Kate Rose - You Only Fall in Love Three Times: The Secret Search for Our Twin Flame

This is dedicated to all who have wondered if they should just give up hope of finding their forever love, who have wondered if they are destined to be alone foreverplease keep going, keep trusting, and know that love always arrives right on time. This is also for all my own loves: all of those whom I have already experienced and those I have yet to. And to my incredible daughters, Emma and Abigail, who will always be my greatest love story.

My Dear Sweet Wild Woman,

Perhaps you have asked yourself why you havent yet found your forever love?

Only when you have learned all you need to about what love isnt will you finally be ready to experience what it is. Only then will you meet the person who is brave enough to love you just as you are.

Perhaps you will meet this wild-eyed warrior over tumblers of sweet whiskey, or it will be a chance encounter when the local barista mistakes your double tall for his mocha grande. Maybe you have met him before, but time had to move mountains to create this moment when you are finally able to see him for who he really is...

Whenever that moment arrivesyou will know.

It was never about you being too much woman, my dear, but about you being too much for someone who didnt yet realize that he was enough.

And when you meet this man who is brave enough to love you, my dear sweet wild woman, you will be thankful that it never worked out with anyone else.

Not only that, you will understand how each previous love was a north star directing you into his arms, because the reality for most of us is we simply arent ready for our first love to be our last. Or our second love either. At the time, each of these loves has seemed heartbreakingly impossible to move on from, but as the days and months pass, we suddenly realize that what we thought was a good fit was only us wishing it so.

Youve hit enough walls and felt the cold rush of air from doors being slammed in your face to understand that the only love you deserve is the one who will meet you halfway. Because the only one who is brave enough to love a woman like you is also the only one who deserves your love. You are unique and special in your thunderstorm of contradictions. Dont ever let anyone tell you differently.

There is magic in the way that you take the mundane and transform it into something beautiful.

Your simple smile can make knees weak and hearts tremble. And its not your fault that every other man before this one was just too caught up in his own storms to really notice you, because the truth is, it was never meant to last before now.

You are a woman who bathes herself in the lemony essence of hope each morning, washing herself of yesterdays mistakes in order to take on the challenges of a new day.

You are a woman who dances in the rain with stardust still sparkling upon your heels from the last time you followed the insanity of your dreams.

Youve always known that you were meant for love, and when you stumble upon the man who just cant seem to get enough of you, youll know that he possesses the courage that every other lover lacked.

Perhaps this man will not appear to be the warrior you seek. Maybe he is tarnished from all the tears he has shed along his own journey, but what he will show you is the bravery of a man who never fears the intensity of your gaze.

He wont be scared off, and he wont let you talk yourself out of love, either, because this man will have spent his life dreaming of a woman exactly like you.

This man, your warrior, your twin flame, will show you not only why he had to be your third love, but why the others had to come before him, and why every tear youve ever shed over love will have served a purpose.

Because occasionally we meet someone who makes us throw out the rule book for love.

You were born different into a world that celebrates similarities, and though it has been hard to honor your uniqueness, when you meet this man, you will finally understand why. Its never been about whether or not you are like everyone else, and its never been because you arent worthy of being loved. Because all you ever needed, my sweet wild woman, is simply a man who is brave enough to love a woman like you.

No doubt there have been men youve stumbled onto, wondering if they were the one, or the beds of men youve rolled out of wondering if the sex could get any better. Then there might have been those who made you forget that you ever thought there was more to life than just behaving well so that you could be accepted by others.

Perhaps you have tasted love but, until now, love has never devoured you.

And while you dont have a desire to dissolve into your lover, the truth is that you want to be ravished, you want to feel love in your bones and the ecstasy of freedom blowing through the tendrils of your hair.

The thing is, my dear, you want it all.

You want the love that time lies down forthe one that twirls you around so fast you spin like the stars above. Yet it must go slow like luscious Southern honey, and taste just as sweet. This love needs to be strong, yet soft enough to comfort you on your hardest days. You want to know whats to come, yet there should be moments as unexpected as shooting stars flashing across the darkened night sky.

And who ever told you that you were wrong for wanting it all? Why has this become an unrealistic standard? I suppose the biggest question of all is, why did you believe them?

The reality is that sometimes the path to forever takes longer than we expected.

I wish that I could say there is a formula for love, and if you follow it, youll end up happy, but youve tried that. Whether he stayed for two years leaving only debt and worn-out sneakers under the bed, or your only memory of love is the children that came from it, whatever happened was worth it because its brought you to this moment.

Youve tried it every which way, and probably then some. Youve read all the latest self-help books, purchased the latest shade of lipstick, and that dress that seemed to suit the part, and still you find yourself going to bed alone each evening wondering what you are doing wrong and why it seems that everyone is happy except you.