Z. B. Hill - Romantic Attraction

Romantic Attraction

CAUSES & EFFECTS OF EMOTIONS

Embarrassment, Shame, and Guilt

Happiness

Fear and Anxiety

Romantic Attraction

Anger

Optimism and Self-Confidence

Stress and Tension

Sadness

Empathy and Compassion

Envy and Jealousy

Surprise and Flexibility

Emotional Self-Awareness

Loneliness

CAUSES & EFFECTS OF EMOTIONS

Romantic
Attraction

Z.B. Hill

Mason Crest

Copyright 2015 by Mason Crest, an imprint of National Highlights, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping, or any information storage and retrieval system, without permission from the publisher.

Printed and bound in the United States of America.

First printing
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Series ISBN: 978-1-4222-3067-1
ISBN: 978-1-4222-3077-0
ebook ISBN: 978-1-4222-8770-5

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Hill, Z. B.

Romantic attraction / Z.B. Hill.

pages cm. (Causes & effects of emotions)

Includes index.

ISBN 978-1-4222-3077-0 (hardback)

1. Sexual attractionJuvenile literature. 2. Interpersonal attractionJuvenile literature. 3. Man-woman relationshipsJuvenile literature. 4. Sex Juvenile literature I. Title.

HQ784.S45H55 2015

306.7dc23

2014004383

CONTENTS

The journey of self-discovery for young adults can be a passage that includes times of introspection as well joyful experiences. It can also be a complicated route filled with confusing road signs and hazards along the way. The choices teens make will have lifelong impacts. From early romantic relationships to complex feelings of anxiousness, loneliness, and compassion, this series of books is designed specifically for young adults, tackling many of the challenges facing them as they navigate the social and emotional world around and within them. Each chapter explores the social emotional pitfalls and triumphs of young adults, using stories in which readers will see themselves reflected.

Adolescents encounter compound issues today in home, school, and community. Many young adults may feel ill equipped to identify and manage the broad range of emotions they experience as their minds and bodies change and grow. They face many adult problems without the knowledge and tools needed to find satisfactory solutions. Where do they fit in? Why are they afraid? Do others feel as lonely and lost as they do? How do they handle the emotions that can engulf them when a friend betrays them or they fail to make the grade? These are all important questions that young adults may face. Young adults need guidance to pilot their way through changing feelings that are influenced by peers, family relationships, and an ever-changing world. They need to know that they share common strengths and pressures with their peers. Realizing they are not alone with their questions can help them develop important attributes of resilience and hope.

The books in this series skillfully capture young peoples everyday, real-life emotional journeys and provides practical and meaningful information that can offer hope to all who read them. It covers topics that teens may be hesitant to discuss with others, giving them a context for their own feelings and relationships. It is an essential tool to help young adults understand themselves and their place in the world around themand a valuable asset for teachers and counselors working to help young people become healthy, confident, and compassionate members of our society.

Cindy Croft, M.A.Ed

Director of the Center for Inclusive Child Care at Concordia University

Words to Understand

adolescence: The period of time during and after puberty, when a child develops into an adult.

biological: Having to do with living things and the way they work.

Its the first day of school, and thirteen-year-old Sarah is getting ready for the day. Shes standing in front of her bathroom mirror, putting her hair up, frowning at it, and then putting it back down. Shes bought new clothes for the new school year and she cant decide which top she likes bestthe red one or the blue one. Usually, it only takes her a few minutes to get ready to leave the house. But today is different; today she knows shell be seeing lots of friends she hasnt seen all summer. And she knows that shell be seeing Matt today.

Her mom yells from down the hall that breakfast is getting cold. Sarah sighs and grabs her blue top. She leaves her hair down and smiles at herself in the mirror: she decides she looks beautiful. Shes ready for the day!

At school, everyone is talking quickly in loud and excited voices. Sarah and her friends clump together around Jessicas locker, laughing and exchanging news from the summer months. But the biggest topic of the day is the upcoming school dance.

Figuring out your relationships with the opposite sex can be tricky at any age.

Ugh, thinks Sarah, school has barely even begun and already we have to worry about a school dance. Sarah has never liked school dances. They almost always end with someone crying or going home with hurt feelings. And yet you have to go or you look weird.

Jessica turns her attention on Sarah, and asks, So, Sarah, do you think that Matt will ask you to the dance?

Sarah cringes. How does Jessica know about her feelings for Matt? Even Sarah isnt sure how she feels about him. Uh... I dont know. I guess he can do what he wants. This makes everyone laugh, and Sarah walks away feeling confused and a little hurt. Do they know something that she doesnt? Are they suggesting that she has a crush on Matt?

And yet Sarah cant help but admit, if only to herself, that she spends a lot of time lately thinking about Matt. Until recently, she never really thought of him as more than a friend. She always got a laugh out of the things he said during class, and last year they were lab partners in science. But never, in all of that time did she think Matt was, well, cute. But then, this summer, she went to the same sleep-away camp as Matt. They sat around the fire at night, sharing ghost stories. During the day, she noticed the way he did flips from the diving board into the pond. Suddenly she started to see him differently. When sitting by the campfire, she felt herself wanting to sit closer to Matt. She wondered what it would be like to hold his hand or feel his arms around her. She started noticing little things about him, like the fact that he had two laughs: one was a quiet laugh that he used when he was being polite, or listening to adults, and the other laugh was big and loud and boomed off the walls. She even wondered what it would be like to kiss him.