Mason Paul T - Stop Walking on Eggshells : Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Stop Walking on Eggshells makes good on its promise to restore the lives of people in close relationships with someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). It is a rich guide to understanding and coping with the reactions aroused in others by troubling BPD behaviors that negatively impact relationships. Readers will find this book very useful and beneficial.

Nina W. Brown, Ed.D., professor and Eminent Scholar at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA, author of Children of the Self-Absorbed

This book is the absolute go-to guide for my clients who are dealing with a loved one with borderline personality disorder. Readable and thorough, it strikes a perfect balance of practical advice and emotional sensitivity. This book has helped so many people break through their sense of confusion and isolation by helping them to name, understand, and respond to the difficulties of this complex and misunderstood disorder.

Daniel E. Mattila, M.Div., LCSW

This book is urgently needed now that a National Institutes of Health study shows that 6 percent of the general population has borderline personality disorder (BPD). I constantly get requests from families needing resources on BPD, and I recommend Stop Walking On Eggshells almost every time. This second edition is really easy to read and packed with even more useful tips for family members in distress.

Bill Eddy, LCSW, attorney, mediator, clinical social worker, and author of High Conflict People in Legal Disputes and Splitting

Amazingly, Stop Walking On Eggshells not only teaches readers how to recognize the signs of borderline personality disorder, it also shows how they can make life and relationship decisions based on what they want and need instead of decisions controlled by the illness.

Julie A. Fast, author of Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

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Copyright 2010 by Paul T. Mason & Randi Kreger

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Acquired by Catharine Sutker; Cover design by Amy Shoup; Edited by Kimberlee Roth

Epub ISBN: 978-1-60882-046-7

The Library of Congress has cataloged the print edition as:

Mason, Paul T., M.S.

Stop walking on eggshells : taking your life back when someone you care about has borderline personality disorder / Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger. -- 2nd ed.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-690-4 (pbk. : alk. paper)

ISBN-10: 1-57224-690-1 (pbk. : alk. paper)

ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-770-3 (pdf ebook)

ISBN-10: 1-57224-770-3 (pdf ebook)

1. Borderline personality disorder--Popular works. 2. Borderline personality disorder--Patients--Family relationships. I. Kreger, Randi. II. Title.

RC569.5.B67M365 2009

616.85852--dc22

2009044345

Fasten your seatbelts. Its going to be a bumpy night.

Bette Davis, All About Eve

No matter how confused, self-doubting, or ambivalent we are about whats happening in our interactions with other people, we can never entirely silence the inner voice that always tells us the truth. We may not like the sound of the truth, and we often let it murmur just outside our consciousness, not stopping long enough to listen. But when we pay attention to it, it leads us toward wisdom, health, and clarity. That voice is the guardian of our integrity.

Susan Forward, Ph.D.

This book is for the children, young and old, whose lives have been affected by borderline personality disorder. And to our teachers: the hundreds of people who told us their stories, shared their tears, and offered us their insight. You made this book possible.