Donell Jackson - Not Settling for Less: Things Arent What They Seem

NOT SETTLING

FOR LESS

THINGS ARENT WHAT THEY SEEM

DONELL JACKSON

Copyright 2022 by Donell Jackson

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Publication Date: 09/28/2022

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A COUPLE OF REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDNT SETTLE

SETTLING ONLY BRINGS RESENTMENT

YOU MAY NOT SEE IT AS AN ISSUE, BUT IF YOU SETTLE FOR SOMEONE, CHANCES ARE THAT THEY ARE NEVER GOING TO LIVE UP TO YOUR EXPECTATIONS. IF YOU KEEP EXPECTING HIM/HER TO BE SOMETHING THAT THEY ARE NOT, YOU'LL ONLY BECOME UNHAPPY AND DISAPPOINTED, AND THEY WILL ALWAYS FAIL BECAUSE YOU CANT CHANGE SOMEONE. SO, DONT TRY.

YOURE GOING TO HAVE AN UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIP

WHEN YOU SETTLE, YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO BECOME UNDESIRABLE. BOTH PARTIES HAVE TO WANT TO IMPRESS AND BRING A BIT OF ROMANCE INTO THE RELATIONSHIP (CANDLE-LITE DINNERS, ROMANTIC GESTURES, COMPLIMENTS, ETC.). IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'VE SETTLED, WHY TAKE YOURSELF THROUGH THE TROUBLE TO IMPRESS THE OTHER PERSON? YOU'RE ALWAYS GOING TO FEEL LIKE THAT PERSON OWES YOU SOMETHING, SO THE CHANCES OF YOU BEING SPONTANEOUS AND GENERATING A SPARK ARE SLIM TO NONE.

YOU WONT BE SEXUALLY SATISFIED

EVERYONE HAS WITNESSED SOMEONE WHO CANT PERFORM TO THEIR STANDARDS IN THE BEDROOM. JUST KNOW THAT IF YOU SETTLE, YOU ARE CREATING THE POSSIBILITY THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE FULLY SATISFIED. IT WILL MOST LIKELY BE A MEANS TO AN END (WHATEVER YOUR REASON IS FOR SETTLING). JUST MAKE SURE YOURE HAPPY, AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: SEX SHOULD NEVER FEEL LIKE AN OBLIGATION.

DON'T GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE "IT SOUNDS NICE"

DON'T SETTLE JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE THE "LAST ONE STANDING" WHILE ALL YOUR FRIENDS ARE GETTING SERIOUS. IT CAN BE FRUSTRATING SEEING THEM WALK DOWN THE AISLE HAPPY WHILE YOURE MISERABLE. BUT SHACKING UP WITH SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE THE WRONG APPROACH, JUST TO KEEP YOUR APPEARANCE OF NOT BEING ALONE UP TO PAR. THE TRUTH IS, THE ONES WHO ARE MARRIED ARE FAR LONELIER THAN SOMEONE WHO IS SINGLE. GETTING MARRIED DOES NOT EQUATE TO INSTANT HAPPINESS, NEITHER IS IT SOMETHING TO DO JUST BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE THE RIGHT THING TO DO; YOU MUST KNOW ITS THE RIGHT THING TO DO FOR THE RIGHT REASONS.

DONT SETTLE AND TRY TO BUILD LOVE

TRYING TO BRING SOMEONE YOU DO NOT LOVE INTO YOUR LIFE AND THINKING THAT YOU'LL EVENTUALLY LEARN HOW TO LOVE HIM OR HER NEVER REALLY WORKS OUT. CHANCES ARE, IF YOU'RE NOT INTO HIM OR HER RIGHT OFF THE BAT, YOURE PROBABLY NOT GOING TO BE INTO THEM IN THE FUTURE. NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT, BUT IF YOU DONT HAVE SOME SORT OF LOVE SOMEWHERE IN YOUR HEART, IT'S GOING TO BE HARD TO FORCE YOURSELF INTO HAVING SOME.

