David Murrow - The Map: The Way of All Great Men

PRAISE FOR THE MAP

Part thriller story, part step-by-step call to action, The Map will be absolutely life changing for men. This insightful work will inspire and equip every man to follow the journey of Jesus and become not only a man of submission but a man of godly strength and courage.

JEFF AND SHAUNTI FELDHAHN
Best-selling authors of For Men
Only and For Women Only

The spiritual punch of C. S. Lewis, written in the style of a Jason Bourne thriller. I cant imagine a more powerful, readable combination.

ROBERT LEWIS
Founder, Mens Fraternity

In a tale filled with danger, mystery, and intrigue, David Murrow reveals a hidden map embedded in Scripture that men have followed or ignored to their success or their demise.

ERIC SWANSON
Leadership Network

What kind of fool would embark on a journey without a map? Yet men tackle the most important journey of their livesthe journey to manhoodwithout one. No wonder so many men are adrift. This book provides the map that men so desperately need.

DAVE BILLINGTON
Composer, You are Awesome in
this Place

Murrow has lit yet another rare candle that illuminates a mysterious, neglected, and sometimes vilified portion of a mans unique soul.

PAUL COUGHLIN
Author, No More Christian
Nice Guy

Absolutely brilliant! David Murrow has written a masterpiece that could revolutionize mens ministry and the way we disciple men. I love this bookIm just jealous I didnt write it myself.

RICK JOHNSON
Best-selling author of The Power
of a Man and Better Dads,
Stronger Sons

Murrow has created a whole new literary genrethe spiritual formation thriller. The Map mixes international intrigue with the Gospel of Matthew to create a book on masculine spirituality that guys I know will actually read. I cant wait to get this into their hands!

DR. ROBB REDMAN
Dean and Vice President
Associate Professor of Theology
and Ministry
Multnomah Biblical Seminary
Portland, OR

As a college pastor, I think young men will love this book. I look forward to using it to challenge many young men.

STEVE LUTZ
College Pastor, Penn State
University
Director, Commontary.com

Who else could give us a book that reads like a novella, hooks you like a largemouth bass, and then delivers a fresh vision of manhood that challenges you at the deepest levels? Im going to give The Map the strongest possible recommendation to the men of Saddleback.

KENNY LUCK
Founder, Every Man Ministries
Mens Pastor, Saddleback Church
Author of Risk, Dream, Fight and
the Every Man Bible Studies

A book written in the style of John Grisham, but with substance that will guide your life as a man. I cant wait for the men of my church to read it.

STEVE SONDERMAN
Associate Pastor, Elmbrook
Church Mens Ministry
Founder, Top Gun Ministry

Mens books? Ive read them all. But never one like The Map. Its amazing in its approach, uniqueness, simplicity, and insight.

BILL PERKINS
Author, Six Battles Every Man
Must Win

David Murrow found something that millions of others missed: a map to manhood, hidden in the New Testament. This book is going to change the way the church develops its men.

MARK GUNGOR
Author, Laugh Your Way to a Better
Marriage

We tell men to follow Jesus, but what does that really mean? David Murrow helps men find the balance between Christs tough and tender sides. The Map shows us when to be like table-tipping Jesus and when to be submissive.

BRAD STINE
Comedian, Actor, Author

The Map

The Map

THE WAY OF ALL GREAT MEN

DAVID MURROW

2010 by David Murrow

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Murrow, David.

The Map : the way of all great men / David Murrow.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-0-7852-2762-5 (pbk.)

1. Christian menReligious life. 2. Men (Christian theology) I. Title.

BV4528.2.M87 2009
248.8'42dc22

2009042344

Printed in the United States of America

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CONTENTS

I n 2005 I wrote a book titled Why Men Hate Going to Church. It was based on a simple premise: the modern church has become too feminine. As a result, men are going passiveor going away.

To everyones surprise (including mine), the book became an inspirational bestseller. Many men loved it, but some men were deeply disturbed by it. A lot of the things I had labeled in the book as feminine were profoundly meaningful to these guys. They said things such as,

I cried like a baby when I met Jesus. I didnt care about my manhood.

I love sharing in my small group of guys. I find healing there.

Theres nothing wrong with getting a hug from the brothers in my small group.

I left my tough-guy exterior at the foot of the cross.

Were most like Christ not when were tough, but when were tender.

Its good to get emotional during praise and worship.

Im proud to say that I love Jesus.

One time a guy came storming up to the book table after I had spoken to a mens group. David, you keep talking about gentleness and meekness being feminine, he said, voice trembling with emotion. But the Bible commands us to be gentle and meek. The manliest guy in the room isnt the toughest; hes the one whos most loving.

He was rightbut so was I. Church is too feminine. But if a man is to become whole (emotionally and spiritually), he must shed his macho pretensions and do things that many men would consider girly.

Ive come to realize that my first book was correctbut incomplete. The softer virtues do play a vital role in a mans spiritual development. Christian men cant simply ignore commands such as Turn the other cheek because they seem unmanly. Every guy needs a good boo-hoo now and then.