• Complain

Marni Jameson - Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One

Here you can read online Marni Jameson - Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One full text of the book (entire story) in english for free. Download pdf and epub, get meaning, cover and reviews about this ebook. year: 2019, publisher: Sterling, genre: Detective and thriller. Description of the work, (preface) as well as reviews are available. Best literature library LitArk.com created for fans of good reading and offers a wide selection of genres:

Romance novel Science fiction Adventure Detective Science History Home and family Prose Art Politics Computer Non-fiction Religion Business Children Humor

Choose a favorite category and find really read worthwhile books. Enjoy immersion in the world of imagination, feel the emotions of the characters or learn something new for yourself, make an fascinating discovery.

No cover
  • Book:
    Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One
  • Author:
  • Publisher:
    Sterling
  • Genre:
  • Year:
    2019
  • Rating:
    3 / 5
  • Favourites:
    Add to favourites
  • Your mark:
    • 60
    • 1
    • 2
    • 3
    • 4
    • 5

Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One: summary, description and annotation

We offer to read an annotation, description, summary or preface (depends on what the author of the book "Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One" wrote himself). If you haven't found the necessary information about the book — write in the comments, we will try to find it.

A book to help those who are merging their hearts, lives, and homes.
When merging households, one plus one needs to equal . . . one. The path toward that fundamental fact, however, is not so easy. Since somethings got to giveand you dont want it to be the relationshipDownsizing the Blended Home is here to help you meet the challenge of figuring out what to keep, what to let go of, and what to create together. With the same warm, narrative tone that made Downsizing the Family Home such a successand using her own story of marriage and merger in midlife as a backdropMarni Jameson guides you through the turf wars and transitions, so you understand what matters and what doesnt, and can discover a style that suits you both. Along the way she interviews psychologists, designers, and couples whove made it through the process, passing along tips, tricks, and marriage-bolstering advice.

Marni Jameson: author's other books


Who wrote Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One? Find out the surname, the name of the author of the book and a list of all author's works by series.

Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One — read online for free the complete book (whole text) full work

Below is the text of the book, divided by pages. System saving the place of the last page read, allows you to conveniently read the book "Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One" online for free, without having to search again every time where you left off. Put a bookmark, and you can go to the page where you finished reading at any time.

Light

Font size:

Reset

Interval:

Bookmark:

Make
Contents
Guide
DOWNSIZING The Blended Home WHEN TWO HOUSEHOLDS BECOME ONE - photo 1
DOWNSIZING The Blended Home WHEN TWO HOUSEHOLDS BECOME ONE Marni Jameson - photo 2
DOWNSIZING
The Blended Home

Downsizing the Blended Home When Two Households Become One - image 3

WHEN TWO HOUSEHOLDS BECOME ONE

Downsizing the Blended Home When Two Households Become One - image 4

Marni Jameson
Downsizing the Blended Home When Two Households Become One - image 5
STERLING and the distinctive Sterling logo are registered trademarks of - photo 6

STERLING and the distinctive Sterling logo are registered trademarks of Sterling Publishing Co., Inc.

Text 2019 Marni Jameson

Cover 2019 Sterling Publishing Co., Inc.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means (including electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise) without prior written permission from the publisher.

All trademarks are the property of their respective owners, are used for editorial purposes only, and the publisher makes no claim of ownership and shall acquire no right, title, or interest in such trademarks by virtue of this publication.

ISBN 978-1-4549-3474-5

For information about custom editions, special sales, and premium and corporate purchases, please contact Sterling Special Sales at 800-805-5489 or .

sterlingpublishing.com

Cover design by David Ter-Avanesyan

Interior design by Christine Heun


For Adam, Alyssa, Brett, Paige, and Marissa

Introduction

Hearts May Become One, but Houses Collide

Why is it your furniture and my stuff? DC asked.

Stuff, I thought to myself, was actually putting it nicely.

DC and I were in our fifties, and had just gotten engaged and bought a house. We were now negotiating the rocky territory of whose furnishings and housewares would go and whose would stay.

It turns out that his question was just the beginning of many good questions (and a few arguments) that arose as our heartsand our householdsnot so seamlessly became one. Experts later told me that these turf wars shake the core of even the most stable relationships.

