WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT
RIPENING TIME
Sherry Anderson opened one door when she co-authored The Feminine Face of God. Now she opens another. With honesty, wealth of experience, and penetrating questions, she leads us again. The issue, she says, is not to know the map [of elderhood], but to be the map. These writings are a rich and important resource for all who wonder how to reach the true harvest of their lives. You will not be disappointed.
Paula DArcy, author of Waking Up To This Day, and Gift of the Red Bird
This book is a harvest of shining wisdomearthy, funny, lyrical, and very human. Maturity, Anderson says, is as complex and rich as an old-vine wine. And it is hard workthe fruit of a life lived with honesty, soul, And care for others. Stand by and for what you love, she urges, and the miracle will happen!
Janine Canan, author of Messages from Amma and She Rises Like the Sun.
Here is the book Ive been waiting foran expression of hard-earnedwisdom that reveals aging as a journey of profound transformation.
Rabbi Shefa Gold, Author of The Magic of Hebrew Chant: Healing the Spirit, Transforming the Mind, and Deepening Love
Anderson explores the questions of maturity with depth, sensitivity, and humor, in a voice that is at once touchingly personal and deeply wise. A must read for anyone over 55.
Roger Housden, author of the best-selling Ten Poems series, and in 2014, Keeping the Faith Without a Religion.
Andersons beautifully written exploration of becoming an elder is a conversation that reverberates inside the reader.
Diane Wolkstein, author, Inanna, Queen of Heaven and Earth and The Magic Orange Tree.
Ripening Time invites the reader to engage the aging process with an imaginative boldnesschallenging the lies weve been told, confronting our fears and offering a compass for the years ahead. This is a book you will want to keep with you as you continue becoming a wise elder.
Nancy Sylvester, President of the Institute for Communal Contemplation and Dialogue; former President, Leadership Council for Women Religious.
The perfect book for baby boomers (and all who love us) on our next frontieraging. By sharing her personal quest and the art of inner inquiry, Sherry Anderson guides us outside our mind traps into the possibility of a grace-filled reality.
Jessica Britt, Founding Teacher, Diamond Approach North Sea (DANS), The Netherlands
Luminous, tender and wise, Sherry Andersons beautiful book encourages us to face what we so often avoidthe inevitability of our own aging. Without sugarcoating the hardships, she leads us into uncharted territory. Through her eyes, we realize that far from dark and dreadful, old age is a stage of life graced with gifts and blessings every bit as abundant as those of youth.
Jalaja Bonheim, author of Evolving Towards Peace
What great timing! As women are leaping ahead in assuming leadership roles, Anderson draws on her considerable experience and wisdom to offer a guide to growing wise and big-hearted, along with growing old. She teaches with great stories, leads by gently inviting and encourages with obvious love and care.
David Kundtz, author of Quiet Mind: One-Minute Retreats from a Busy World
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Other Titles
Crazy Talk: A Study of the Discourse of Schizophrenic Speakers by Sherry Rochester and J. R. Martin. Plenum Press: New York, 1979.
The Feminine Face of God: The Unfolding of the Sacred in Women by Sherry Ruth Anderson and Patricia Hopkins. Bantam Press: New York, 1991.
The Cultural Creatives: How 50 Million People Are Changing the World. Paul H. Ray, Ph.D. and Sherry Ruth Anderson, Ph.D. Harmony Books: New York, 2000.
A Womans Descent to the Sacred. 2011. Short Film. Available on http://www.awomansdescenttothesacred.com/watch.html and www.vimeo.com/25536781
This book is dedicated
with gratitude to my teachers
Hameed Ali (A.H. Almaas), Jeanne Hay,
and Seung Sahn Soen Sa Nim
and
with blessings to my goddaughters
Catherine Anderson Price and Hallelujah Adar Anderson
I love you, gentlest of Ways,
who ripened us as we wrestled with you.
~Rainer Maria Rilke, Rilkes Book of Hours,
translated by Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows
Prologue
Is there a Map?
About halfway through what I was calling My Year of Living Dangerously, a year I thought might stretch into permanent retirement with me languishing gloriously on the sofa reading novels and watching the wind shake through the poplars across the street, the matter of growing old came knocking on my door. It wasnt what you might thinksome bad news about a fall or the death of a dear friend or discovering overnight that I had developed jowls. It was a call, a wake-up and show-up and pay-attentioncall that I had not expected.
It happened on a Sunday morning in August as I was rolling up my sweaty yoga mat at the end of class. A tall, blonde woman I knew slightly asked if we could talk for a few minutes. We huddled in the corner as the next class of eager yoginis rushed past us to stake out their territory.
Im turning fifty at the end of this year, the woman said. I heard from some friends that you took them on a trip down the Colorado River in April. They told me you did a powerful ritual about becoming elders. I need that.
Wow, pretty direct, this beautiful woman, I thought. She knows what she wants. We walked outside, and I gave her a couple of ideas for creating an elders circle for her birthday. Call me if you want any help, I said.
A few weeks later the woman, Ill call her Eve, sent me an email. It was a little stiff, the way emails are between virtual strangers. You inspired me with your suggestion of how I might mark my fiftieth year and prepare for my entry into Cronehood. I would love to continue the conversation, if you were open to itthis last month has thrown me into some really interesting explorations of how to be in partnership, and yet not lose myself (that age old thing!).