Graham Masterton - Drive Him Wild

A Hands-on Guide to Pleasuring Your Man in Bed

by

Graham Masterton

These daysin spite of the fact that we live in a sexually outspoken societywe are more confused and anxious about sex than ever before.

Our greatest worry, of course, is the fear of contracting AIDS. And this fear has affected almost everybodys sexual behavior in one way or anotherfrom sexually awakening teenagers to solid married couples of many years standing.

Clear and sensible information about AIDS is widely availablefrom magazines, from educational leaflets, from TV documentariesright the way back to the historic thirty-six-page report on AIDS produced in 1986 by the surgeon general, Dr. C. Everett Koop.

But AIDS is still surrounded by superstition, myth, moral prejudice, and misunderstanding. Can you catch it from kissing, from door handles, from toilet seats? Can you catch it by sharing the same coffee spoon?

The specter of AIDS has had the tragic effect of making us afraid of sex and afraid of sexual pleasure. And, most of all, afraid of wild sexual pleasure.

Understandably, many religious and moral leaders have interpreted AIDS as a punishment for the wanton sexual behavior of the swinging sixties and the swapping seventies. They see it as Gods way of obliging us to return to abstinence, monogamy, and normal lovemaking.

They oppose the education of young people about safe sex, and in particular the distribution and advertising of condoms, because they regard them as a license to practice promiscuity, unnatural sexual acts, and homosexuality. Dr. Koop was labeled Dr. Condom and derided by conservatives as an advocate of safe sodomy.

A book on sexual excitement isnt the place for a discussion of the religious or moral implications of AIDS. But these days, people of all ages and all backgrounds have a greater interest in sex and sexual satisfaction. And they have a right to know just how much erotic pleasure they can safely enjoy.

Adolescents have greater freedom and privacy than ever before, and access to much more sexual education and sexual stimulationsuch as magazines and videos.

Women understand that they have as much right to erotic pleasure as menand erotic satisfaction, too. Twenty-five years ago, women used to write and ask me what an orgasm actually was. These days, more and more women ask me how can I make my orgasms even more intense? (And, yes, Ill tell you, a little later on.)

Men have learned much more about sex from magazines and movies, and realize that they have a responsibility to be skillful lovers and to satisfy the women in their lives. (And, yes, I have plenty of new and arousing ideas about that.)

Curiosity about sex is going through a tremendous resurgence. Sexually active men and women want to know what they can safely do to satisfy their natural erotic urges. The intensity of their curiosity is clearly indicated by the number of new sex manuals on the market and the release of scores of educational and not-so-educational videos.

I have personally received more letters during the past eighteen months than at any time in my quarter century of sex counseling, and (in different ways) all of those letters have asked me the same question: youve always advocated total sexual excitement. But is it still possible to have a really wild time in bed?

Heres Tracey, a thirty-three-year-old accountant from Denver, Colorado: Dear Graham I first read about oral sex in your book How to Drive Your Man Wild in Bed. I was very shy in those days, and although I knew about oral sex, I was not at all confident about how to do it. However after reading your book I learned to suck my husbands cock and became really good at it. Not only that, I enjoyed it, too so much that I used to do it to him two or three times a week, every week. Because of other reasons (not sex) my husband and I have now broken up, and Im dying to put my mouth around another mans cock. The problem is, Im really worried about AIDS. I used to love swallowing my husbands come, but what if I swallow a mans come and hes HIV-positive? Is that a risk, and if so, what precautions can I take, or do I have to stop swallowing altogether?

Heres John, a twenty-six-year-old architect from Tucson, Arizona: Dear Mr. Masterton sorry to be so formal Ive formed a relationship with the woman who lives next door. Ive been living with my parents ever since my last serious relationship broke up. The woman next door is married and eleven years older than me, but shes very sexy with a full figure and a wonderful sense of humor. Her husband is away for weeks at a time on business and weve been making love pretty much every day while hes been away. Of course Ive been using a condom, but Ive been scared to give her oral sex in case of AIDS. She keeps trying to coax me into going down on her and Id love to but what are the risks?

Heres Angela, a twenty-nine-year-old auto rental clerk from Cincinnati, Ohio: Dear Graham Masterton your book More Ways to Drive Your Man Wild in Bed really opened my eyes to exciting lovemaking. I tried out several of your techniques on my boyfriend, and he went crazy for them. The trouble is, Ive fallen for another man who works for the same airline as me. I think hes fantastically attractive, but he has a reputation for being a ladies man, and Im concerned in case sleeping with him might expose me to the risk of AIDS. How do I make sure that hes HIV-negative without upsetting him and killing the whole relationship stone dead before it even starts?

Heres Karen, a twenty-seven-year-old interior designer from Boston, Massachusetts: Dear Graham Im very frightened and I dont know where to turn for help, because my problem is a very personal and embarrassing one, too. About a month ago a girlfriend of mine allowed me to use her vacation home for a long weekend break. While I was looking for an alarm clock I discovered a vibrator in her nightstand, a really huge one in the shape of a mans penis. During the night, I took it out and masturbated with it, rubbing it around my vaginal lips and also inserting it right into my vagina. When I next met my girlfriend she told me that she had been diagnosed HIV-positive. Now of course Im terrified that Ive contracted AIDS from her vibrator, but I darent tell anybody because Im too ashamed to admit what I did.

Heres Jake, a thirty-two-year-old computer operator from Houston, Texas: Dear Graham Masterton Im kind of footloose when it comes to girls, and I probably date three or four different girls a year, and sleep with them whenever I get the chance. I always use a rubber because you never know what you might pick up even if it isnt AIDS it could be clap or some other kind of venereal disease. Lately Ive been dating a terrific girl called Sue who says she loves me madly and wants us to make love without a rubber. She says shes on the pill so theres no chance of her getting pregnant, but Im worried. My friends say shes slept around quite a bit. I dont want to lose her because shes something else one of the sexiest girls Ive ever known. Do you think I should risk it, and make love to her without a rubber, or what?

Heres Mary-Jane, a twenty-one-year-old waitress from Seattle, Washington: Dear Graham my fianc Paul introduced me to anal lovemaking and I have to say that for the first few times I found it very exciting and wanted to do it all the time. I just adore sitting on his lap with his big stiff cock right up my ass as far as it will go. But yesterday evening my friend told me that you get AIDS from anal lovemaking. Im real frightened that I might have caught it already because Paul and I have had anal intercourse so many times. What can I do? Im afraid to go to my doctor because hes a member of our church congregation and I know that he would think that Paul and me had been real wicked.