Sex Workers As Virtual Boyfriends
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Sex Workers As Virtual Boyfriends
Joseph Itiel
First published 2002
by Harrington Park Press
Published 2014
by Routledge
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2002 by Joseph Itiel.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Itiel, Joseph.
Sex workers as virtual boyfriends / Joseph Itiel.
p. cm.
A companion volume to the author's A consumer's guide to male hustlers.
"Sex workers' web sites": p.
ISBN 1-56023-190-4 (alk. paper: hard) ISBN 1-56023-191-2 (alk. paper: soft)
1. Male prostitution. 2. Male friendship. 3. Sex instruction for gay men. 4. Gay menSexual
behavior. I. Itiel, Joseph. Consumer's guide to male hustlers. II. Title.
HQ76.1 I88 2002
306.74'3dc21
2001039560
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A Consumers Guide to Male Hustlers
About the Author
Joseph Itiel likes to say that in his senior years he has been blessed with great (and affordable) sex workers. But this is not just a lucky coincidence. The author met his first hustlersas they were called thensome forty years ago. He has had the time and perseverance to shape these commercial encounters into virtual friendships. Itiel makes his home in San Francisco, California.
Contents
Not long ago, Michael, my regular sex worker, had a fistfight and wound up with a fat lip. In the three-and-a-half years we have known each other, he has never been involved in a physical confrontation. What happened? I asked him.
This guy Ive been datingnot escortinghad too much to drink. He wanted us to become boyfriends. I told him that I wasnt looking for no boyfriend. Thats when he punched me. Michael was quite upset by the incident and kept talking about it. When we got into bed I gave him a kiss and said, Well, Michael, at least we have each other.
Thats true, he answered.
Both of us understood perfectly well what I meant by having each other. We do have each other for our sessions but certainly not for better or for worse. However much we like and enjoy each other, Michael will see me only if, at the end of each session, I hand him his fee. I will use his services only as long as I dont get the same for free from someone else. Because, you see, we are only virtual boyfriends. Nonetheless, this virtual relationship, not to be confused with the real thing, has worked exceedingly well for both of us.
The overall purpose of this book is to help readers upgrade their sex workers (formerly known as hustlers) into virtual boyfriends. Not all sex workers can be or wish to be upgraded; nor do all clients want their sex workers to become their virtual boyfriends. But some men who engage sex workers on a regular basis might prefer to experience deeper relationships with them. This book offers real-life experiences and practical ways to accomplish such a transition.
This book is also a continuation and amplification of my previous work, A Consumers Guide to Male Hustlers. take for granted that readers are familiar with the health and safety issues I have discussed at length in my original book, and the distinction I have made between male and female prostitution. I recommend to readers who feel that they have benefited from this work to acquaint themselves with the previous publication.
Although meaningful sex worker/client interaction cannot be taught, it can be described. To this end, I will sketch a number of my sex workers, past and present, dead and alive, and tell our stories. In these sketches, I try to bring out the marvelous uniqueness of each sex worker. Through this uniqueness, clients can match their requirements and resources to sex workers who will fulfill their needs. Clients who have the most satisfaction are invariably the ones who are attuned to how different individual sex workers are.