A nalytical Confusion. The reason why the name of this book is for a few reasons. Analytical is technically a computer. I'm going to open mine up to you. The confusion part is because it comes from all over the place. A lot of my books are structured, however it's just my pure transparent thoughts. This is me no filter not for an audience but my own personal memoir other than this preface that I'm writing right now. I talk about my true feelings on relationships marriage, why couples last and why they don't last. The history of relationships and even I speak of the history of my own upbringing and my views on relationships based on what I saw growing up. I will discuss love vs. true love soulmates versus life partners, compatibility, being evenly yoked, do opposites really attract. I will also discuss marriage and is it actually for everyone. A lot of people think that it's just the way of life but as time goes on and I'm meeting more people like myself as well as failed relationships and seems like there are other alternatives. Chemistry and compatibility are some of the main things that I discussed as well as dating and integrating kids into relationships between two parents. Should it be done, how should it be done if so. Enjoy this experience as I speak out loud and you get to hear the thoughts that I have inside of my mind, little confusion of a brain! I just spill it out onto this paper for you to enjoy. Some of my views you may like, some of them dislike. But at the end of the day we are all subject to our own opinion. These are mine. Welcome to Analytical Confusion!
Monday
Perspective
P erspectives...We all have one.. Men and Women are as different as things can be. Just like cats and dogs. Yes, they are both mammals, animals, or if you would like to classify them as just simple house pets!. The point being they have similar wants and needs, on the flip side they are considered polar opposites pertaining to wants, needs, value personality traits etc. So, what is a perspective exactly, is it an opinion? Well, kind of.. Well my opinion is this. An opinion is more of a way of thinking giving a certain situation or circumstance they may arise or become a topic of life or conversation. Perspective is more of a general way of thinking more less like your own personal ideology. The definition of perspective is "a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something, a point of view. Importantly peoples perspectives can be changed, simply by having an experience through someone else eyes, experiences or opinions looking at without judgement.
I feel like relationships are very complex. It's like buying pieces to a puzzle, without seeing the actual puzzle, picture or how many pieces are on the actual box!lol..Imagine trying to piece two puzzles mixed together like the whites and the colors in your washing machine. Doing this without knowledge of what it is you're trying to create, not knowing the type of pieces or the capacity, can be difficult. On the flip side with luck, it may be easy, depending on who is on the other side trying to figure it out.
Tuesday.
Is Everyone Meant to be
in a Relationship?
I s everyone meant to be in a relationship? When you hear of relationship goals by standard what comes to mind. Traditionally life is set up by a pattern. Some agree, some disagree but we have all heard of the "picket white fence" mentality or formula. You know the one; you go through school, graduate, go to college, become successful in your career, find your future wife, fall in love, purchase a home with a bright picket white fence with a small dog and start having babies. That is the ideology of success for a lot of individuals to follow. It's like a blueprint to success from a traditional middle class standpoint. As life evolves such as pager to smartphones (a cpu in your pocket) so should relationships. So if you don't follow this blueprint for success in a traditional basic middle class family home does that mean you cannot find success in life or in a relationship? The major conflict is life! Everything doesn't always go as planned. You may succeed in all these things but may have not followed the typical order of the blueprint. Adding to that, everyone finds happiness in different ways, things and value different social and tangible things. So what happens when you don't follow the rules (blueprint), does that mean you will not be not succeed? That's something to ponder on...
Wednesday
Chemistry and Compatibility
C hemistry and compatibility is a tricky subject. Do we agree that having chemistry is awesome! In life it's kind of amusing if you think about it. How many people have you encountered throughout your childhood or growing up in general? If you're an introvert maybe hundreds. If you're normal, probably thousands! It's intriguing how all of the people you meet or encounter only a certain selected few you choose to hang out with, create new experiences, and share your life with. It's all chemistry! It can be deep as similar life goals, interests or hobbies. However some cases you may not have any of these things but for whatever reason you and that other person mesh well. You may not have anything in common but that other person you may find interesting and even enough to pick up some of their traits and try some of their hobbies you may have not previously been interested in. That's a pretty cool feeling, but in relationships chemistry is often a plus but chemistry alone isn't enough to have a long lasting relationship. You have to be compatible! You may like to watch reality tv shows, your significant other may think your choice of entertainment is silly. That doesn't affect your chemistry or possibility of being compatible. On the contrary you like all the same shows, have all the same hobbies and yet still that's not a guarantee that you and your partner have long term compatibility in a normal loving functional relationship...
Thursda y
Do Opposites Really Attract?
Where is My Soulmate