Relationships For Dummies
by Dr. Kate M. Wachs
Relationships For Dummies
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About the Author
Dr. Kate M. Wachs is a clinical psychologist, relationship expert, and sex therapist. She is Founder and Director of The Relationship Center in Chicago and The Relationship Center Online, the only full-service introduction and counseling center of its kind. Dr. Kate is the only matchmaker-psychologist in the USA, and has been working in the business for about 20 years. For the past seven years, she has worked with America Online in several different capacities, including Psychologist and Relationship Expert for Love@AOL, one of the most popular areas of America Online, where she has received well over a half million letters to date. Dr. Kates AOL site (AOL Keyword: DrKate) and Web site (www.drkate.com) have amassed several million hits/visits over the years. The sites include a free newsletter, a form you can use to e-mail a question to Dr. Kate, an enormous amount of archived advice (browsable and searchable by topic), interactive questionnaires, popular polls, and much more.
A member of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Kate has twice been awarded the honor of Fellow for outstanding and unusual contributions to the science and profession of psychology, particularly in the areas of media psychology and independent practice. She has hosted her own Dr. Kate Radio Show heard across the country on top-rated WGN, and written national columns with circulations over 1,500,000. She is a nationally recognized expert on relationships, dating, online dating, singles, marriage, and sex, and has contributed her expert opinion to Oprah,Donahue, The New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, the Chicago Sun-Times,L.A. Times,Washington Post,USA Today,Time, Newsweek, most of the top U.S. publications and quality TV shows, hundreds of radio programs, and many other national and international media.
Dr. Kate is also the author of Dr. Kates Love Secrets (Paper Chase Press, 2000, go to www.drkate.com), which has been translated into Spanish (Los Secretos del Amor, 2001, Amat Editorial, see drkate.com) and distributed to Spanish-speaking countries and Spanish-speaking areas of the U.S. She has also created a tape series on her books. Dr. Kate is a popular speaker and workshop presenter helping people everywhere to create healthy, joyful relationships and live happy, fulfilling lives.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to my family, my extended family, and my very dear friends: Thanks for giving me a solid home base from which I can venture out to help others. I couldnt do it without you.
Authors Acknowledgments
Many people have nurtured this book to fruition in a variety of ways. First, thanks to my clients and patients at The Relationship Center and The Relationship Center Online, to the readers of my AOL Keyword: DrKate and www.drkate.com Web sites, and to my patients at Bay Medical Center, who have allowed me to learn through them and pass that knowledge on to you. Ive enjoyed you all and hope Ive given you something useful in return.
To my loyal and talented staff at The Relationship Center, especially Claude, Joy, Walt, Mary, Pat, Patti, Lisa, Kristen, Jeff, and Ed thanks for being patient and working hard so I could make time to write; your efforts and support are very much appreciated. I couldnt have done it without you.
Thanks to my AOL coworkers, who have been an absolute joy to work with for the past seven years, especially my Big Bosses: Heather Perram, AOL Executive Director of Creative Programming, known to all as a very kind lady; and Bill Schreiner, currently VP of Product Management/AOL Box Office and former CEO of Love, a loyal friend and family man who puts the C in charisma. Thanks to both of you for making it personal like a team and family, rather than a slice of big business.