LETS IMAGINE...
Lets imagine you step outside to get some air and see one of your friends lying on the ground. Standing above her is a large, menacing man with bad intentions and clearly, he has incapacitated your friend with a surprise blow. Her eyes meet yours and indicate she needs help.
You could pray. You could meditate. You could chalk it up to bad karma. You could ask your friend to recognize that the attacker is a human and tell him that she loves him. You could blame patriarchy, the Republicans, or gangsta rap. You could ask yourself: What would Jesus do? What would the Dalai Lama do? What would Oprah do? You could try to remember that excellent saying about non-violence you got from your Pilates teacher.
You could stomp your foot to draw his attention downward and promptly whip out a finger jab to his eyes. When he brings his hands up (too late) to protect himself, he leaves his midsection exposed. You kick him in the ballsdoubling him overthen grab him by the hair and bring his face down into a powerful knee blow. Then you grab your friend and get the fuck out of there as fast as you can.
Learning how to fight and/or defend yourself is not the same as promoting belligerent, anti-social behavior. We live in an exceedingly violent society. Our films, books, TV shows, and video games glorify mayhem and carnage. Our leaders (sic) solve most of their problems through aggression... or the threat thereof. While talk of non-violence is understandable and the struggle for peace has never been more essential, lets face it: the odds are, that sooner or later youre going to end up in a confrontation that may escalate into physical violence. So, why not be prepared?
AWARENESS
Dont worry ... Im not talking about that kind of awareness (see below). Instead, our opening letter refers to how we navigate the terrains we encounter. If someone is planning to attack you, odds are that the plan hinges on taking you by surprise. Thus, if the first line of self-defense is prevention, your safety just may depend on how aware you appear to be. Not paranoid, not afraid ... but rather, a levelheaded state of alertness.
SUGGESTIONS:
When walking or jogging alone, dont wear an iPod
Vary your normal routes and routines
When asked for directions by a driver, maintain a safe distance from the car
Dont allow your gas tank to get too low. Running out of gas in an unfamiliar area is an unsafe situation.
Avoid poorly lit areas
See section entitled Weapons for possible weapons
If a car circles or passes you twice, let the driver know that youve noticed. Make eye contact and perhaps pull out your phone. The same goes for anyone who makes you nervousdriving or walking.
On another note: Everywhere I hear about the need to raise that other kind of awareness. So much so, that awareness and consciousness appear to have become ends in and of themselves. If only we were conscious of whats going in Darfur or aware of how prevalent cancer has become or whatever else we need to recognize, it seems most folks would be mighty satisfied.
My question: When exactly does all this goddamned awareness translate into productive action and tangible change?
Were aware of global warming and its causes, factory farms, war crimes, environmental degradation, political corruption, fixed elections, the health care crisis ... blah, blah, blah. We know about it. We talk about it. We write about it. We complain about it. We hold meetings, talks, seminars, and classes about it. We march about it. We make signs about it. Nothing changes.
LESSON#1: Awareness is overrated
LESSON#1: The current patterns of dissent in America are long overdue for re-evaluation and overhaul. The powers-that-be have long ago figured out how to either marginalize or co-opt dissent. Until our tactics evolve, we remain accomplices to the perpetual global crime we call civilization.
BITE
You dont have to be Mike Tyson or Bela Lugosi to appreciate the might of the molars. A well-timed and well-placed bite can take a chunk out of any attackers confidence. Anyone who chooses to assault you is fair game for a flesh breaking bite ... so open wide and dish out the pain.
If this sounds too harsh, consider the obvious: the life you save may be your own. (Image 2.1)
Image 2.1
CHEAT
The ideal scenario, of course, would be to stop a fight before it occurs. This could happen if you developed (or faked) a rep and thus intimidated your opponent(s); if you talked your way out of the situation; or if you simply ran like hell. But, if none of these reasonable options work, it makes a whole lot of sense to land the first shot.
Back in my juvenile delinquent days, there was a guy we called Ratt who earned hero status as a fighter thanks to one straightforward tac-ticlanding the first shot. At the first whiff of trouble, Ratt would snap out a hard right hand and I never saw anyone recover sufficiently to win the fight. This is not to say you start tossing haymakers every which way but loose, but theres a glorious logic to taking the offensive when all other options are denied. Plus, you send a powerful message to your opponent(s) when you demonstrate that youre willing to take things to the next level.