comfortable with the way their sexual experiences were going. Exploring new positions can help.