Jodi Wilson - Practising Simplicity: Small steps and brave choices for a life less distracted

Dear reader,

This is a letter and also an invitation, one written without presumption or expectation.

As you will learn, this story is about my big life change, which involved selling most of my belongings and packing up my family to travel Australia in a caravan. I was the least likely candidate for such an adventurea self-confessed homebody with a fear of changeand so, while many of the pages in this book are dedicated to sharing my nomadic experience, most of it is actually about the little everyday things, the simple practices we create for ourselves, that carry us from one moment to the next.

I have spoken more about my downfalls than successes in this book. I did so in part to be honest, but also to accurately tell my own story, which has never been linear, but rather, a messy scribble of a journey punctuated with a fair amount of fear and anxiety. That said, in particularly challenging times, simplicity has brought me back to my ground. Ive found clarity and purpose in the simplest habits and rituals, and as Ive learned, over many years of motherhood and a few years on the road, it really is the tiny morsels of joy that remind me what matters, that prove we dont need a lot to live well.

When I feel a little complacent, perhaps even lost, Ive always sought comfort in a book and the voice that rises off the pages. I hope this book is that for yousomething you can reach for when life feels a little too much, when you feel like youve lost your way, or when youre in need of inspiration. Whether youre reading this in your favourite bookstore, in a dark corner of the library, on the bus or tucked up in bed, I want you to know that change is always possible, if only we believe in it, if only we believe in ourselves.

Chapter 1

Choose your own
adventure

The theatre was dimly lit, the quiet punctuated by protesting toddlers who had no intention of sitting in their seats. We were one of many sets of bedraggled parents who had spent the afternoon preparing their children for a school performance at witching hour; dinner was early, the baby was unsettled and we had misplaced two pairs of shoes. Together we arrived in a cloud of hairspray and frazzle, calming nerves and mustering enthusiasm for the two-hour performance ahead of us.

Our sons class was dressed in a hodgepodge of costumes pulled from the backs of wardrobes, but together they told a unified story. One by one they recited lines from legendary Australian childrens author Alison Lesters picture book Are We There Yet? , the true story of her familys three-month road trip around Australia in a camper trailer. We had owned the book for many years and often read it at bedtime, its pages now crumpled and worn and well-loved.

As I watched my firstborn on the stage, my fourth baby was nestled in a sling on my chest, her pout particularly pronounced as she dozed. I had spent the first three months of her life purposefully soaking her in, memorising the details of her face and her milk guzzle, fiercely inhaling her breath and newness because I knew it was all so fleeting. She would be on the stage in a few short years and I would be the proud, nostalgic mother, in awe of her growth and simultaneously grieving for the years that were behind us, her littleness etched into photos and videos and the pieces of my mind that I had filed away for safekeeping.

The story on the stage took us from the coast to the desert, where the sun beat down on the family who travelled on freeways and red dirt roads and into all kinds of adventures. They sat around campfires laughing at bad jokes, gazed out the window on long driving days and spent every waking and dreaming moment together, in all sorts of places all over Australia.

We could do that, whispered my partner Daniel, eyebrows raised and hopeful. We could go on a road trip around Australia.

Yes! I replied, nodding for emphasis in case he hadnt heard.

I will never forget the pleasant confusion on his face or the undeniable mix of fear and excitement that pummelled through my body as I realised what Id just said. Could we really do it? Pack up our lives and hit the road with a rough plan and only the essentials? Spend our hard-earned house deposit on a car and a caravan, and trust that my freelance work would keep us going? It was the very opposite of how we currently lived: darting from home to school and back again, juggling city commutes with extracurricular activities, squeezing in weekends with no plans because the weekdays were full and exhausting and I constantly felt like I was playing catch-up.

A family of six road-tripping around Australia would be a spontaneous adventure that would free us from the sense of obligation that dictated so much of our lives. But I am not an adventurer. Im rather risk-averse; I prefer to know whats coming next so I can have a sensible plan and stick to it. Predictability is always my preference. But still, I wondered: what if? Earlier that same day, we had met with a bank manager about applying for a mortgage. House prices had soared in our part of the world and we were interested to see how much we could borrow. Hed printed out the figures for us and the reality was bleak. After years of saving and months of consideration, we could buy a house that needed significant work, in a suburb we didnt love, and spend the next thirty years paying it off. It would mean continuing to live like we were: juggling and commuting and existing in a cycle of work and sleep, work and sleep. We struggled to make sense of it.