THE
EVERYTHING
PARENT'S GUIDE TO
CHILDREN
WITH
ASPERGER'S
SYNDROME
Help, hope, and guidance
William Stillman
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Stillman, William
The everything parent's guide to children with Asperger's syndrome / William Stillman.
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ISBN 1-59337-153-5
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1. Asperger's syndrome. 2. Asperger's syndrome Patients Family relationships. 3. Parents of autistic children. I. Title: Parent's guide to children with Asperger's syndrome. II. Title. III. Series: Everything series.
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THE PARENT'S GUIDE TO Children with Asperger's Syndrome
Dear Reader,
When I was a little boy, I loved The Wizard of Oz more than anything. At every opportunity, I would endlessly recite related facts and statistics, or I would draw my favorite characters over and over again. However, as I grew, my passion remained constant while the interests of my peers became typical of preteens and adolescents. As you can imagine, this led to a number of social conflicts and challenges.
When I was growing up, there was no such term as Asperger's syndrome, at least not that anyone actively applied to my way of being. Fortunately, that has changed and today's parents desire information about Asperger's syndrome more than ever before.
The Everything Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome is a fresh, basic introduction for parents of children newly diagnosed with Asperger's.
I am grateful to many parents, kids, educators, and care- givers who have validated the contents of this book. And, along the way, I've had the good fortune to meet more than a few really cool little boys as equally passionate about The Wizard of Oz as I was!
Best wishes,
For Jay, my ally and protector
Welcome to THE
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THE EVERYTHING PARENT'S GUIDES are an extension of the bestselling Everything series in the parenting category. These family-friendly books are designed to be a one-stop guide for parents. If you want authoritative information on specific topics not fully covered in other books, THE EVERYTHING PARENT'S GUIDES are the perfect resource to ensure that you raise a healthy, confident child.
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Asperger's syndrome
Asperger's syndrome: the natural way by which some perceive the world from an alternate perspective and logic, creating misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and social challenges when one attempts to assimilate with the world at large.
All the examples and dialogues used in this book are fictional and have been created by the author to illustrate disciplinary situations.
Acknowledgments
I am grateful for the generosity and enthusiasm of the following people who helped make The Everything Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome possible: Debra Andreas; Kate Burgo; June Clark, literary agent extraordinaire; Dr. Michael Glew; Bill Kaiser, Police Training Specialist, Pennsylvania State Police Academy; Trieste Kennedy; Chris Khumprakob; Linda McCormick; Patrick Moore; Angela Uliana-Murphy, Esquire; Jim Murphy; Gina Rattle; Susan Rockwood; Noel Schaefer; Bonnie Schaefer; Richard Shull; Mark Sachnik; Dr. Barney Vincelette; Stephen Shore; and Barbara Scott-Mazza
Introduction
Long ago and far away, kids who drew detailed diagrams of spacecraft, created intricate models of the human digestive system, spent all their free time reading about medieval cathedrals, or enjoyed reciting complex dinosaur names and preferred those isolated activities over playtime with peers were labeled. The labels were a reflection of a so-called socially inappropriate desire to be absorbed with things, instead of people. Words often used to describe such kids may have included gifted, moody, antisocial, irritable, obsessed, geek, brainiac, or even stoic. They may have been thought of as outsiders, with no or few friends. As adults, they may have been considered odd and eccentric, loners or hermits.
Fortunately, today we are shifting our perception of what we now know to be Asperger's syndrome. We are learning more about Asperger's as a milder cousin on the autism spectrum. (Some equate Asperger's and the phrase high-functioning autism.) We are accepting Asperger's as a legitimate framework to describe a unique experience. Slowly but surely, we are moving beyond stereotypes in our collective understanding of children with Asperger's. We are recognizing their different ways of thinking, different ways of perceiving the world, and different ways of being. As we grow in our sensitivity and understanding, we are better able to support and celebrate the child with Asperger's syndrome. Instead of labeling a child as obsessed, we may now praise her giftedness and balance her needs to find a social niche.
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