Ken Bankston - The Discovery Game Booklet: The Next Step in Intimacy

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Congratulations on your decision to work together to build a marriage that will last a lifetime. The discovery Game is an incredible tool for developing and deepening physical and emotional intimacy within a marriage. It is our deepest desire that you have a great time together playing the game and that your marriage be blessed.

If you are newlyweds, The discovery Game can significantly aid you in your ability to learn of, and revel in, who you are about to spend the rest of your life with. For those that have been married awhile, The discovery Game is a means by which you can have fun, engage, and connect; it can also help you rediscover things that drew you to your spouse in the first place, as well as, helping you fall in love all over again.

Most couples have experienced an exciting period when it was difficult for them to even be apart. Think back to the days before you were married... it was a time of discovery. It was an exciting time when you laid the foundations of your relationship. This time was exciting largely because you focused on each other. You shared your soul with one another and talked about things that maybe seem too insignificant now to even warrant mention: favorite foods, music, and what you thought of your parents. It turns out, these seemingly insignificant topics are really the stuff of life. The sharing of ones soul in this manner is significant for both the beginning of a relationship, and the long-term efficacy of a successful marriage.

The discovery Game can benefit a couple greatly toward this end, and this booklet will likely assist you in going even deeper. If you have just opened The discovery Game and really want to play, then do so, but plan to spend some time, on another day, reading through the booklet together! Once again, congratulations on your decision to build an exciting marriage that will last a lifetime; and best wishes in your discovery!

On most pages, you will find numbers located in and/or under most paragraphs. These numbers point to further documentation on the content addressed in that paragraph. The targets for these numbers are located at the back of the booklet in the Where Do We Go From Here section.

For example, under most paragraphs, on the left, you will see something like: Ref: 1: 39. This would point to the 39th reference for resource #1. These types of references correlate with Bible verses, as reference #1 is the Bible. If you select one of these references, the associated Bible verse will pop up on the screen (depending on the capability of your device). You will then be able to see how the biblical text applies to what you have just read.

Also under most paragraphs, directly below the Bible references mentioned above, you will find [bracketed] numbers like this: . These numbers, also refer to additional resources (found at the back of the booklet) but of a different kind. These are marriage enrichment resources that speak to the very issues addressed in the previous paragraph. When you select one of these references, you will get a pop up, as before. In this popup you will see a brief description of the resource, the type of resource, its title, and the name of the author. The title in the popup is a link. If you select the link from within the pop up your devices browser will open to a web page where you may learn more about that resource (depending on the capability of your device).

Periodically, you will also see [bracketed] numbers within the paragraph. These are merely endnotes that reference clinical studies and other resources used in the research of this booklet. If you select these, you will get an informative popup (depending on the capability of your device).

On occasion, you may see a caution sign in the left margin. This denotes a caution from us to you, regarding interactions you may have with your spouse, with respect to the material you have just read. Please pay close attention to these cautionary statements!

Where you see an image of two game pawns cuddling, you will find information about the utility of The discovery Game, regarding the information you have just read.

Meeting Each Others Needs

Marriage is a wonderful opportunity to grow in love with someone who drives you wild in a good way. Whether you have a very vibrant marriage, or one that needs a shot in the arm, all marriages can grow in love.

Many problems that marriages face have very little to do with whether the couple loves one another, and a whole lot to do with how they love one another. Someone reading this, might even be in a marriage that he or she feels is past the point of rescue. You should know that, not only is your marriage salvageable, but it is very possible to reach a previously unimagined level of intimacy hopelessly in love.

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This booklet can be a powerful tool for building a strong, exciting marriage. It can help you to truly understand your spouse, and, understand how to meet his or her specific emotional needs. However, since in the process of this discovery you will need to share your needs and feelings with each other, it can be a little scary. Please proceed compassionately with an earnest desire to learn about each other and grow in love.

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Its Not What You Read, Its Who You Know

Each marriage is different, because each marriage is comprised of two unique people, and together their marriage becomes unique. So, as we speak of the needs for men and women, we speak in generalities. Your unique needs and the needs of your spouse may be somewhat different. Therefore, with regard to your spouses needs, the foremost expert on your spouse, is your spouse. With this in mind, as you read through this booklet, you can coach each other in the specific desires of your heart. You are about to discover your spouse, and maybe learn a little about yourself in the process.

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Use this booklet as a guide a needs assessment tool where the ultimate goal is to learn about your spouse. Although as a couple you are unique, this booklet can help spotlight emotional needs that are, in some respects, universal. In doing so, it can help you to visualize areas of deficiency and competence within your relationship.