Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male

The Rational Male

Rollo Tomassi

The Rational Male, first edition copyright 2013 Rollo Tomassi.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced without prior permission of the publisher and author.

ISBN: 1492777862

ISBN - 13: 978-1492777861

Published by Counterflow Media LLC, Nevada

Design and layout by Rollo Tomassi.

The Basics

There is no ONE 3

The Cardinal Rule of Relationships 8

Truth to Power9The Desire Dynamic13

Imagination14

Schedules of Mating16

Buffers20

Compensation22

Alpha25

Defining Alpha27

The Origins of Alpha30

The Contextual Alpha33

Plate Theory

Plate Theory I Abundance & Scarcity40

Plate Theory II Non-Exclusivity43

Plate Theory III Transitioning47

Plate Theory IV Goal-State Monogamy52

Plate Theory V Ladys Game55

Plate Theory VI Scarcity to Abundance58

Plugged In

AFC A verage Frustrated Chump63

Playing Friends65

Letting Go of Invisible Friends68

Enter White Knight70

The Honor System72

The Savior Schema74

Inter-gender Friendship76

Unplugging

Dispelling the Magic83 Identity Crisis85

Dream Girls and Children with Dynamite88

Kill the Beta90

Appreciation95

Dream Killers98

Have A Look101

The Five Stages of Unplugging103

The Bitter Taste of the Red Pill104

Game

The Evolution of Game111

Rewriting the Rules117

Navigating the SMP120

Just Be Yourself125

The Nice Guy - Jerk Spectrum128

Beta Game131

The Pheromonal Beta134

Dread Games138

The Meta Game141

Communication

The Medium is the Message147

Just Get It151

Dijo Sin Hablar154

The Horses Mouth155

Qualities of the Prince157

Social Conventions

Operative Social Conventions165

AFC Social Conventions170

The Paradox of Commitment174

Bitter Misogynists176

Hypergamy

The Disposables183

War Brides186

Mrs. Hyde188

Hypergamy Doesnt Care192

Relational Equity194

The Hypergamy Conspiracy197

Women & Regret200

The Pet202

The Iron Rules of Tomassi

Iron Rule I209

Iron Rule II212

Iron Rule III214

Iron Rule IV219

Iron Rule V221

Iron Rule VI224

Iron Rule VII228

Iron Rule VIII229

Iron Rule IX232

Mythology

The Myth of the Lonely Old Man239

The Myth of Women & Sex241

The Myth of the Good Girl244

The Myth of the Biological Clock247

The Myth of Male Looks249

The Myth of Feminine SMV253

Of Love and War257

The Feminine Imperative

The Feminine Reality265

The Feminine Mystique270

The Wall272

The Threat275

Positive Masculinity vs. Equalism278

Afterword

Contents

Introduction

In January of 2001 I was entering a state university for the first time in my life at the ripe age of 32. My relatively late-life enrollment was the result of a what I believed then was a misspent youth and I was atoning for the indiscretions of what I call my rock star 20s.
I had a lot of catching up to do thanks to the decisions Id made in my early and mid-twenties and a sense of incompleteness that I felt at the time.

In hindsight Im glad I did return to school, better late than never, because I was learning the intrinsic value of an education. I can remember listening to the grumblings of guys in my class who were ten years my junior saying, What the hell do I need to learn this shit for? It wont help me in the job Im studying for. I suppose I mightve felt the same way at 22 if I hadnt been more concerned with playing the next gig in the next band I was in on a weekend in Hollywood. I could never have appreciated the value of being an educated person. While a good job is definitely a concrete goal of bettering oneself, being educated, on a great many subjects, and learning how to learn, is its own reward.

Although I didnt attend a liberal arts university per se, my degree is in fine art. However after having worked in design, advertising, marketing and branding throughout my professional life I knew that my minor (if later a double major) had to be in psychology. My initial interest in psychology was due to the want of a better understanding of the often difficult personalities I was forced to deal with in my career, so personality studies and behaviorism was a natural fit for me. Much of what I have compiled in this book is the direct result of over a decade of applying these schools of psychology to the gender dynamics Ive experienced personally, as well as the collective experiences of millions of men around the world.

Connecting Dots

While I was studying psychology, I felt a natural attraction toward behaviorism. Like most people, I was peripherally familiar with the more touchy-feely branches of psychology like psycho-analysis and the sit down on the couch and lets talk about feelings applications most people associate with psychology. Behaviorism was a much more concrete approach; one based on behaviors and the motivators for them.

One of the primary foundations of Game-awareness is basing your estimation of a woman upon her actions and behaviors rather than her words or implied intents. This principle is founded in behaviorisms cardinal principle behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. Even motivations not consciously recognized by the actor can influence behavior regardless of a consciously rationalized motive. In other words, sometimes we dont realize why were hypocrites or saints as the case may be.

Coming to terms with this behavioral foundation was the first dot I connected between hard psychology and inter-gender dynamics. For roughly a year or two before I enrolled Id been actively posting on a few online forums attempting to help some young men with their girl problems.

Initially these forums werent in any way related to what would later become the community or Game oriented in nature. Id heard of the early Pick Up Artists like Mystery and a few others, but they werent promoting anything I hadnt already known from my more libertine rock star twenties. I was more interested in helping these guys not make the mistakes (for much of the same reasons) with women that I had.

However I just couldnt shake the feeling that there was a distinct connection between what these guys were going through, what the PUAs of the time were advocating and the behavioral psychology I was becoming more and more saturated in. The average Beta guys who were agonizing over their girlfriend problems and the behavioral basis upon which PUA techniques were founded on had a common root in psychology.

About this time I had joined the online community at SoSuave.com. This forum would become my testing ground for connecting the dots I was beginning to become aware of.
I should say that I did make an effort to propose that inter-gender relations were based in, sometimes harsh, behaviorism with colleagues and teachers. I was kind of taken aback more often than not when the same teachers who were promoting behavioral psychology as a hard science were the most outspoken critics of what I was brining to light for them.

I couldnt understand, then, what would possibly prevent them from connecting the dots and coming to the uncomfortable conclusions I was making. I know now, and you will too by the end of this book, but at the time I hadnt figured out the influence the feminine imperative and romantic idealism had on their willingness to accept what I was proposing in spite of their adherence to hard behaviorism.

My inquiries and hashing out theories and ideas would have to be done on a forum where I could look for input, or maybe find that other men had concepts I hadnt considered, in a meeting place of similar ideas. SoSuave was that forum for me for well over twelve years. Most of the concepts you will read in this book are the result of over a decade of debate, critical inquiry and refinement. However, in most cases, I still encourage their questioning and none are unmodifiable or above further refinement.