Introvert hack
(More productivity in the quite way)
James Holt
Introvert hack Published by James Holt
ISBN: 978-1519582867
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Introduction
Every person seems to fall within a spectrum of a concept. One person prefers a well-done steak while another would not even go near it. He is right-handed, the other is left-handed or she likes dogs while the other only wants cats. There is nothing wrong with what part of the spectrum one belongs to but it is important to realize that this affects everything she does. An extravert cannot have a job promotion without throwing a party to celebrate while an introvert cannot imagine inviting a crowd in her quiet home just because her job title changed. The personality spectrum somehow dictates and predicts how an individual will react in certain situations, what to choose between two things, when to act on a decision, where to go during free time and who to befriend. It is a reflex sewn in the brain.
Carl Jung theorized that individuals cannot be high on one end of the spectrum without compromising the other end. A solitary-seeker effectively finds resolutions to complicated problems but they are not too keen on having to express the facts to anybody with flair and do it convincingly. Physical expression is the other end of the spectrum and the individuals who retreat mentally are deficient in it. Now, the word deficient is not an appealing way to describe an introverts characteristic. Just because some people can entertain, charm, and interact with others without so much of an effort, it does not mean that people unanimously want to be like them. In fact, the often perceptive but taciturn population does not understand how the expressives can be the way they are and are sometimes repulsed by their anti-boundary gestures. The taciturns love retreating to the comfort of their solitude because it recharges them with the energy they expend on other people and cannot imagine it any other way.
Many misconceptions about them are far from the truth. Their willingness to listen is not their way of being submissive. Their lack of remarks on every discussion is not a sign of stupidity and their refusal to constantly go out of the house to party is not them being anti-social. They have strength and undeniable intelligence in the quiet reserve they show and they are rising above social misconceptions. Notice how the word "spectrum" in used and not "category". Normal functioning individuals cannot be introverts or extroverts in the purest form. According to the pioneers of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment, Katherine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, individuals prefer one personality from the other but that does not imply that they are lacking the least preferred personality. Through Carl Jung's work, they theorized that although individuals prefer to use a certain approach in going about their day-to-day activities, they have the ability to shift to the necessary approach when the situation calls for it. A taciturn person can keep to herself within the 8 hours of work but when required to conduct a presentation and discuss with a group of people, she does so with confidence and professionalism. Training and exposure plays a huge part in this flexibility. People can be trained to act accordingly no matter what personality type they have.
The power of introverts is in their skill to observe and understand coupled with remarkable flexibility. Nowadays, they can no longer be defined in an absolute way. They have active lifestyles and are functioning members of the society. Contributing at work is already a must for them along with participating in non-compulsory events and enjoying their friends' company. Their exertion to become a contributor to a world that only looks warmly unto the expressives is becoming equal to their need of solitude. Now and again, though, they require rest from the expressives and recharge. They are still introverts, after all, and people interaction is still the cause of their energy diminution.
In this book, expect your knowledge about introversion and extraversion refreshed. It contains short passages that will allow you to get a glimpse of the everyday struggles of a somewhat extreme introvert and her dealings with extraverts. You will be provided with ways to know if you are among the introverts personality and on how you can optimize your wiring to succeed in an extrovert-ruled world.
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Its the vice presidents birthday party. Everyone should go, look nice, mingle and enjoy the free drinks. The free drinks and looking nice arent so bad. Its the mingling thats making her feel tired already. When she gets to the parking lot, its very important that theres a plan and practice the polite things she needs to say. Perhaps even think of a believable excuse to go home early. Its almost an unconscious ritual she does before going to the world of expressive people. It cant be helped because mingling needs to be donedone gracefully too if she likes to keep her job.
Hello. Thank you for inviting me.
Thanks for coming, said the host. There are other people behind her and they needed to be welcomed too. No small talk. Good. She can keep her energy up a while longer. First would be to acknowledge the presence of people she knows at the office.
Hi, she said to Maria.
Hey! she said to Michelle and;
Glad to see you here. to Rosalie.
She considered popping by Carl but he has the tendency to talk endlessly about his risky but rewarding business idea that hes been telling for a year now. It can be so draining to think about other ways to respond to him that she hasnt done yet. Shell talk to him when she needs to.
Second would be to recharge and those free drinks should not be kept waiting.
Third is to pretend to look at her phone or at the selection of books in the house so people would think shes busy. Its quite effective when trying to discourage people from making small talks. Later, she can go to the bathroom, a very safe place, after she talks to the host about how wonderful her home is and praise her on her motherly talents for raising beautiful children. As she makes and updates her plans, she hopes that her boss would get a glimpse of her at the party and do not deem her difficult because she came and mingled.