Olga Sheean - The Alphabet of Powerful Existence: an A-Z guide to well-being, wisdom and worthiness

Many of these themes (such as acceptance, trust, self-expression and validation) refer to what I call our missing pieces essential formative qualities that we needed to have cultivated in us as children, in order to be complete, but failed to get from our parents/teachers/caregivers. As a result, many of these qualities are not a natural part of us and, when we lack any of them, we become distorted and tend to make compromises in the hope of getting the acceptance, respect etc that has been missing. We also come to certain negative subconscious conclusions about our worth often believing ourselves to be unimportant, unacceptable, unlovable or not good enough, as a result. Your mind is your magnet... make it work for you! Our subconscious mind is very magnetic, always attracting to us whatever we need in order to discover, heal, express and empower ourselves, in accordance with how it has been programmed. Our missing pieces represent a key element of our early programming, and they have a powerful impact on the nature and quality of our lives.

They cause us to attract people and situations in which these same qualities are also missing, which means that our partners, friends or colleagues are usually unable to give us the very things we most want from them. This usually results in conflict, heartache and frustration, unless we understand how things work, deep in our subconscious. The key to resolving these issues is to mindfully fill in our missing pieces in practical ways so that the missing qualities become a natural, instinctive part of us and of our lives. By demonstrating and cultivating the very qualities that we seek, we positively reprogram our subconscious minds to work powerfully and positively in our favour. Fill in your missing pieces so you become more complete Think about your life. What qualities are missing or deficient in your relationships, work and/or personal life? They may include trust, respect, validation or intimacy.

Or they might be self-expression, honesty or connection. Whatever qualities you identify are YOUR missing pieces, even if they appear to only be missing in others and not in you. Your missing pieces show up in different ways, and its often difficult for you to identify how they block you or manifest in your life. You can much more readily see whats missing in others, and once you realize that those close to you represent a reflection of whats missing in you (as well as whats wonderful about you), you can begin the work of filling in your own missing pieces which is the most powerful and effective way to make your life work beautifully. The more you practise and demonstrate whatever qualities may have been missing in your relationships, work or personal life, the more you start to attract those qualities in your partners, colleagues, clients and friends. The key to making your life complete, therefore, lies in making yourself complete from the inside out, in as many practical, everyday ways as you can.

As you do this, you automatically attract whatever has been missing in your life and whatever works best for you, even if you dont yet know what that is. This book is a simple guide to making you complete; the more you use it, the deeper you go inside yourself, and the richer, more complete and more fulfilling your life becomes. As you do the all-important work of empowering you, remember that your missing pieces: determine what circumstances and people you attract; cause you to attract partners with the same missing pieces as you; distort/diminish your sense of self, creating insecurity and doubts; leave you with certain faculties undeveloped or unexpressed; bring you challenges designed to strengthen/heal the aspects of you made wobbly by early negative programming; are part of a subconscious program relating to your lifes path; are designed to show you where your true personal power lies; represent the flip side of your greatest strengths. Your missing pieces hold the key to having the life you want. When you fill in your missing pieces in practical ways, you start living life on your terms. By making you #1 in your life, by saying no to whatever doesnt work for you, and by generally demonstrating healthy self-worth, self-respect and self-acceptance, your world starts to revolve around you, rather than you being a reaction to your circumstances.

Things start to work and magic starts to happen. The more you do this, the more things fall into place in accordance with what is best for you, and the easier life becomes. Things start to flow; people start to support you; new opportunities open up; and you start to attract more positive, loving, fulfilling dynamics in your life. You are effectively reprogramming your subconscious mind, which is the most powerful, magnetic part of you and has more control over your life than you can possibly imagine. As you positively reprogram it, by filling in your missing pieces, you begin to realize that you have the power to change your circumstances, to heal your relationships and to thrive in every area of your life. This process inevitably takes you on a journey of self-discovery, healing and personal empowerment, introducing you to parts of yourself that you never knew existed, and making your life more dynamic and fulfilling than you could ever have imagined.

It will also put you in touch with your passions, creativity and greatest strengths, showing you the power and impact of being uniquely, fully, unflinchingly you.