Praise for
Where Will You Go from Here?
Valorie Burton navigates us through the maze of lifes uncertainty with the skill of a GPS system placing us back on course. For those who refuse to live the rest of their lives stuck on the side of the road, this book gives guidance!
B ISHOP T. D. J AKES , New York Times best-selling author,
founder and senior pastor of The Potters House
This compelling book offers a hands-on approach to recoveringand thrivingafter crisis. Valorie Burton provides well-researched solutions, practical help, and many examples of real people who have faced dark times of adversity and come out on the other end stronger for it. In these pages, readers will find hope and answers for how to progress from a place of pain and setback to hope and abundant life.
S HAUNTI F ELDHAHN , best-selling author of For Women Only
If you are in that what now? place in your life, this is the book for youfilled with practical steps and profound principles to jump-start your comeback, but even more important, youre repositioning for new levels of victory in your life. Valorie Burton speaks from experience as well as learned wisdom and offers the tools you need to master your life and get the results you desire.
M ICHELLE M CKINNEY H AMMOND , author of
How to Make Life Work
Ive never seen such a clear road map to full recovery as Valorie Burton has so vividly drawn in this phenomenal book. She doesnt just help you arrive at a better destination; she inspires you to savor the journey every step of the way. Ill be using Where Will You Go from Here? with many of my coaching clients!
S HANNON E THRIDGE , M.A., certified life coach, international
speaker, and best-selling author of Every Womans Battle
In Where Will You Go from Here? my friend Valorie Burton offers a clear, concise, and manageable plan for dealing with the curve balls that life throws at you. If you open your mind to receive what she has laid out, you will be much more prepared to make the right choices at the right time.
R OLAND S. M ARTIN , host/managing editor of Washington Watch (TV One cable network) and analyst for CNN and the Tom Joyner Morning Show
In her book Where Will You Go from Here? Valorie Burton has provided us with the perfect map for those times when we feel traumatized and cant see the road in front of us. I am excited she has put her words of wisdom on paper. If an unexpected challenge has brought your life to a screeching halt, Valorie will help get you moving again!
C HONDA P IERCE , comedienne, author, and recording artist
W HERE W ILL Y OU G O FROM H ERE?
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C ONTENTS
1 This Isnt the Way You Planned It
When Your World Turns Upside Down
2 Where in the World Are You?
How to Assess the Damage and Get Clear About Exactly Where You Are
3 How Did You End Up Here?
Examining the Path That Led You Here Can Yield Crucial Clues About What to Doand What Not to DoNext
4 What Are You Most Afraid Of?
Calling Out Your Fears Is the First Step to Conquering Them
5 How Can You Regain Your Confidence?
Finding Stability and Strength to Prepare for Your Comeback
6 Where Can You Turn for Help?
Learning to Receive with Grace and Humility
7 Where Will You Go from Here?
Deciding Whether to Forge a New Path or Return to the Old One
8 Do You Need to Redefine Yourself?
Gaining a Clearer Picture of Your Authentic Self and Coming to Terms with Your New Identity
9 Whats the Best Way to Get There from Here?
Designing Your Comeback, Step by Step
10 Are Your Thoughts Holding You Back?
Thinking Carefully About How You Think
11 Why Dont You Feel Happier by Now?
Reclaiming Your Joy Even Before Your Comeback Is Complete
12 How Can You Find the Good in All This?
Growing Through Your Trials, Not Just Going Through Them
Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.
J OHN W OODEN
This Isnt the Way You Planned It
When Your World Turns Upside Down
L ife has a way of taking us by surprise. One day everything seems fine. Youre making progress toward your professional and financial goals, youre finally getting in shape, youre making plans for the future, and bam, youre knocked senseless by some unexpected development. Suddenly everything you believed to be true about your life is in question. Youre disoriented. Youre scared. And you may feel as if youve landed in a foreign, lonely place.
My guess is you picked up this book because you know exactly what Im talking about. Some unexpected turn in your life story has left you not only deeply disappointed but also unsure of what do to next. So my goal is to help you answer this vital question: where will you go from here? Whatever has sent your life plans careening off coursean unplanned career change, the death of a marriage, a health crisis, or something else altogetherIve written this book with your unique emotions, challenges, and destiny in mind.