Allison DuBois - We Are Their Heaven: Why the Dead Never Leave Us

Dont Kiss Them Good-bye

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This book is dedicated to Joe, my fantastic husband, and my incredible little girls. They have made my life sweet and meaningful. Words can never express my gratitude for their love.

To those who live and those who live again. Especially, little Lindsey Whelchel who died young but touched many.

I also dedicate We Are Their Heaven to some of the best mediums/friends to have ever lived. You have helped pave the way for those who will follow behind us and who will learn from us and hopefully exceed us.

I would like to thank Laurie Campbell, who will never be surpassed as a medium or friend; George Dalzell, who has more energy and heart of most anyone I know; and Sally Owen, not only a great medium but a woman whose character can never be questionedits outstanding. We have all since left the lab, having contributed many years of our lives to science, and now we move forward helping clients and law enforcement to bring the change that we were born to bring.

Joe DuBois

How Do I Know?

Even before Allison completed her first book, her mind was already working on this one. She already knew the title would be We Are Their Heaven and had a clear idea of what it would be about. She told me that people often ask her about heaven. I began thinking, What a great idea, I love heaven! I also enjoyed writing a chapter in her first book and hoped to be able to do it again, but who am I to write about heaven? I am not a heaven expert. I have not been there, but I hope to go (no time soon). I have only read one book on the topic, which is helpful but hardly exhaustive research.

I am an expert at some things. I do know my wife, Allison. She is an expert on what happens after we die. That may seem like a bold statement, but it is one I am confident in making. I have known this wonderful woman for thirteen years. I know her daily life. I have seen her at her strongest, when her guard is up and she is ready to take on the world. I have seen her win a war of words with radio interviewers who are more interested in their own agenda than in getting to know Allison or learning about life after death. I have seen her in her most vulnerable state, when her guard is down and she is loving her family as a mother and a wife. At these times, her heart is open to us and she lets me in. It is an amazing privilege to go there with her. If I need to be clearer, I love my wife and I am very proud of her.

I also know a thing or two about aerospace engineering, aka rocket science. Much debate can be held over a cold beer as to who is permitted to don the moniker rocket scientist, and I am actually a little embarrassed when people call me this. I am embarrassed because I would reserve the title for heroes of mine like Robert Goddard or Wernher von Braun, who were both geniuses in the development of modern rocketry. Allison quickly reminds me that I have spent my career in aerospace on projects including experimental satellites, jet engine valves, and yes, as a matter of fact, rocket engine valve performance analysis and control system design.

At this point you are asking yourself, If this is a book about heaven, why is he writing about himself? I am writing about myself because I want to establish that I am a critical thinker. When I am confronted with an anomalous situation, I do not immediately jump to any conclusion. I try to thoughtfully and rationally come to terms with the very interesting things that happen around my house. I now tell you what I have learned about Allison and what she does as a medium so that you may hear her message and take it to heart.

Allisons mediumship ability is a natural talent, a gift, some would say. She did not go to school to develop her abilities. However, she has spent a life honing her skills by practicing and not accepting mediocrity. Her talent is not different from what many people experience on a daily basis. Hers is just clearer and more obvious.

Since she has had this ability her entire life, she has known that a persons consciousness, whatever that may be, survives the death of the body. This has profoundly shaped who Allison is. Whereas most of us have to rely on belief and faith to comprehend heaven, Allison has to deal with it in a more visual sense.

Allison grew up knowing that when people die, they remain closely connected with the people left behind. They are close, yet they might as well be a million miles away because they can rarely be seen or heard by their living loved one. She was taught as a child to believe in an ethereal heaven that was described in an abstract way and involved many rules for proper entry, yet she plainly saw people who had died all around her. Being put in a situation where she saw one thing and was taught something slightly different would prove to be very frustrating. Thankfully, Allison worked through it and developed a very strong sense of self and the ability to be strong in her convictions. Allison sees the world in black and white with no gray. Allison does not live by rules, she lives by what she feels is right and is guided by her heart.

Allison and I have had the why me conversation several times. This is the conversation where she questions why she has her gift. The most recent time was this past summer. It was a family Sunday. We went swimming with our children, then followed up with a delicious barbecue. In typical American fashion, I grilled the hamburgers and Allison made a nice macaroni salad. I have a great secret hamburger recipe that Allison loves. I suggest that every dad should have one, even if it is just adding a little teriyaki sauce to the beef. Mine is more complicated and does not involve teriyaki, but it lets my kids know that I love them because I take extra time to make the meal just the way they like it. Fallon often helps me make the burgers. One time she snuck a pinch of sugar into the sauce. I did not tell anyone, and everyone loved the burgers that night. Now she is in charge of her own special secret ingredient. Please dont tell her that I shared her secret ingredient.

After this wonderful day, our children decided to go inside to play, and Allison and I remained on the patio to enjoy a glass of wine. This is when the why me conversation started. This question was asked not in a woeful way but more as part of a search for purpose. In Allisons life, she searches for the purpose of events. I, on the other hand, am more content to believe that some things just are the way they are without greater purpose. Time and time again, Allison will point out how a series of seemingly random and unconnected events, when taken as a whole, show a bigger plan.