Endorsements
Every book on adoption or foster care that Ive ever encountered was a theological treatise or a personal memoir or a how-to manual. Called to Care is the first book on this topic that has it allheartfelt stories, spiritual reflection, a range of perspectives, and heaps of practical advice. This book is a veritable one-stop shop for anyone who is interested in or thinking about orphan care, and it is written by two of the most respected and trustworthy adoption advocates of the last quarter century in America. If you take seriously the Bibles commands to care for orphans, read this book immediately.
Jonathan Merritt, contributing writer, the Atlantic , and author, Learning to Speak God from Scratch: Why Sacred Words Are Vanishing and How We Can Revive Them
When God calls you to step into the lives of children, hell also prepare you. This practical, informative guide helps do just that. The short stories, questions, and prayers at the end of each chapter will lead you to a deeper dialogue with Godthen watch where God takes you!
Dr. Sharen E. Ford, director, Foster Care and Adoption, Focus on the Family
Bill Blacquiere reminds us that the family is the building block of society in Gods design. Finding families for children through foster care, adoption in all its forms, and strengthening families is the clarion call he invites us to respond to in the third decade of the twenty-first century.
Albert L. Reyes, president and CEO, Buckner International
I highly recommend this as a mandatory read for anyone considering adoption, foster care, or working with vulnerable children.
Michael Douris, president, Orphan Outreach
Called to Care is a timely, insightful read for families considering foster care and adoption. It offers a clear challenge to the faith community and provides a biblical path for Matthew 25:3440 to become vibrant in our lives.
James K. Haveman, retired director, Michigan Department of Community Health
Bill Blacquiere and Kris Faasse bring a lifetime of wisdom to this compelling book. They have approached this vital subject with insight and sensitivity, giving a view of the many ways an individual, family, or church can respond to the needs of vulnerable children and families. I highly recommend this book for individual or group study.
Jayne Schooler, trainer and curriculum developer, Back2Back Ministries
This is a clarion call for Christians to recommit to the biblical mandate to care for children and families, and it is a call made from two leaders who have a lifetime of experience doing just that. I encourage you to read this important book.
Michael Wear, author, Reclaiming Hope: Lessons Learned in the Obama White House About the Future of Faith in America
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2019 by Bethany Christian Services, Inc.
Published by Bethany House Publishers
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The stories in this book have been drawn from real people and their journeys. Most names and some of the narratives, however, have been changed or adjusted to protect the privacy of individuals and families or highlight the various aspects of the call to care.
Cover design by Brand Navigation
Authors represented by Verne Kenney
Dedication
Bill
To foster and adoptive families for older children and children with placement challenges and host families with Safe Families for Children. These families are the real heroes in caring for children, and without them the system would crash. They give of their time, emotional health, and financial resources to help children. Their passion and zeal for the children they care for is abundant. Despite the challenges, their response is I will care for more children.
Kris
This book is dedicated to those children and families without a voice, those who have responded to them, and the Bethany staff, who, from our founding, have cared deeply and sought to be the hands and feet of Christ.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Introduction: Why This Book Is for You
How to Use This Book
Part One: Examining the Call to Care
1. What Gods Word Says
2. Addressing Motivations
3. Determining Expectations
4. Assessing Preparedness
Part Two: Exploring Foster Care and Adoption
5. A Close Look at Foster Care
6. A Close Look at Adoption
7. A Closer Look at Domestic Adoption
8. A Closer Look at Intercountry Adoption
9. Acknowledging Loss and Grief
Part Three: Embracing Family Preservation
10. Tapping into Family Preservation Programs
11. Creating Support Groups
12. Developing Mentoring Relationships
14. Covering Financial Needs
Part Four: Enriching Family Ties
15. Gaining Support from Others
16. Developing Provision from the Church
17. Accessing Assistance from the Community
Afterword
Appendices
What Is the Bethany Christian Services Continuum of Care?
What Is the Bethany Christian Services Family Care Plan for Adoptive Parents?
Recommended Books for Adoptive and Foster Care Parents
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Authors
Back Cover
How to Use This Book
This book has four parts.
Part One: Examining the Call to Care describes the biblical call, how answering it differs for everyone, and how we can best prepare before we answer.
Part Two: Exploring Foster Care and Adoption unpacks these two traditional options for caring and their many forms.
Part Three: Embracing Family Preservation outlines actions and programs that help both families of origin and newly formed families stay together.
Part Four: Enriching Family Ties covers how families and friends, churches, and communities can step up to make a difference in the health of a family.
You can read all four parts from beginning to end for the broadest understanding of the call to care and how you might be called to answer. Or you can focus on one part or even one chapter you think will speak to you personally, wherever you are in this quest right now. Your approach is up to you.
Take note, too, of these features:
- Opening Your Heart suggests questions or ideas at the end of each chapter to guide you in processing, embracing, and acting on what youve read.
- Praying for My Call at the end of each chapter helps you begin asking God for understanding, peace, and guidance as you consider your, or perhaps your churchs, answer to the call to care.
- Appendices in the back of the book offer resources for adoptive and foster parents and some Bethany-specific information.