Book Tigers - Summary and Analysis of I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen

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Summary of I Hear You

I hear you, the surprisingly simple skill behind extraordinary relationships is a book by marketing expert Michael Sorensen that aims to teach the reader how to master the concept of validation.

Validation is a key tool to make our day to day relationships run smoothly. The author's focus is on the four-step validation method and uses real-life instances to relay his message brilliantly in this book. The author writes the introduction of the book and opens with a quote from H. Jackson Brown Jr to remind the reader that everyone has their own experiences in life peculiar to them. He proceeds to detail an encounter he had with a lady he went on a date with. He had picked her up from work and planned to keep the date simple then ask her over the weekend because she had a busy day.

She was disinterested in and distant from the date and kept showing signs that she did not want to be there. It came as a surprise to the author as she was the polar opposite of what she was when they met a week ago. Regardless of what he said or asked she just seemed uninterested.

After all his efforts, they got into the car and started to leave. While driving he asked her about her family. After a brief pause, she signified that it was a touchy subject that he understood and left that way. To the surprise of the author, she began to open up a few moments later.

Her parents were going through a divorce. He immediately tried to empathize with her but she said it was okay while putting up a tough front. He disagrees and tells her that parents going through a divorce cannot be okay rather it would be very tough.

She began to open up more freely and told him that after just a month of separation, her father is getting married to another woman in Hawaii and did not invite any of his children. He just sent her money.

After she opens up to him, the author tells her he has not gone through a similar experience but he imagines it would be very painful. She said everyone kept telling her to either move on or smile through the pain because things would get better which the author quickly noted never helps.

On top of all this, she has survived a car accident unscathed and had her sister diagnosed with cancer all in one week. He did all he could to let her know he felt her pain and she became very comfortable. After the date was over, he took her to her apartment. She thanked him for listening and apologized for dumping all that information on him, in return he thanked her for being open with him.

When he returned to his car, he started to think about how what began as a boring date turned into a powerful experience. Their relationship grew positively from there and she began to confide in him while he started to care for her more; there was more love. He noted in his journal that she felt comfortable with him because of his ability to validate her. She could breathe a breath of fresh air she had not been able to breathe in a while.

This was the moment the author realized just how powerful validation is and it was very exciting for him. It was his aha! moment. He had first learned this act of making someone feel heard and understood from his therapist whom he met occasionally over the years either personally or in group settings. She helped him manage all-round sectors of his life. Her focus was on showing people how to live powerful and connected lives. He recommends that everyone should have a good therapist.

From that point, he found himself deep in the opposite of the way people live their lives and it gave him more confidence as he practiced them often.

Before this encounter with Rachael, he had been less familiar with validation. He could identify when people wanted it and often gave it but was unaware that people were starved of it. It had worked on Rachaels countenance and it was an eye-opener for him.