As is the case in four out of ten marriages today (according to a 2014 Pew Research Center analysis), DC and I were both remarrying. Among the many differences between getting married or moving in together in your early twenties for the first time and marrying, remarrying, or cohabitating later in life is that you have more stuff. When youre young, you blend your bookcase made of pine planks and cinder block with your sweethearts stained, hand-me-down sofa and beanbag chair, and build from there. More mature unions bring to the merger two dining room sets, two collections of holiday decorations, and two vacuum cleaners.

One look at the statistics showed that DC and I have plenty of company. Marriage and remarriage are thriving in America, and brides and grooms are older on average than ever. Remarriagesand thus the rate at which more established households are mergingare at a historic high. Back in the sixties, most marriages were one-and-done deals. Only one in five marriages ended in divorce. Only 13 percent of those who divorced or who lost a spouse got remarried. Today, the divorce rate hovers around 50 per-cent. In two out of five marriages, at least one partner has been married before. In one out of five marriages, both partners have been married before, as in our case. Older Americans are leading the trend: half of previously married seniors have tied the knot again, according to the 2014 Pew report.

Todays couples are also waiting longer to say I do for the first time. According to a study by the US Census Bureau in 2018, the average age at first marriage in the United States is 27 for women and 29 for men. Thats up from ages 23 and 26, respectively, in 1990, and 20 and 22 in the 1960s. These statistics dont account for all the mature committed couples blending households.

All this means is that today, by the time two established adults walk down the aislewhether for the first, second, or fifth timethey very likely have two complete households in tow: homes full of belongings that reflect who they are and where theyve been, their style, and their history.

They bring to the mix belongings they worked hard for and have become attached to, an often sizable collection of material possessions that entwine with the stories of their lives. Multiply that by two, and you can see why when you merge you must purge. The math goes like this:

1 house + 1 house must = 1 house.

That means each partner must downsize by roughly half. Ouch! That is a lot of letting go. Though the merger math is simple, applying it is not.

And that is why, all across America, as hearts and homes become one, couples are saying what I said to DC: Darlin, I love you. But your stuff, not so much.

MERGER IN MIDLIFE

Like so many couples marrying and remarrying, DC and I werent just starting out. I was a divorced mom forging a new life after my marriage of 24 years ended. DC had lost his wife of 27 years to cancer and had a lot of living left to do. Our combined family of five grown children, then ages 21 to 35, were out of the house. My two were in college, and his three were forging their careers and starting families.

Though battered by the storms of life, we still believed in love, and we both, fortunately, had the nerve to drop a line in the water and try online dating.

DC, whod had a good experience with his marriage, was more optimistic about finding a partner. I was less hopeful and more skittish. I thought the possibility of finding that special someone who would appreciate and understand my many quirks while also meeting my must-have criteria was about as likely as finding a Nordstrom on Mars.

Still, at the prodding of my two daughters, I nervously ventured onto a dating site. Shortly afterward, my profile surfaced as one of his matches, and he sent me a message.

We met on a Sunday afternoon in the spring of 2014 over a glass of wine, a date that lasted four hours. Fourteen magical months later, while standing in the empty kitchen of a four-bedroom Mediterranean-style house in Winter Park, Florida, that wed just signed the papers on, DC proposed.

I thought my feet would never touch the ground again. However, as we discussed blending our respective homes along with our considerable collection of lifelong possessions, my feet not only touched the ground, my heels dug in like a pair of farm plows.

I, for one, was bringing more to the joint venture than a trousseau and a hope chest. DC wasnt traveling light, either. We both had entire households, belongings wed acquired over half a century of living and raising families. We both had many cherished possessions we would need to sort through, vet, part with, and blend in a way that not only looked good, but also felt good, and felt fair.

We were fast discovering that when two houses become one, somethings got to go, and you dont want it to be the relationship. Downsizing two homes to blend into one can either lead to an ugly turf war, where a clash of styles leaves behind a tsunami of hurt feelings, or a harmonious blending that lets each person shed and evolve, and that brings out and blends the best of both.

Next page
Light

Font size:

Reset

Interval:

Bookmark:

Make

Similar books «Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One»

Look at similar books to Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One. We have selected literature similar in name and meaning in the hope of providing readers with more options to find new, interesting, not yet read works.


Reviews about «Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One»

Discussion, reviews of the book Downsizing the Blended Home: When Two Households Become One and just readers' own opinions. Leave your comments, write what you think about the work, its meaning or the main characters. Specify what exactly you liked and what you didn't like, and why you think so.