Graham Masterton - How to Make Love Six Nights a Week

How to
Make Love
Six Nights
A Week

by
Graham Masterton

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First published in Great Britain in 1991 by Signet
Copyright 1991 Graham Masterton

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Do you get enough sex?

Enough meaning as much as you want, as often as you want, and as satisfying as you expect it to be?

Traditionally, its supposed to be men who are always complaining that they never get enough. And its true, yes, that a lot of men do feel sexually short-changed. The most common complaint is that after several years of marriageand particularly after the birth of a childtheir lovemaking simply peters out.

Shes always too tired. She just doesnt seem interested. She doesnt seem to get turned on any more.

But the striking part about it is that just as many women feel theyre not getting enough.

These days, hes interested only in his career. He never tries to seduce me. Hes always too tired, or too drunk, or too stressed.

The fact is that in thousands of marriages and sexual relationships, both partners feel that theyre not getting sex as often as they would ideally like. They dont always blame their love-partners. Sometimes they appreciate that work or children or other domestic circumstances can temporarily affect their sex lives, and that, for the time being, they have no alternative but to make the best of what they can get.

Yet in most cases, fairly or unfairly, they do hold their husband or wife or lover at least partially responsible. And when this happens, it is often a great deal more difficult for them to break out of the deadlock of silent resentment and help their sex life to flourish once more.

But how much sex is enough sex?

You may be surprised to discover that more and more modern sex counselors are beginning to believe thatideallyyou should at least consider the possibility of making love every single day; and sometimes more than once a day. Of course it wont always be possible. Its understandably difficult for a man to make love to his wife when hes on a sales trip in Cleveland, and shes back home in New Jersey. Sometimes one partner will have the flu, or a stomach ache, or be genuinely too tired.

But every day when youre together you should both think about expressing your affection for each other sexually, and if at all possible, you should do it.

There are many reasons why the frequency of your lovemaking can start to fall off. In this book, I shall examine those reasons in detail, and see how they can be quickly and effectively overcome. In other words, how you can have sex much more oftensix times a week, without any difficulty. And better sex, too. Wonderfully better sex.

One of the most common causes of anxiety and frustration is that women often fail to understand the normality of their sexual urges. They have been brought up to believe that there is something wrong in a woman wanting not just regular but frequent sex. The intensity of their sexual fantasies can shock them, too.

I was ashamed because I thought about sex almost all of the time, said Lois, of Silver Spring, Maryland. I used to have the dirtiest fantasies you could imagine, and of course I used to think that I was some kind of female pervert.

When I was waking up in the morning, I used to daydream about five or six men all making love to me at once. Can you imagine that? I had two huge cocks in my mouth, two huge cocks side-by-side in my pussy, and a fifth huge cock up my ass. I wanted them to stretch me, to force me wide open, to shove me and shake me and ram themselves right up into me. Then I wanted them all to come at once, filling up my mouth, filling my pussy, filling my ass.

This fantasy used to make me so wet and excited that I was ready to make love to Robert right then and there; but he always used to get out of bed around six oclock to go to work; and even on weekends he used to get up early. So he was never there to take advantage of the way I felt.

Because I was so frustrated I used to spend the rest of the day thinking about sex. I would have done absolutely anything for a good couple of hours in bed with Robert. I used to masturbate on and off for most of the day, either with my fingers, by tugging my panties up between my legs, or occasionally by using a shampoo bottle. Once I carved two huge carrots into the shape of cocks and lay stark naked on the livingroom rug and masturbated with them all afternoon. In the end I secretly bought a vibrator and used that. I used to call it Henry, would you believe?

I really began to think that I was mentally sick. It was only after I read one of your books that I realized that plenty of other women have sexual urges that are just as strong as mine and that theyre completely natural. The fault was partly Roberts because he didnt understand that a woman could need sex so much; and partly mine, because I was ashamed of the way I felt and didnt tell him.

Lois was lucky. After reading How To Drive Your Man Wild In Bed she was able to pluck up the confidence to explain to her husband how she felt, and he was not only understanding but aroused. In the last letter she sent me, she confessed that she still occasionally masturbates during the day, but only because she likes it, not because she needs to. She and Robert now make the time to have sex four or five times a week, and Henry has definitely been demoted to second fiddle.

When a relationship is subjected to any kind of stress, lovemaking invariably suffers first. The stress may have its origins in money, or career complications, or the problems of drink or drugs. Sometimes the stress can be caused by quite minor problems, such as tension about a forthcoming social event. But the effects on your sex life can be profound and long-lasting, and I have come across several relationships in which comparatively insignificant problems have been allowed to cut deep to the core of the couples sexual happiness.

The point is that both men and women do need frequent sex in a sexual relationship, and that it is neither shameful nor unusual to want to make love every day of the week. Another point to remember is that while your fantasies may seem extreme, you can actually be satisfied by quite straightforward lovemaking. In other words, while Lois might have fantasized about making love to several men several times, she was sexually quite satisfied with Robert making love to her just once.

Nor need you think that every act of love in a frequent-sex relationship has to qualify for an Earth-Moved Medal. It is not the Richter scale of your climaxes that you need to worry aboutor even having a climax at all. Its simply the fact of getting close together and sharing each others bodies. Of kissing, and caressing, and opening yourself physically and mentally to somebody who really cares about you. The closer a couple can be between the sheets, the closer they can be at all times.