Tomassi - The Rational Male

The Rational Male

The Rational Male, first edition copyright 2013 Rollo Tomassi.

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ISBN: 1492777862

ISBN - 13: 978-1492777861

Published by Counterflow Media LLC, Nevada

Design and layout by Rollo Tomassi.

The Cardinal Rule of Relationships 8

Truth to Power 9 The Desire Dynamic 13

Imagination 14

Schedules of Mating 16

Buffers 20

Compensation 22

Alpha 25

Defining Alpha 27

The Origins of Alpha 30

The Contextual Alpha 33

Plate Theory I Abundance & Scarcity 40

Plate Theory II Non-Exclusivity 43

Plate Theory III Transitioning 47

Plate Theory IV Goal-State Monogamy 52

Plate Theory V Ladys Game 55

Plate Theory VI Scarcity to Abundance 58

AFC Average Frustrated Chump 63

Playing Friends 65

Letting Go of Invisible Friends 68

Enter White Knight 70

The Honor System 72

The Savior Schema 74

Intergender Friendship 76

Dispelling the Magic 83 Identity Crisis 85

Dream Girls and Children with Dynamite 88

Kill the Beta 90

Appreciation 95

Dream Killers 98

Have A Look 101

The Five Stages of Unplugging 103

The Bitter Taste of the Red Pill 104

Rewriting the Rules 117

Navigating the SMP 120

Just Be Yourself 125

The Nice Guy - Jerk Spectrum 128

Beta Game 131

The Pheromonal Beta 134

Dread Games 138

The Meta Game 141

The Medium is the Message 147

Just Get It 151

Dijo Sin Hablar 154

The Horses Mouth 155

Qualities of the Prince 157

AFC Social Conventions 170

The Paradox of Commitment 174

Bitter Misogynists 176

War Brides 186

Mrs. Hyde 188

Hypergamy Doesnt Care 192

Relational Equity 194

The Hypergamy Conspiracy 197

Women & Regret 200

The Pet 202

Iron Rule II 212

Iron Rule III 214

Iron Rule IV 219

Iron Rule V 221

Iron Rule VI 224

Iron Rule VII 228

Iron Rule VIII 229

Iron Rule IX 232

The Myth of the Lonely Old Man 239

The Myth of Women & Sex 241

The Myth of the Good Girl 244

The Myth of the Biological Clock 247

The Myth of Male Looks 249

The Myth of Feminine SMV 253

Of Love and War 257

The Feminine Mystique 270

The Wall 272

The Threat 275

Positive Masculinity vs. Equalism 278

Afterword

In January of 2001 I was entering a state university for the first time in my life at the ripe age of 32.

My relatively late-life enrollment was the result of a what I believed then was a misspent youth and I was atoning for the indiscretions of what I call my rock star 20s.

I had a lot of catching up to do thanks to the decisions Id made in my early and mid-twenties and a sense of incompleteness that I felt at the time.

In hindsight Im glad I did return to school, better late than never, because I was learning the intrinsic value of an education. I can remember listening to the grumblings of guys in my class who were ten years my junior saying, What the hell do I need to learn this shit for? It wont help me in the job Im studying for. I suppose I mightve felt the same way at 22 if I hadnt been more concerned with playing the next gig in the next band I was in on a weekend in Hollywood. I could never have appreciated the value of being an educated person. While a good job is definitely a concrete goal of bettering oneself, being educated, on a great many subjects, and learning how to learn, is its own reward.

Although I didnt attend a liberal arts university per se, my degree is in fine art. However after having worked in design, advertising, marketing and branding throughout my professional life I knew that my minor (if later a double major) had to be in psychology. My initial interest in psychology was due to the want of a better understanding of the often difficult personalities I was forced to deal with in my career, so personality studies and behaviorism was a natural fit for me. Much of what I have compiled in this book is the direct result of over a decade of applying these schools of psychology to the gender dynamics Ive experienced personally, as well as the collective experiences of millions of men around the world.

While I was studying psychology, I felt a natural attraction toward behaviorism. Like most people, I was peripherally familiar with the more touchy-feely branches of psychology like psycho-analysis and the sit down on the couch and lets talk about feelings applications most people associate with psychology. Behaviorism was a much more concrete approach; one based on behaviors and the motivators for them.

One of the primary foundations of Game-awareness is basing your estimation of a woman upon her actions and behaviors rather than her words or implied intents. This principle is founded in behaviorisms cardinal principle behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. Even motivations not consciously recognized by the actor can influence behavior regardless of a consciously rationalized motive. In other words, sometimes we dont realize why were hypocrites or saints as the case may be.

Coming to terms with this behavioral foundation was the first dot I connected between hard psychology and intergender dynamics. For roughly a year or two before I enrolled Id been actively posting on a few online forums attempting to help some young men with their girl problems.

Initially these forums werent in any way related to what would later become the community or Game oriented in nature. Id heard of the early Pick Up Artists like Mystery and a few others, but they werent promoting anything I hadnt already known from my more libertine rock star twenties. I was more interested in helping these guys not make the mistakes (for much of the same reasons) with women that I had.

However I just couldnt shake the feeling that there was a distinct connection between what these guys were going through, what the PUAs of the time were advocating and the behavioral psychology I was becoming more and more saturated in. The average Beta guys who were agonizing over their girlfriend problems and the behavioral basis upon which PUA techniques were founded on had a common root in psychology.

About this time I had joined the online community at SoSuave.com. This forum would become my testing ground for connecting the dots I was beginning to become aware of.

I should say that I did make an effort to propose that intergender relations were based in, sometimes harsh, behaviorism with colleagues and teachers. I was kind of taken aback more often than not when the same teachers who were promoting behavioral psychology as a hard science were the most outspoken critics of what I was brining to light for them.