THEOLOGY of HOME
THEOLOGY of HOME
Finding the Eternal in the Everday
CARRIE GRESS
NOELLE MERING
Photography by KIM BAILE
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Theology of Home: Finding the Eternal in the Everyday 2019 Carrie Gress
& Noelle Mering.
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For Hazel, whose warmth, belief, and love
deepens my connection to the essence of home.
To my mom, Sharon, who rests in her eternal
home. And to Mark, for you are my home.
KB
For the Miller, Warner, and Wingate
families, with gratitude for your ever-gracious
hospitality and friendship.
CG
For Adam, my home this side of heaven,
and my beloved Abby, Jack, Campion,
Caroline, Vivienne, and Vera.
NM
Introduction
Home.
It is an elegant word, at once both simple and far-reaching. Home is that
place where we are meant to be safe, nurtured, known for who we are, and
able to live and love freely. Even for those from broken homes or homes that
no longer exist, there is still something in the idea that pulls at us.
Homes universal appeal populates culture. Take Me Home, Country
Road, Sweet Home Alabama,and Ill Be Home for Christmas are just
a few of the many songs that invoke the theme. Movies and literature end
happily with protagonists, like Odysseus, finally going home. The entire goal
of the American pastime of baseball is to be safe at home. YouTube videos of
joyful homecomings of perfect strangers fill up our social media feeds and
can leave us in tears. We spend billions of dollars constructing and decorating
our own houses, turning them into Home Sweet Home, while converts to
the Catholic faith, like Scott and Kimberly Hahn, speak of finally coming to
find Rome Sweet Home.
This all begs the question: Why? Why the fascination and universal appeal
of home? What is it about this place that so captures our minds and spirits?
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Home Is Where Life Unfolds
Our homes are the great theatre where the drama of our lives unfolds. G. K.
Chesterton eloquently said:
The place where babies are born, where men die, where the
drama of mortal life is acted, is not an office or a shop or a
bureau. It is something much smaller in size and much larger
in scope. And while nobody would be such a fool as to pre
tend that it is the only place where people should work, or
even the only place where women should work, it has a char
acter of unity and universality that is not found in any of the
fragmentary experiences of the division of labour.
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Home is, as Chesterton said, small in comparison to a business or office
but enormous in terms of the impression it makes and leaves upon us. Home,
by its nature, is meant to be a foreshadowing of heaven. It is to be both sat
isfying in this earthly life while also offering a glimpse of things to come
when we see the fulfillment of Christs promise of heaven. Pope St. John Paul
IIs final words in this life were: Let me go to the house of the Father. He
wanted to go hometo the home where all of us are willed by God to go,
even if he allows our own will to lead us elsewhere.
When I was at home I was in a better place.
WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE
Ironically, despite the innate human desire that there is for home, the
notion that someone would actually want to make a home, providing a place
of safety, love, order, education, and hospitality, has fallen out of favor. Could
there be, in the minds of millions of women today, anything worse than
being a homemaker? The pendulum, however, seems to be swinging back
toward home even if the homemaker title is still unpopular. The meteoric rise
of home-centric programming, such as HGTV and DIY Network, and the
celebrities they have spun off, such as Chip and Joanna Gaines, speaks to the
fact that people are craving more connection with home.
There are two ways of getting home, Chesterton explained. One of
them is to stay there. The other is to walk round the whole world till we
come back to the same place. As the world seemingly grows darker, we are
longing for our homes to mean something again. Our homes are becoming
sanctuariesa place where we feel safe, protected, cared for. Even the word
sanctuary reflects a deeper meaning. It stems from the word sanctus , meaning
holy. It initially meant a building set apart for holy worship. Only later
did it come to mean a place of refuge or protection. Making our homes a
kind of sanctuary means more than simply having nourishing comfort food
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on the table or high thread-count sheets on the bed. There must be nourishment
for the soul. Without this, the soul will be left hungry and searching for the
He is happiest, be he king or peasant,
who finds peace in his home.
JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE
One who truly satisfies every desire of our hearts.
Homes Can Evangelize
The phrase Theology of Home calls to mind a vital spiritual truth: that our
homes can evangelize. All the time we spend in the recesses of our homes
cleaning a cupboard here, making a bed there, hanging up a picture, watering
a plant, cleaning up after a child, cutting potatoes, saying prayers, arguing and
making upall these things, seen and unseen, somehow work their way into
the fibers of a dwelling. We can fail to recognize how beautiful it all is until
a stranger is among us and is moved. Life lived according to Gods way, lived
under the banner of love, teaches us, and others, through a humbling sort of
beauty. True, we might not be able to get all our friends and acquaintances
to step through the doors of a Catholic Church, but we can get them into
our kitchens. Because secularism is so pervasive, interaction with a family in
an orthodox and authentically Catholic home might be the only intimate
exposure some will ever get to human lives struggling and striving to fully
and sacramentally live according to Gods designs.
Catholic daily livingwith all its imperfections and struggles, its mercy
and its joy, not to mention aesthetic and hospitable beauty and nourishing
food (and hopefully some good red wine)can be an intoxicating induce
ment to the reality that life is fuller, more secure, more exciting, and more ful
filling when lived in the context of the divine. To step inside this context is a
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foretaste of heaven, and sometimes, mysteriously, this experience can be even
more profound for a stranger than being inside a church. For in the liturgy,
he may not know the language, but the language of a home is universal.
Our Goal
Despite the fact that we are three moms mothering a total of sixteen chil
dren, this book is not packed with tips, recipes, or meal plans. Rather, its a