Ruminating over decisions and problems can waste all kinds of time. In this upbeat and encouraging book, Anne shows readers how to escape this mental trap and free up space for lifes adventures.
Laura Vanderkam , author of Off the Clock and Juliet s School of Possibilities
Any interaction with Anne or her work leaves me feeling calmer about life. Shes our wise internet sister who always has solid advice, and this book is no exception.
Kendra Adachi , author of The Lazy Genius Way
With her signature combination of best-friend warmth and expert insight, Anne Bogel has provided a gift in Don t Overthink It. For those of us who care about living wisely and contributing well, Anne offers practical, rich perspective on how we can make decisions without getting stuck in what-ifs. Don t Overthink It will be a companion for readers as they make transformative decisions and find themselves stumped by everyday dilemmas.
Beth Silvers , coauthor of I Think Youre Wrong (But I m Listening) and cohost of the Pantsuit Politics podcast
Ive been reading Anne Bogel for over a decade. As I look back, I see that her words have led me to some of the most important insights of my life. Her gift is showing how small shiftsespecially in how we thinkcan open up a new perspective and a new path. While many of us struggle with a world full of choices, both big and small, Don t Overthink It does what Anne always doesshows us theres another way.
Sarah Stewart Holland , coauthor of I Think Youre Wrong (But Im Listening) and cohost of the Pantsuit Politics podcast
As a card-carrying member of Overthinkers Anonymous, I didnt just want Anne Bogel to write this book, I needed her to write it. I am so grateful she did. This isnt just a book about overthinking; its a practical, doable guide to stop doing itand to find the wholeness and freedom that come from taking the steps Anne has so thoughtfully provided.
Marybeth Mayhew Whalen , author of nine novels, chronic overthinker, and cofounder of She Reads
Anne Bogel can read our minds, and our minds are overthinking. She gets it, and she has real answers instead of pithy platitudes. We dont want to live this wayruminating and caught in negative thought patternsand Bogel teaches us the way out. With personal tales of wisdom, humor, and truth, Don t Overthink It helps us break free. This book will be a permanent fixture on my nightstand.
Patti Callahan Henry , New York Times bestselling author of Becoming Mrs. Lewis
2020 by Anne Bogel
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For
Jackson, Sarah,
Lucy, and Silas.
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.
Maya Angelou
With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.
Proverbs 4:23
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Epigraphs
1. How We Spend Our Lives
Part 1: Set Yourself Up for Success
2. Work the Process
3. Watch What Youre Doing
4. Decide What Matters
5. Take Time to Make Time
Part 2: Take Charge
6. Speed Up to Move On
7. Tend Your Garden
8. Limit Yourself to Free Yourself
9. Get Someone Else to Do It
Part 3: Let the Sun Shine In
10. When Things Go Sideways
11. Rituals to Rely On
12. Lets Splurge
13. Small Shifts toward Simple Abundance
14. The Ripple Effect
Acknowledgments
Notes
For Further Reading
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
1
How We Spend Our Lives
Far more than you may realize, your experience, your world, and even your self are the creations of what you focus on .
Winifred Gallagher
I m scheduled to depart for Nashville in twenty-seven hours, and I cant stop refreshing the forecast. I have a million things to do before I leavemore than I can possibly accomplishyet I persist in hitting refresh. I can see its not helping; its actually making things worse. Yet I keep doing it.
Im driving south to work on a new project, one Ive been planning for months. It wasnt easy to get the date on the calendar, but now its finally here. My hotel has long been booked and my workbag is freshly packed. Ive finalized my itinerary and downloaded a new audiobook for the drive. Theres just one wild card: the weather.
All week long, Ive been monitoring the volatile storms that threaten to derail my plans. The forecast is not for Southern summer pop-up storms but a massive front coming to blanket the region. My friend first noticed the situation at girls night earlier this week. While we chatted and drank half-price glasses of wine, she peered over our shoulders at the silenced meteorologist on the bars TV. Hey, when do you leave for Nashville? she asked. That storm does not look good.
Because weve spent dozens of girls nights discussing our fears, both rational and otherwise, my friends know Im an uneasy road tripper even on sunny days, and I abhor driving through storms. And they know how, just weeks before, my family had been caught in the worst thunderstorm Id ever experienced, right on that same stretch of I-65 I would soon be driving again, solo. We were headed to Florida for our annual beach week; my husband, Will, was behind the wheel. Usually Id be reassured by his steady presence, but this time even he looked fearful. Construction walls meant we couldnt pull over, and the radar showed the rain wouldnt let up for hours. Visibility was practically zero, and Id told my friends after the fact that it was a miracle we didnt end up in a hundred-car pileup on the interstate.
Never again, Id said as I recounted the story.
But the five-day forecast made a repeat performance look possible. Maybe likely . Youd better keep an eye on that forecast, my friend said.
Ive taken my friends words to heart, perhaps too much. This week Ive been checking the weather constantly, hoping the storm would dissipate or its path would shift. Neither sunny outcome has materialized.
Instead of fading out, the storm has intensifiedalong with my anxiety level.
Leaving early isnt an option. I have work to do at home in Louisville. Ive also been traveling a lot this season and am not keen on the idea of leaving my family again. I dont want to miss another family dinner or my sons big baseball game on what promises to be a beautiful summer night.
But I dont see how I can drive two hundred miles in the storm.
So now Im staring at my computer monitor, hoping against hope that my next click will deliver a happier version of reality. But each time, I dont like the new answer The Weather Channel serves upand so I click again, and again. I make myself walk away from the computer to, you know, actually accomplish something , but I cant concentrate with the storm looming. So I sneak back to my screen and check again. I feel more agitated with every click.
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