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Your emotions contain brilliant information. When you learn to welcome them as your allies, they can reveal creative solutions to any situation. For 35 years, empathic counselor and researcher Karla McLaren has developed a set of practical tools for the real-world stresses of family, career, and the quest for personal fulfillment. In The Language of Emotions, she presents her breakthrough teachings for a new and empowering relationship with your feeling states.
Your emotionsespecially the dark and dishonored oneshold a tremendous amount of energy. Weve all seen what happens when we repress or blindly express them. However, there is a powerful alternative. In The Language of Emotions, youll learn to meet your emotions and engage with them to safely move toward resolution and equilibrium. Through experiential exercises covering a full spectrum of feelings from anger, fear, and shame to jealousy, grief, joy, and more, you will discover how to work with your own and others emotions with fluency and expertise.
When we relate to our emotions with respect and authenticity, we can directly access our innermost wisdom, unfold the deepest parts of ourselves, and heal our most painful wounds. The Language of Emotions gives us a much-needed resource for self-understanding and freedom:
  • How to overcome addictions, distractions, and unresolved traumathe three primary impediments to emotional ease
  • Using the energy of anger to protect and restore personal boundaries
    • Step-by-step guidance in the five skills of the empath (someone skilled in reading emotions)
    • How to balance your quaternity, a metaphor for the interplay of mind, body, spirit, and emotions
    • Honoring sadness as a source of release and rejuvenation
Joy, the natural response to beauty and communion
Praise
In my graduate education in counseling psychology, I found very little information about our emotions. Yet in my work as a therapist and educator, Ive seen that emotions are key to healing. Karla McLarens book offers an outstanding guide to the signals and messages emotions send us, along with clear instructions for intelligent and emotion-supporting actions we can take in response. Karla has made a huge contribution to the well-being of us all; The Language of Emotions will become required reading in all of my courses.Nancy Feehan, MFT, adjunct professor of counseling psychology at the University of San Francisco
Karla McLarens unique, empathic view of emotions surprisingly revalues even the most negative emotions and opens pathways to understanding the depths of the human soul.
Michael Meade, author of The World Behind the World and The Water of Life
This book changed the way I relate to others, and to myself, forever.
Gavin De Becker, author of The Gift of Fear
Table of Contents
Part I: Restoring Your Native Language
  1. Introduction- Creating a Conscious Life
  2. My Empathic Journey- The Difficult Beginnings of Empathy
  3. Troubled Waters How We Got So Confused
  4. It Takes a Village Surrounding Your Emotions With Support
  5. Reviving Your Essential Nature Making Room for Your Central Self
  6. Avoidance, Addiction, and AwakeningUnderstanding the Need for Distractions
  7. Unintentional ShamansThe Role of Trauma in Soul-Making and Culture-Binding
  8. The Role of Emotions in the Resolution of TraumaWater Will Carry You Home
  9. The Steadfast Promise Why Love is Not an Emotion
  10. Building Your RaftThe Five Empathic Skills
PART II : Embracing Your Emotions
  1. Wading Into the Water Awakening All of Your Emotions
  2. Anger: Protection and RestorationIncludes Rage, Fury, and the Healing of Trauma
  3. Apathy and BoredomThe Mask for Anger
  4. Guilt and ShameRestoring Integrity
  5. HatredThe Profound MirrorIncludes Resentment, Contempt, Disgust, and Shadow Work
  6. Fear: Intuition and Action Includes Anxiety, Worry, and the Healing of Trauma
  7. Confusion: The Mask for Fear
  8. Jealousy and Envy: Relational RadarIncludes Greed
  9. Panic and Terror: Frozen Fire Includes Healing from Trauma
  10. Sadness: Release and Rejuvenation: Includes Despair and Despondency
  11. Grief: The Deep River of the Soul
  12. Depression: Ingenious StagnationFocusing on Situational Depression
  13. Suicidal Urges: The Darkness Before Dawn
  14. Happiness: Amusement and Anticipation
  15. Contentment: Appreciation and Recognition
  16. Joy: Affinity and CommunionIncludes Exhilaration and Honoring Happiness in Others
  17. Stress and Resistance: Understanding Emotional Physics
  18. Emotions Are Your Native LanguageThe Fine Art of a Life Well Lived

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Copyright Preface On the morning of Friday July 3 2009 three days before I - photo 1

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Preface

On the morning of Friday, July 3, 2009, three days before I was due to turn in my first draft of this book, my friend Esm called to tell me that she couldnt awaken my mother. It was a shock, but I knew what it meant because Mom had been on and off hospice with end-stage renal failure for five years. I told Esm that Id be right over, and I grabbed my son, Eli, just in case we had to lift Mom or, I dont know ... something.

As we drove over to Moms apartment, I was calm but focusedthinking ahead about whom to call; going through Moms meds in my mind; seeking possible drug interactions; letting Eli know what we might see; and preparing myself. When we arrived at Moms twenty minutes later, and I saw my mothers body, gray and motionless in her bed, my own body began to sob boom, as quickly as that. My mind was considering possibilities and ideas, but my body knew what was going on. I dropped immediately into full-on grief, but because I was immersed in this book youre holding, I didnt fight my grief or try to appear pulled together. I trusted my body and my emotions to do what was necessary, and I didnt interfere.

