Peggy Post - Emily Posts Etiquette: The Definitive Guide to Manners, Completely Revised and Updated

Dos and donts for baby showers, coming-of-age celebrations, and birthday and anniversary parties... Reaffirming marriage vows...The ABCs of gift giving... The last word on gift registries and regifting...Offering condolences in times of sorrow...The changing funeral service... On-line memorials... Behavior in your own house of worship and those of other faiths....

Chapter Twenty-nine Celebrating Lifes Stages Chapter Thirty Giving and Receiving Gifts Chapter Thirty-one Grieving and Condolences Chapter Thirty-two Attending Religious Services

Part Seven

Weddings

Making the engagement official... Keeping wedding plans from spinning out of control...Is a destination wedding a good idea?... Invitation styles and tim ing... Six invitation mistakes to avoid...Gift registries and their alternatives...The personalized ceremony and reception, including same-sex unions ...The good

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guest...Marrying again (and again?)... Breaking with tradition....

Chapter Thirty-three The Engagement Chapter Thirty-four Planning the Big Event Chapter Thirty-five The Nuts and Bolts of Preparation Chapter Thirty-six Wedding Invitations and Announcements Chapter Thirty-seven Wedding Attire Chapter Thirty-eight Wedding Gifts Chapter Thirty-nine Your Day Chapter Forty A Guide for Wedding Guests Chapter Forty-one Remarriage Chapter Forty-two New Times, New Traditions

Part Eight

You and Your Job

Getting along with coworkers and supervisors...Dealing with workplace dilem mas...Cubicle etiquette... Keeping meetings running smoothly... Business meals, office parties, and other entertainments...Relationships between the sexes....

Chapter Forty-three Life in the Workplace Chapter Forty-four The Social Side

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Part Nine

Travel and Leisure

The new airplane etiquette... Rules of the road... Smooth sailing on cruises... Adjusting your cultural lens overseas...Your tipping questions answered...The ubiquitous tip jar ...Audience etiquette... Hiking, camping, and boating dos and donts... good sportsmanship for tennis players and golfers, skiers and skaters... Staying on your toes at fitness centers and athletic events....

Chapter Forty-five Traveling Near and Far Chapter Forty-six The Finer Points of Tipping Chapter Forty-seven Performances in Public Places Chapter Forty-eight Sports and Recreation

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A Note to Reader s

What a pleasure it is to bring you an all-new, completely rewritten edition of a book that has been a staple of American life for eighty-two years! Times are changing so rap idly its a challenge for most of us to keep up, but Im happy to assure you that helping people adapt has been a mainstay of the Emily Post philosophy from the beginning.

Emily knew when she wrote Etiquette:The Blue Book of Social Usage (1922) that it was time for a reappraisal of the Victorian rules of etiquette. As a result, her revolu tionary book discounted manners as rigid rules, tied them instead to ethics and values, and saw them as belonging to people from all walks of life. She also stressed that man ners should be fluid, adaptable not only to the times but to the situation at hand. The same is true today. Considering the stuffiness of the etiquette books that had gone be fore, my great-grandmother-in-law would probably have told her readers to lighten up! had the phrase been around in her day.

As Victorianism gave way to the Jazz Age, the more informal approach to things foreshadowed the casualness that infuses virtually every aspect of life in the twenty- [ xii i ] first century, from the way we communicate to how we dress. Where does todays more anything goes attitude leave etiquette? Given the pressures of modern life, more in demand than ever! The many letters I receive through my monthly columns in Good Housekeeping and Parents magazinesnot to mention the e-mails sent to the Emily Post Institute Web sitesuggest that Americans are very much interested in the basic courtesies and want to deal respectfully and courteously with others. They clearly want answers for ways to get along with one another, even if the answers are sometimes complex.