Tiffany Bluhm - Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up

I read this excellent book with a mixture of gratitude and sadness: gratitude for the wisdom offered for leaders in the church and beyond who are charged with handling reports of sexual harassment and abuse, and sadness that I did not have this tool sooner. Bluhm weaves her own experiences with carefully researched information that sheds light where we most need to see and face the truth. I encourage you to read with an open mind and heart, ready and willing to play your part as an advocate for justice and healing. We can and must do better.

Nancy Beach , leadership coach, Slingshot Group; author of Gifted to Lead: The Art of Leading as a Woman in the Church

Ive often believed that something is wrong when we have believers who are passionate for God yet who lack compassion for the wounded and interest in the truth. Tiffanys story is a compelling and necessary look into what happens when loyalty at all cost is put before truth. Her words are a clarion call to believers to finally do the work of holding genuine space for the wounded and the abused, especially when that means having to be critical of ourselves and our institutions.

Leslie Nwoke , founder, HeartWork Now

As a survivor of abuse and exploitation, I have discovered the undeniable power of breaking the silence. In Prey Tell , Tiffany provides readers with two invaluable gifts: brilliantly excavated insight into the systems and practices that silence women, and a roadmap to finding our voices and helping others to find theirs. This timely and important work is sure to open eyes, shatter barriers, and unleash justice.

Harmony Grillo , author of Scars and Stilettos ; founder of Treasures

Prey Tell sounds the alarm on both the obvious and more subtle forms of misogyny that are all too commonboth inside and outside the church today. Every chapter is filled with silence-breakers sharing their stories of harassment and assault, and through their brave honesty, readers are invited to advocate for a better path forward. As a woman in church leadership for close to two decades, I believe this book is an absolute must-read!

Nicole Smithee , CEO and co-founder of Iridescent Women

Bluhm brings passion, insightful research, and biblical conviction to the problem of the harassment, manipulation, and silencing of women. As one who has experienced this treatment while also finding healing and wholeness on the other side, Tiffany is uniquely positioned to help the reader understand not only why and how this abuse happens but also the practical actions each one of us can take to stop it. As a man who serves in leadership, this book will help me to serve as an advocate for the women around me.

Bobby Arkills , executive director, Tacoma Area Youth for Christ

I devoured Prey Tell in one sitting. Every page is rich with compelling true stories, Scripture, and statistics that describe the experiences of women everywhere. Tiffany offers hope for the future, strength for the reader, and solutions for creating communities where women are helped and not harmed. Men and women in positions of leadership, as well as women recovering from abuses of power, will benefit from the wisdom and insight Tiffany provides. This book is timely and necessary.

Ashley Abercrombie , author of Rise of the Truth Teller ; cohost of the Why Tho podcast

For anyone wondering how abuse happens, and why a victim of abuse might not speak up for years, Bluhm does an exquisite job dissecting the factors of power that come into playgender, discrimination, wealth, and seniorityand creates a map to understanding the dynamics that make abuse possible. She then provides steps to allyship in the fight toward building safe systems that dignify women. This is an important read for anyone whos been silenced or done the silencing: in short, everyone.

Blythe Hill , CEO and founder, Dressember Foundation

Bluhm offers clear, concise, and compelling insights on the whys and hows of the silencing of women, offering straightforward steps to end it. She quashes the all-too-common stereotypes and myths about abuse with well-documented and thorough research. If you want to grow in your love and advocacy for women, read this book. My copy is chock-full of highlights. I will return to it again and again.

Eric Schumacher , coauthor of Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women ; cohost of the Worthy podcast with Elyse Fitzpatrick