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Dating Essentials
for Men

The Only Dating
Guide You Will Ever
Need

Dr. Robert Glover

Dating Essentials for Men:

The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need

Copyright 2019 by Dr. Robert Glover

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First Edition: March 2019

Published by Robert A. Glover, Ph.D., Inc.

Professional Disclaimer

Although you may find the information, principles, applications, and assignments in this book to be useful, they are presented with the understanding that the author is not engaged in providing specific medical, psychological, emotional, or sexual advice. Nor is anything in this book intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation, or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, or sexual problem.

Each person has unique needs, and this book cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, and/or general health only in consultation with licensed, qualified physicians, therapists, and/or other competent professionals.

Dedication

Dating Essentials for Men is dedicated to every man who is willing to step out of his comfort zone, challenge his distorted and self-limiting beliefs, and practice effective dating and relational skills. May these men find all the love and sex they desire.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: Dating Essentials for Men

Are You a Bad Dater?

If so, welcome to the club. So was I and so are most of the men walking the planet.

Dating and courting are not in our human DNA. They have only existed in Western culture for a few generations. In the East not even there yet. For most of modern civilization, marriages were arranged by family and clan. The idea of romantic love has only been around a couple of hunderd years.

Nevertheless, we live in a world where dating skills are essential for finding companionship, love, a mate, and of course, sexual partners.

I find that many men struggle at the most basic aspects of dating and mating. For most of us, these skills dont come naturally and weve never had someone show us how.

Fears of doing something wrong, looking foolish, and getting rejected permeate the minds of most men regardless of age, physical appearance, and social and economic status.

These fears typically manifest in clumsy attempts at approach and/or doing nothing at all. The all to common outcome of repeated failures at finding a suitable partner leaves many men feeling defective and unlovable.

Ive been there. For the majority of my life, I was a loser with the ladies and I assumed the good women I was interested in, just werent interested in me.

But that all changed. Let me tell you about it.

When I became single in my mid-forties after 25 years of marriage, I came face to face with the reality that I hadnt dated since college and that I wasnt good at it even then.

Back in high school and college, when I wanted to ask a woman out, I would first spend several weeks thinking about her, imagining what it would be like to be with her. My fear, self-limiting beliefs, and lack of skills prevented me from simply approaching her and asking her out.

When I finally got up the nerve to approach a woman Id been obsessing about I would wait until the last minute, walk up to her awkwardly, and blurt out something like, I dont guess you would want to go out with me tonight, would you?

She would usually respond with a look of surprise and say something like, Oh, I already have plans.

Then I would feel foolish, retreat, and never talk to her again.

When I did succeed at getting a girlfriend, I would hang on to her forever because I didnt want to repeat the process of having to start dating all over again (as in staying married to two women for 25 years when I never should have dated either more than three times).

This time around, in my forties, I realized I would have to learn to do things a lot differently. Heres what I did.

I began reading and listening to dating and seduction books and CDs and drawing from insights I myself had written about in my book, No More Mr. Nice Guy. Then, most importantly, I began applying those principles to see what worked and what didnt.

I approached dating as if it were a scientific experiment.

To my surprise, I found that getting women to talk to me, give me their phone number, date me, and have sex with me was nowhere nearly as difficult as I thought it would be. In fact, I was often amazed at how simple and easy it could be when applying the right principles.

Several of my clients noticed that I was having success meeting women as well as having lots of sex and begged me to teach them what I was doing. Out of these requests Dating Essentials for Men was born.

In 2007, I launched four, four-week online Dating Essentials for Men courses. These courses were a compilation of what I had learned through tons of trial and error and lots of fucking practice. The courses became an instant success because they offered a breath of fresh air from programs that taught men to be cocky/funny, spin plates, or run canned pickup routines.

This book is an update and expansion of those four courses.

If you had asked me any time before the age of 45 if I would be teaching men how to date I would have said you were crazy. But you know what? If a bad dater like me can learn how to interact confidently with women get their phone numbers, get laid, and create great relationships so can you!

In my quest to become an effective dater I discovered many principles that work and many that dont. A lot of what I teach in Dating Essentials for Men is counter-intuitive to what you believe to be true about women, dating, and sex.

Thats the beauty of the Dating Essentials for Men approach.

Most men make dating way too difficult. One of the most common reactions men have to what I present is, This is easy. I can do this!

Dating Essentials for Men makes dating doable the way it should be.

The principles and practices that I share will challenge you in ways you have never been challenged before. But showing you how simple it is to talk to women, get their phone numbers, date them, and get them into bed increases the likelihood that you will actually get out there and do it.