Linda D. Anderson PhD - SILENT AGREEMENTS: how to uncover unspoken expectations and save your relationship

The insightful authors of Silent Agreements offer clarity on how we can approach and resolve those challenging unspoken issues between ourselves and others without fear. They will help illuminate new pathways of understanding, and foster open communication in all your relationships. I recommend this very helpful book for anyone who is committed to creating happy, healthy relationships.

Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling

What a cogent, insightful look at how the agreements we think are presumed and assumed by the very people we most want to understand us rarely are, because of what never gets said. This wise book gives profound voice to the inner silences that can trip up all of our relationships, be they with loved ones or workplace partners. A must-read for those wanting to be truly heard.

Audrey Edwards, coauthor of Children of the Dream: The Psychology of Black Success

We live in an age of ambiguity, in which miscommunication and insincerity are epidemic. This is a time in which people are quick to judge and just as quick to condemn. Silent Agreements is a useful reminder that unexamined certainty is almost always a mistake. But it is first and foremost a book about clarity and how to obtain it. In this age when we are desperately attempting to clarify rules governing consent, where many remain confused over whether yes means yes or no means no, Silent Agreements is hugely illuminating. It is a timely and valued contribution to our mutual understanding not only of each other but of our collective selves. For navigating the often-unspoken assumptions that govern relationships between family members, friends, lovers, spouses, and coworkers, it is the perfect guide.

Ellis Cose, author of The Rage of a Privileged Class and The End of Anger

Silent agreements: what a provocative idea! The authors clearly describe the kinds of silent agreements that can be problematic at home, work, and play, and provide helpful and easy-to-implement advice about how to identify and overcome these powerful expectations that may otherwise derail our relationships.

Matt Bloom, associate professor at the University of Notre Dame

INTRODUCTION
What Silent Agreements Are and How They Affect Our Relationships

CHAPTER 1
Where Do Silent Agreements Come From?

CHAPTER 2
The Four Elements of Change

CHAPTER 3
Silent Agreements About Sex

CHAPTER 4
Silent Agreements About Money

CHAPTER 5
Silent Agreements About Commitment

CHAPTER 6
Silent Agreements About Family

CHAPTER 7
Silent Agreements in the Workplace

CHAPTER 8
Silent Agreements About Health

CHAPTER 9
Your Silent Agreements Tool Kit