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2015 by Peter Greer and David Weekley
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ENDORSEMENTS
The Giver and the Gift completely shifted every paradigm I had about fundraising.
Justin Rule, founder, Heads Up
I recommend this book for its authenticity and practical application.
Terry Looper, founder & CEO, Texon
I found the book fresh, clear, and extremely helpful.
Denny Rydberg, president, Young Life
Peter and Davids relationship honors the idea that each giver should decide in his or her own heart what to give.
Brad Formsma, creator, Ilikegiving.com; author, I Like Giving
David and Peter have addressed the donor-fundraiser relationship in an unusual and insightful way.
Greg Brenneman, CEO, CCMP Capital; former chairman, Burger King and Continental Airlines
This book will help you rediscover the joy of generosity.
David Wills, president, National Christian Foundation; coauthor, Investing in God s Business and Family . Money .
Peter Greer and David Weekley lucidly demonstrate that fundraising and giving are primarily about partnership.
Dennis Hollinger, president, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary; Coleman M. Mockler Distinguished Professor of Christian Ethics
Peter and Davids powerful stories and keen insight shine light on the partnership God intends between the gift and the giver.
Lance Wood, partner, PricewaterhouseCoopers
This book is certain to inspire greater generosity.
Jeff Rutt, founder and CEO, Keystone Custom Homes; founder, HOPE International
The truth in this book is enlightening, and I sincerely believe it needs to be read by all nonprofit leaders, development staff, and donors.
Greg Murtha, chief relationship officer, iDonate
I believe that David and Peters book will inspire all of us to greater generosity.
Nicky Gumbel, vicar, Holy Trinity Brompton; pioneer, The Alpha Course
Peter Greer and David Weekley challenge believers to incarnate Kingdom generosity by being engaged in transformational giving.
Kim S. Phipps, president, Messiah College
This book walks us through Gods plan for each of us to participate in the furthering of His Kingdom through giving and serving generously.
Dave Valle, founder, Esperanza International
Truth that will renew your mind and your heart.
Anne Beiler, founder, Auntie Annes Soft Pretzels
Peter and David elevate and articulate deep spiritual truths and practical lessons for both the fundraiser and the funder.
Michael J. Mantel, PhD, president and CEO, Living Water International
Thank you, Peter and David, for taking these gems and putting them to paper for all of us!
Eric Scofield, chief development officer, Young Life
This book invites you to think more deeply about your philanthropy and reveals best practices leading to more impact in your giving.
Chris Crane, CEO, Edify
This book will be a refreshing read for anyone who desires to give or receive funds that advance Gods Kingdom in the world.
Gary A. Haugen, president and CEO, International Justice Mission; author, The Locust Effect
S ure would have been good to have had this book when I started in this field.
Peb Jackson, connector and coauthor, Danger Calling: True Adventures of Risk and Faith
DEDICATION
Dedicated to Terry Looper and Rusty Walter for their friendship and generosity.
A cord of three strands is not easily broken .
Ecclesiastes 4:12 HCSB
C ONTENTS
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Foreword by Fred Smith
Introduction
Part I: The Gift
1. Christ-Centered, Not Me-Centered
2. Listen First, Speak Second
3. Generous, Not Greedy
4. Clarity, Not Ambiguity
5. Real, Not Rose-Colored
6. Patient, Not Overambitious
7. Confident, Not Arrogant
8. Long-Term, Not Short-Lived
9. