Chaunda Gaines - Say What Loneliness?

M y name is Chaunda Gaines. Im a self help author who keeps it real, simple and plain. Thats my mo rsp thats me. I write about real life issues and problems that we face in our everyday life. I was born and raised in Third Ward, Texas with one brother and one sister. I went to a private school. Im single, raised two wonderful behaving daughters in which I was always there for them as they were growing up. I gave good advice as a mother in order for them not to make the same mistakes I made. Im a person of color who realized you have to be unique or gifted at something to stand out from the rest to succeed in life. Im the middle child in my family; often treated like the black sheep of the family, that I am nothing nor will I ever amount to anything. This enabled me to have drive and determination to fulfill my dream and vision of becoming a writer. I had nobody there for me in my life but the good lord above who watched over me as I was growing up. I went through plenty of storms, failed relationships and marriages. I was sheltered as a young girl so I grew up finding out about life the hard way. If I had someone to tell me about life, I wouldnt have made so many mistakes in my life to begin with. So I began to write to help others find solutions to the many questions that pop up in their minds that they may not want to share with someone and how to deal with the life they have now in which they have made good or bad choices in which theyre living with. I keep my writings real and dont sugarcoat my words. Im not cutting any corners in the way I write. I will bring it to you like it should be. A lot of times we dont have solutions and answers to a lot of problems and issues we go through. I try to bring out your innermost feelings and thoughts in so many different ways and angles on how we maybe feeling about situations in our life where we are misunderstood by others. Sometimes thats not what we are trying to say when we are talking about whats going on with our lives. As I was growing up, loneliness always surrounded me in some shape, form or fashion. I could not put it together until I became older. Im sure youre probably thinking, Shes writing about loneliness. Oh how sad? or What does she know about that topic? Let me inform you. I feel some higher being or spirit has led me to write this book on this particular topic to help someone out there who just doesnt know why they do some things that end up hurting themselves or someone else. Loneliness can be derived from so many areas in our life that we, as individuals, may not even be aware of. As you continue to read this book, I hope you can find out where loneliness fits into your life. Do you have a solution? Do you know of someone who self-consciously may have a problem of loneliness? Does your behavior play a part in your loneliness? After reading this book, if you know of someone, buy this book for them or for yourself. See if you can make your life better than what it is. See if it can bring you back your self-confidence and assurance in your life that you could have lost down the road and dont know why. Now lets go over some things loneliness deals with. What the definitions could be that you may never have even thought about. Loneliness can also be a deep, dark, empty feeling inside your soul, never letting go of your emotions thats trapped inside of you or loneliness can mean that you can be trapped into a world of the unknown depending upon your state of mind. Being trapped could mean being in your own zone or seclusion where its just you and nobody else to bother you. You could be in a room, just you and complete darkness staring in space or you could be sitting at the table with earplugs in your ear listening to music in your own zone tuning everybody out or in the computer surfing the website or in a chat room in your own zone or world. All of this can also be associated with loneliness; singling oneself from others than being in the company of people or maybe you can be in deep thought or concentration of trying to put your life into prospective. You can be lonely just in your house doing nothing or maybe sitting in a corner with your knees bent Indian style with your head between your legs, maybe wishing for someone to stop by or knock at your door or call you on the phone. You can be on the freeway. You see a car next to you and wave at that person or maybe you try to get that person to pull over so you can get his/her number or introduce yourself. What possesses a person to flag a car down? Get that persons number: loneliness! Because no one may be in your life. Had you thought of decision making? Making decisions hastily, everyone has done this sometime or another in their life. Decision making can resolve problems/situations that come up in your daily life. When making decisions, you seriously analyze that issue step by step, weigh all the different angles carefully and scrutinize that problem like the man in the mirror. Decisions that individuals make can really affect the outcome of their life in particular being wrong or right. If you make a wrong decision it can cause you to crawl up in a nut shell excluding yourself from everyone because of that decision you made. What outcome that can come from this? Loneliness hopes that no erratic behavior comes from it such as: committing suicide, drug addiction, killing someone, going clubbing by oneself, going on blind dates, physical & sexual abusers, rapists, traveling & vacationing by oneself, adoption, hypochondria, alcoholic, trusting someone that you know and feel may not have your best interest at heart. All the things above are associated with loneliness in some shape, form or fashion. If you dig deep inside and think about it, there could be more things that I havent touched on that you individually may know of with oneself that loneliness plays a part of where you are concerned. Thought process hun. Many times in our lives weve done things that just didnt make sense or add up. Then we ask ourselves why did I do this? or what lead me to do this? As you continue to read this book, I hope it can help you to see where change may be needed in your life. Rethink how you live your life and see how you can reorganize it for the better if loneliness exists there. Making adjustments in your life is always good because theres always room for improvement in our daily life. Remember if you have a problem in life it can always be fixed and worked out with a solution. Believe that! These are short topics that are precise examples or real life issues that we are faced with in our everyday life to help you think about how youre living if loneliness is present. Who knows you could change for the better or you could feel fine just the way you are.