We called doctors, the hospice, and family; we organized food and learned (clumsily) how to care for Moms comatose body, and I cried throughout the days and nights that followed. I didnt cry ceaselessly, because thats not how grief works; I cried in a kind of responsive rhythm, in waves. I was able to function and cry, sleep, eat, cry, order meds and report to hospice, talk on the phone, cry, organize things, cry, welcome visitors, go home and shower, and cry.

On Saturday night (about twenty hours into her coma), after everyone had watched Fourth of July fireworks from the balcony at Moms, I was alone with her. I set up some cushions on the floor next to her bed so that I could hear if she needed anything, and I tried to sleep. But I couldnt. I was completely exhausted, but all I could do was cry about the despair and losses in Moms life, the pileup of estrangements that haunted her, the continually missed opportunities for her to be honest and vulnerable with others. And suddenly, I realized that I couldnt stop crying because I was feeling my moms grief instead of my own. I couldnt relax, I couldnt stop obsessing about her losses, and I couldnt sleepwhich told me that this wasnt my grief, because my grief doesnt torment me like that.

So I got up on one elbow and said out loud, Mom, Ive done enough. Im not going to feel all the grief you refused to feel. You know I love you, but you screwed up! I cant fix it for you, and I need some sleep. My body relaxed, I lay back down, and I rolled over and went to sleep. Not for long, because comatose bodies need a lot of care, but I did sleep. That miserable and alien form of grief never returned, but my own comforting grief did, and I cried and grieved in healthy ways throughout the rest of the long weekend.

Mom died on Monday morning, July 6, and with the help of my sister-in-law Janelle, Moms hospice nurse, Carmen, and Esm, we washed and dressed Moms body. I did Moms makeup because she came from an age when women didnt go out without their face on, and as we waited for the van from the crematorium to arrive, I felt ... fine. Complete. I didnt need to cry anymore. And this surprised me. I had prepared for her death in my mind for years, and I always saw myself grief-stricken, angry, exhausted, and wanting to be completely alone for weeks or months on end. But I was wrong. My emotions jumped in and totally took care of me.

After a few days of sleeping, I got right back to this book, and I turned it in just two weeks late. I think people were expecting me to fall apart, but I didntbecause I did the falling apart while Mom was dying. I dont have to do it for the rest of my life. Thats the astonishing secret that lives inside the emotional realm: If you trust and attend to your emotions, theyll take care of you. If you dont, your life will be pretty miserable, and youll leave a mess for others to clean up.

Emotions kept me company and protected me on one of the hardest weekends of my life. I am grateful to them and I love them; theyre astonishing, powerful, healing, and humorous, and Im honored to be able to translate their language into something that I hope will help you as much as it helps me. Welcome.

A note before you begin: The work I do occurs in a sacred and private space that does not lend itself to the presentation of case studies or composite histories. In this book, I rely instead upon storytelling, analogies, and personal experiences in order to create a similar kind of sacred space with you.

You are the expert of your own experienceno book, system, ideology, or person should ever be allowed to supplant your own wisdom. If the ideas and practices in this book make sense to you, use them with my blessing. If they dont make sense, ignore them with my blessing. If youre struggling with repetitive anxieties, depressions, panics, rages, or any other emotional state that isnt working for you, its important to get yourself checked out by your doctor or therapist. Theres help for all of us now, and its good help; therefore, if your chemistry, your heredity, or your past history have created imbalances in your brain or your emotional realm, then by all means, get thee to the doctor. There will definitely be work for you to do with all of your emotionsquestions to ask, things to considerwhether youre on medications or not. The important thing is to make sure youre safe, comfortable, and well cared for before you begin. Honor your individuality and your unique emotional makeup, make changes at your own pace (or not at all), and approach this work with due caution and a deep dedication to your own integrity.

Blessings and Peace,
Karla McLaren
December 18, 2009

PART I

Restoring Your Native Language
Beyond sculptures and symphonies,
beyond great works and masterpieces
is the greater, finer art of creating a conscious life.
Genius appears everywhere,
but never so magnificently
as in a life well lived.
Introduction
Creating a Conscious Life

How would it feel to set strong boundaries for yourself while simultaneously building close and healthy relationships? Or to have full-time intuitive knowledge about yourself and your surroundings? What could you accomplish if you had an internal compass that unerringly brought you back to your truest path and your deepest self? Or if you had free access to a constant source of energy, rejuvenation, and certainty?

Each of these abilities lives within you right now; they live within your emotions. With the help of your emotions, you can become selfaware and immensely resourceful in your relationships. If you can learn to focus and work honorably with the incredible information inside each of your feeling states, you can become intimately connected to the source of your intelligence, you can hear the deepest parts of yourself, and you can heal your most profound wounds. If you can learn to see your emotions as tools of your deepest awareness, youll be able to move forward as a whole and functional person. This should be wonderful news, but our cultures deeply conflicted attitudes about emotions make this rather difficult to accept.

Our current understanding of emotion lags far behind our understanding of nearly every other aspect of life. We can chart the universe and split the atom, but we cant seem to understand or manage our natural emotional reactions to provoking situations. We work with nutrition and exercise to increase our energy, but we ignore the richest source of energy we possessour emotions. We are intellectually brilliant, physically resourceful, spiritually imaginative, but emotionally underdeveloped. This is a shame because emotions contain indispensable vitality that can be channeled toward self-knowledge, interpersonal awareness, and profound healing. Unfortunately, we dont treat them as such. Instead, emotions are categorized, celebrated, vilified, repressed, manipulated, humiliated, adored, and ignored. Rarely, if ever, are they

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