Rob Fazio - BullyProof: Using Subtle Strength to Influence Alphas and Strengthen Society

BullyProof

As Royal Air Force Aircrew, having an Alpha personality was part of the selection process. Operating alongside, and communicating with Alpha type personalities to provide a conducive and positive result to a common objective, takes a cognitive and purposeful approach. When its done successively the results are fantastic, however, when done within a corrosive environment with a lack of skill and knowledge of the approach, the results can be disastrous. BullyProof will supply those new to this communication style the skills required to maintain a positive outcome when dealing with Alpha personalities. For those trained and experienced in leadership and soft skills, BullyProof will provide additional tools for the leadership toolbox. A must read when dealing with Alpha personalities amongst a new generation.

Martin Naylor , Former Royal Air Force Aircrew and IT leader at Raymond James

Rob has a natural ability to make complex theories both accessible and practical for easy application within our day-to-day lives. BullyProof builds on both Simple is the New Smart and Robs extensive professional experience to hit all the marks.

Eric D. McCollum , MD, MPH Associate Professor, Department of Pediatrics, Johns Hopkins School of Medicine

The abuse and misuse of power have long been problems in the institutions we inhabit. Despite this being the case, there have been very little prescriptive resources to combat bullying.

Fazio changes that by taking us through a psychological framework that allows us to recognize bullying in ourselves as well as the environments around us. With his framework, perhaps we truly will be able to BullyProof our society.

Tayo Rockson - Author of Use Your Difference To Make A Difference

In this amazing book, Dr. Rob Fazio demonstrates that no matter how dysfunctional the behavior of toxic Alpha people are in our livesat the workplace or at homewe have power to self-coach ourselves to mitigate and even reverse the damage. Given his experiences and research, BullyProof offers the reader a host of compelling strategies. One of them H.O.W. is designed to help us understand habits, obstacles, and most importantly, how to create a way forward. Regardless of your current situation, this valuable book is just the ticket to empower and protect you from needless struggle. If youre looking for a hands-on road map for taking charge of your life and circumstances, this is it. No ifs, ands, or buts!

Joseph Luciani , Ph.D. International bestselling author of Self-Coaching

Bullyingin the workplace, in the political arena, in relationshipsis on the rise, a product of our global stress and uncertainty unbalancing and overwhelming our ability to cope and perform. Combine that with out-moded ideas about driving performance and do more with less environments, sprinkled with a touch of emotional tone-deafness, and voila, bullies are born. And, as Rob Fazio points out in his new book, BullyProof , because so often bullying pays off, at least in the short-term, with faster results. The residual human and financial cost, to the bullied and to the organizations that tolerate bullying, however, is enormous.

If you have ever been bullied and want to know how to respond more effectively, or if you suspect that you yourself may be resorting to bullying and want to fix that, this book is for you. Packed with stories from a variety of high-performance domains, BullyProof takes you from theory to practice with specific strategies and tools. You will understand, learn, and be to equipped to respond to yourself, those key relationships, and through to an organizational level to achieve better outcomes even in high pressure situations with less human suffering and collateral damage. The world needs this book more than ever right now and Im glad Rob Fazio wrote it.

Kirsten Peterson , PhD, Performance Psychologist at Kirsten Peterson Consulting and Former Senior Sport Psychologist at the United States Olympic Committee

An insightful journey that activates its readers into putting learning to action.

Talapady Srivatsa Bhat , Engineering Manager at Samsung

As a sales executive who has run sales teams of 100+ and smaller teams as well, one thing that is always a challenge is being able to communicate effectively and keeping the team motivated. During my tenure, I have had the unfortunate responsibility of managing aggressive, condescending and dominant sales people and managers and I wish BullyProof was around to help guide my communication. Robs guidance on developing Value Based Power and leveraging your Subtle Strength has helped how I think about managing tough employees while refining how I think about my communication and approach with clients. Rob helped me think about how I can better engage and influence people through Motivational Currency and truly understand what motivates and drives behaviors of my sales team. What an outstanding opportunity to learn and grow both personally and professionally. I cant advocate enough for BullyProof and what it has done for me as a sales leader.

David Gensler , Chief Revenue Ocer, Basis Technologies

In a world where we need more kindness, allyship and positivity, BullyProof offers sound and applicable advice on how to manage stressful dynamics while offering empathy and strength. BullyProof gives the answer to the question, how do I own my power and authenticity and encourage others to do the same. Rob Fazio a guide to creating strength out of stress.

Barb Cowan , Vice President Talent and Inclusion Comcast Advertising at Comcast

BULLY

PROOF

Using Subtle Strength
to Influence Alphas
and Strengthen Society

ROB FAZIO , PhD

NEW YORK

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BULLY PROOF

Using Subtle Strength to Influence Alphas and Strengthen Society

2022 Rob Fazio, PhD

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To the alphas I love and learn from, my wife Keli and daughters Reese and Rae.

Were Kind, Were Strong, and We Help People.

And to Dad. If you were around today, youd be the second person in line to buy a copy. The first person would be the one that got ahead because you were kind enough to Hold the Door.

Thank you. 143.

None of us can control where we grow up, but all of us can control how we show up. I am grateful I grew up in Bergen County, New Jersey. I had everything a kid could want. The area provided me with many opportunities and important life lessons. My grandparents and cousins lived in Queens and visiting them allowed me to meet people from all walks of life. My dad worked as a senior executive in downtown New York City. He grew up in the Bronx with very few resources, and his dedication to his family and friends and his desire to be a good boss opened many doors.