Hayley Quinn - Do This, Not That: Dating: What to Do (and NOT Do) in 75+ Difficult Dating Situations

Do This, Not That.

Dating

What to DO (and NOT DO) in 75+ Difficult Dating Situations

Hayley Quinn

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Names: Quinn, Hayley, author.

Title: Do this, not that: dating / Hayley Quinn.

Description: First Adams Media hardcover edition. | Stoughton, Massachusetts: Adams Media, 2023. | Series: Do this, not that | Includes bibliographical references and index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2022014633 | ISBN 9781507219690 (hc) | ISBN 9781507219706 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Dating (Social customs)

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To all the team at HayleyQuinn.com.

If youve been doing:

Or you wish you were:

Youre in the right place.

For a lot of people, modern dating can feel confusingand about as much fun as a job interview. The good news is that youre not stuck being singleor always choosing people who arent the right fit. You just need a little guidance in doing thisand not thatto become better at dating and relationships!

Do This, Not That: Dating is a straightforward and easy-to-use guide that will help you navigate the world of modern dating, gain the confidence to go after what you want, and create healthy relationships. How exactly? Not by playing any tricks or games, but by focusing on developing your self-esteem, healthy boundaries, and communication skills: the keys for successful dating.

And because dating isnt one size fits all, this book isnt all about telling you what to do; rather, it asks you questions and helps you explore your personal experiences so you can make the right choices for you. Organized into chapters based on themes like meeting someone you like, getting to know each other, and creating a long-term relationship, youll identify what to do (and not do) in eighty-one situations, including when:

• You feel like you never meet anyone you like
• You cant decide where to go for a first date
• Youre getting more serious and cant agree on whether to have kids
• Youve moved in together and need to figure out household finances
• Youre getting married and your parents dont like your partner
• Your partner wants to move or get a new job and you feel differently
• And much more

Youre going to understand why things havent worked out so far, and finally feel ready to build the relationship you deserve! So lets do this, not that.

Do This, Not That: Dating is your guide to dealing with various difficult dating and relationship situations. It will help you to confidently navigate the ups and downs of meeting people and exploring new relationships. You can dip into this book when youre not sure of what to do in a specific situation; just flip through to the scenario that applies to you. Or, if you want to get your PhD in dating, you can read the book cover to cover.

Each dating scenario is divided into sectionsas seen on the rightfor a comprehensive, actionable guide to handling that situation.

Each scenario is also organized under a main theme of dating, so you can easily find guidance on whatever obstacle you are facing. Whether you are looking to meet someone you like, going on a first date, getting to know someone on a deeper level, moving in together, getting married, or dealing with something in between, there is something for you.

Every decision you make about your dating life is your own; this book will ask you the right questions to help you arrive at the best solution for you. It will guide you in making decisions about the right time to break up with someone, how to deal with a cheating partner, and even how to get more hot dates.

I ts the million-dollar question for anyone whos dating: How do you meet someone these days? True, theres a ton of dating apps out there, singles events, speed dating, matchmaking, etc. Maybe youve tried one, or all, of these without success. The truth is that meeting someone you like is less about where you meet someone and more about how you go about it; its not so much which dating app you choose, but how you use the app.

In this chapter, youll explore the mental hurdles that can keep you stuck on the starting blocks of dating. Perhaps you never seem to meet anyone you actually like, youre not over your ex yet, or youre terrified of being rejected (again). Whatever obstacle you may be facing, youll find practical action steps on how to overcome it and get more results in your dating life. Youll create an online dating profile that works, identify a great first message to send, and determine whether you should actually listen to your friends dating advice. This chapter is designed to help give you the confidence and skills to get out there.

Youd like to meet someone, but is now really the right time? Maybe its been a while or youre still hung up on an ex. Then theres how to go about it. Its going to take time, right? Youll (probably) need to use dating apps? Youll need to,