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Godek, Gregory J. P.
1001 Ways to Be Romantic/Gregory J. P. Godek
Authors Annotated Edition
p. cm.
1. Courtship Miscellanea. 2. Dating (Social customs)
Miscellanea. 3. Love Miscellanea.
I. Title
HQ801.G554 1999 646.47dc21 99-36946 CIP
Printed and bound in the United States of America.
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Greg Godek should be nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize for teaching 1001 Ways To be Romantic.
Boston magazine
The book is a well-thumbed romantic Bible that I consult often.
B. Wicker, reader
DEDICATIONS
- To the romanticswho simply want more.
- To the cynics (the romantics of tomorrow).
- To those who want to fall in love again.
- To those who want to save romance from the scientists and psychologistsand put it back into the hands of the poets and dreamers and lovers.
- To my son, the future author, Thomas Valentine Godek.
- And to my bride, my best friend, my soul mate, Karyn Lynn Godek(Who is more fun than you and me? Nobody.)
Dedication Page
Theme Song:
[This One Goes Out To] the
One I Love, R.E.M.
I like your book 1001
Ways To Be Romantic!
It will fill your brain with
all kinds of wonderful
romantic ideas. I like
number 584!
Oprah Winfrey
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
- Deborah Werksman
- Bruce Jones
- Kate Broughton
- Dale Koppel
- Mary Ann Sabia
- Mary-Lynne Bohn
- Bonnie Robak
- John & Jean
- Warren & Judy
- Steven Jobs
- Lou Rizzo & UPS
- Sam & The Group
- Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Acknowledgments Page
Theme Song:
Thank You,
Christina Aguilera
1001 Ways To Be
Romantic. That seems like
an awful lot! I mean, guys,
if the first thousand ideas
dont workwhat are the
chances shes going to
stick around when you say,
Okay, just one more?!
Jay Leno, The Tonight Show
INTRODUCTION
Love may make the world go round, but its romantic love that makes the ride worthwhile. We need love, but we crave romance (just like you need broccoli, but you crave chocolate!). Its romantic love that allows you to say emphatically, Im in love with you, instead of merely, I love you.
This book is about reigniting passion and deepening intimacy. It is for young and old, singles and marrieds, men and women. It is for you if you want to turn your relationship into a love affair.
Why are so many marriages mediocre and boring? Not because they lack love, but because they lack romance. Love is lukewarm, comfortablewhile romance is hot, exciting!
Everyone wants passion and romance in his or her life. But
- Some people are uncertain how to create romance. This book shows you how.
- Some people are stuck in cultural stereotypes. This book helps you appreciate your partner as a unique and special individual.
- And some people have given up the search for romance out of frustration or cynicism. This book will reinspire you.
Love in the twenty-first century is about practicing old-fashioned values with a modern twist. It is about honoring the timeless values of honesty, commitment, and caring, while expressing them creatively, uniquely, and passionately. And this is where romance comes in. Romance, you see, is the expression of love. Romance brings love alive in the world. Without romance, love is a sweet but empty concept.
I respect and recommend
Greg Godeks writings
on love right along with
William Shakespeares.
Margie LaPanja,
author of The Goddess
Guide to Love
I believe that expressing love is our purpose as human beings. Therefore, anything that helps you achieve this purpose is a good thing.
There are thousands, millions of ways of expressing love. These 1001 ideas are just the beginning.
Arlo & Janis 1993. Reprinted by permission of Newspaper Enterprise Association, Inc.
Greg Godek explains how to get the woo in wooing.
Cosmopolitan
ONCE UPON A TIME
two people fell in love. Just like you. They did all the classic romantic things. But the passion faded after a few months. Is this inevitable??
1a He gave her a dozen roses and a box of chocolates on Valentines Day.
1b She wrote him long, romantic love letters. He sent her greeting cards.
1c They talked and cooed on the phone. During work. And late at night.
1d He took her to see every romantic movie that year.
1e He gave her perfume. She gave him cologne.
1f They celebrated special occasions with a bottle of champagne.
1g She served dinner by candlelight. He served breakfast in bed.
The Classics of romance are fine in the beginning.
Then what??
Infatuation and what I call Generic Romance only go so far.
THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER
know the secret of creating unique and personal ways to express their love.
*How would you grade your relationship?
A = Passionate, exciting, loving, fulfilling; not perfectbut clearly excellent.
B = Very good, solid, better-than-most, consistent, improving.
C = Average, acceptable, status quo, okaybut static, ho-hum, sometimes boring.
D = Below average, unhappy, dismal; badbut not hopeless.
F = Hopeless, depressing, dangerous; tried everything, it didnt work.
Give your lover a dozen rosesand do it with a creative twist. Give eleven red roses and one white rose. Attach a note that reads:
In every bunch theres one who stands out
and you are that one.
Sending a birthday card isnt just a good idea, its an obligatory romantic gesture. But how about doing something different this year? On your lovers birthday, send a thank you card to his or her mother.
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