Adams Kaye - Parent alert!: how to keep your kids safe online

1. TALKING TO YOUR KIDS
   Starting conversations and building trust between you and your kids
2. CREATING A HEALTHY TECH ENVIRONMENT
   Fostering a positive relationship between your kids and their devices
3. CHATTING ONLINE
   Teaching your child about talking to strangers
4. SOCIAL MEDIA
   What your child is viewing and posting on their favourite networking sites
5. CYBERBULLYING AND TROLLS
   How to block and disarm online bullies
6. CYBERSTALKING AND TRACKING
   How to keep your kids locations private
7. GROOMING
   Protecting your child from online predators
8. SEXTING
   The dangers of intimate texts and nude photos
9. PORNOGRAPHY AND VIOLENT CONTENT
   Guiding kids away from extreme material online
10. COERCION, EXTORTION, AND BLACKMAIL
    How to deal with threats and demands
11. ONLINE SHOPPING
    How to protect your child from fakes, fraud, theft, and scams
12. COSMETICS, DRUGS, AND LEGAL HIGHS
    The easy availability of dangerous and unregulated substances
13. SMART TECH AND TOYS
    How to protect your smart home from hackers
14. YOUR CHILDS DIGITAL FOOTPRINT
    The trail of personal information your child leaves on the internet
15. DEVICE SAFETY AND SECURITY
    Setting up devices and online accounts for maximum safety
16. ITS ALL GONE WRONG
    When you need to call in outside help

CONTENTS

TALKING TO YOUR KIDS
Starting conversations and building trust between you and your kids

CREATING A HEALTHY TECH ENVIRONMENT
Fostering a positive relationship between your kids and their devices

CHATTING ONLINE
Teaching your child about talking to strangers

SOCIAL MEDIA
What your child is viewing and posting on their favorite networking sites

CYBERBULLYING AND TROLLS
How to block and disarm online bullies

CYBERSTALKING AND TRACKING
How to keep your kids locations private

GROOMING
Protecting your child from online predators

SEXTING
The dangers of intimate texts and nude photos

PORNOGRAPHY AND VIOLENT CONTENT
Guiding kids away from extreme material online

COERCION, EXTORTION, AND BLACKMAIL
How to deal with threats and demands

ONLINE SHOPPING
How to protect your child from fakes, fraud, theft, and scams

COSMETICS, DRUGS, AND LEGAL HIGHS
The easy availability of dangerous and unregulated substances

SMART TECH AND TOYS
How to protect your smart home from hackers

YOUR CHILDS DIGITAL FOOTPRINT
The trail of personal information your child leaves on the Internet

DEVICE SAFETY AND SECURITY
Setting up devices and online accounts for maximum safety

ITS ALL GONE WRONG
When you need to call in outside help

Please Note: The information in this book has been compiled by way of general guidance in relation to the specific subjects addressed but is not a substitute and not to be relied on for legal or other professional advice on specific circumstances and in specific locations. So far as the authors are aware, the information given is correct and up to date as af the date of publication. Practice, laws, and regulations all change, and the reader should obtain up-to-date professional advice on any such issues. The authors and publishers disclaim, as far as the law allows, any liability arising directly or indirectly from the use, or misuse, of the information contained in this book.

What are they doing up there in their bedrooms on their phones? What are they looking at and listening to? Who are they talking to, and, more worryingly, who is talking to them? Are they being bullied? Are they being stalked? Are they being groomed? Would they be foolish enough to send compromising photos of themselves to some random person or say something that might haunt them for the rest of their lives? Will they turn out to be dysfunctional screen slaves, incapable of holding a normal conversation?

Nadia and I have these conversations all the time about our tweens and teens (four between us, aged between 10 and 15). We are not technophobes, and, to be absolutely honest, we could probably do with cutting down on our own screen time, but weve been around the block a few timesour daughters, however, are at a vulnerable age.

Weve had the chats about sex and alcohol and drugs and all the dangers that might arise from them, but at least we vaguely know what we are talking about in those departments. When it comes to the online world, we feel hopelessly naive and are struggling to keep up.

It was back in early summer 2017 that a major alarm bell went off. It was not long after Snapchat, the site most beloved of our older girls, introduced a new feature called Snap Map, which gives users the capability to track their friends whereabouts in real time.

We were blissfully ignorant of its existence until 14-year-old Maddie very patiently tried to explain it to Nadia. As the penny dropped, a bomb went off for us. Snap Map is a feature that allows young children to make themselves traceable at all times and in real time, showing not only their physical whereabouts and movements but also who they are with at any time.

The potential for mischief and misuse seemed to us to be immense, and, clearly, we were not alone.

We filmed a short Facebook video about Snap Map in which Nadia voiced her misgivings. It now has 28 MILLION hits! The video was shared hundreds of times and liked or commented on by more than 52,000 people.

To be fair, the response was polarized, with some people unconcerned about the level of exposure to risk Snap Maps gives, but there were many more who shared our concern.

It was then that we decided wed like to spread the word among parents like ourselves about the potential dangers of online activity for our kids.

We know we are never going to put the genie back into the bottle, nor would we want to. This high-tech world, which will always be slightly foreign to us, is all our kids have ever known. It is their natural habitat, but its still our job to help them navigate some of the more turbulent waters.

In reality, our little darlings might be able to whiz around a touch screen faster than we can count, but they dont always understand as much as they would have us believe, and their perception of potential danger tends to be casual, to say the least.

And thats where this book comes in. Its intended as a get-you-up-to-speed-quick manual for parents who want to be one step aheador at least on level-peggingwith their tech-savvy tweens and teens.

You cant protect them from risks if you dont know what those risks are.

To that end, we have partnered up with WONDERFUL WILL GEDDES! And, let us tell you, working with Will to put this book together has been one heck of an eye-opener for usa seemingly innocent calculator app that is actually a portal for secret contacts and messages?!

Who knew?!