DONT EVER LET MATERIAL THINGS SUBSTITUTE FOR LOVE

SURE, EVERYONE LOVES THE FINER THINGS IN THE WORLD, BUT THERE IS A RIGHT AND A WRONG WAY TO GET THEM. YOU CAN WORK AND GET THINGS YOU DESIRE, OR YOU CAN SETTLE FOR SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE THEY HAVE THESE THINGS ALREADY. NEVER SETTLE FOR SOMEONE BASED ON MATERIAL THINGS BECAUSE THINGS DONT ALWAYS LAST FOREVER, AND MATERIAL THINGS WILL BECOME A HINDRANCE TO FINDING TRUE LOVE.

Important

This book was designed for women as well as men to help someone recognize certain issues that they may be going through in life and how to overcome these issues. There are many issues in life that people choose to deal with, when, in all reality, they dont have to. Everyone deserves to be happy in one way or another, so this is a stepping-stone to what was once thought of as undoable. If there is someone in your life who is not making you happy, you have the right book.

Its up to you what you get out of reading this book. It boils down to how much strength you have to move past these weights that you have in your life. If you dont have anything holding you back, this book will show you all the signs to look for to avoid them. So, you must understand how to spot and weed them out. Just like a farmer who goes in and removes the bad weeds and fruit from the good ones, you have to do the same thing. The only difference is, the weeds that you are weeding out paint themselves up to look like wonderful weeds, but with the right tools, you can still weed them out from the good ones, and this book will help you do so.

No one deserves to have to put up with nonsense, and the good thing is that you dont have to. For this to work, you have to admit that you are putting up with nonsense, and then you have to take the steps to remove it. If you are in a relationship, and youre not happy, youre always arguing and fighting, youre always getting lied to and cheated on, then you have the right to move on and be happy. But its up to you to do so. So, admit and remove!

Contents

Whats something that I will not be doing?

Not Settling For Less

Better Believe It

You talk a good game

Everything that you say seems to be like no other

But, in all reality, its hiding behind cover

Like a mask that Spider-Man dares not to remove

Words paint such a wonderful picture

But if a Director cannot bring them to life

They only become just words, and nothing more

A killer only becomes a killer once they have drawn their weapon

Someone only becomes a psychopath once they are diagnosed

A hunter only becomes a hunter once they have shot something worth keeping

Some of the most wonderful things in life

Only become wonderful when you decide they are worth the sight

So, why should I settle for anything less?

Why should I accept all those lies?

Why should I accept all your abuse?

Why should I accept being second to another?

If I was to count every time you broke my heart

One may say, why waste your time with another?

Because nothing in life is a waste

It only becomes a waste when you dont learn from it

Its easy to give up

Its also easy to make a choice

But it gets hard when you have to live with it

The most wonderful things in life are the hardest things to keep

So, as long as its worth the keep

You will never have to

Settle for less

And it will never become a waste

Part 1

Settling

Settling

To put firmly into a desired position or place

( Established )

When you settle, you tend to put someone unworthy into a position that they do not deserve. Then they grow comfortably happy, while youre left miserable. Settling only brings dead weight into your life when you dont need it. When you settle, all you do is give your happiness away. Just think about it; most likely, the person that youre settling for really isnt what you truly want in your life, but you still settle because youre hoping he or she will become or change into what you truly desire. They may be receiving everything that they desire, but what about what you desire? Someone can only get a position in your life only if you allow them to. So, if you do decide to allow them, just make sure they are worth it.

Why People Settle

There are all sorts of reasons why someone chooses to settle, whether its because they are tired of being alone, or they are trying to keep a good appearance (trying to impress the world). It could be for money, status, or even wanting something thats not theirs. Whatever the case may be, just know that YOU DONT HAVE TO SETTLE. There are plenty of good women, as well as good men, who have settled at one point or another in their lives, and most likely, they became single afterward, or they still are trying to hang on to something that is unworthy and have grown tremendously unhappy. You can only be as happy as you allow yourself to be, and your happiness reflects through whomever you allow in your life.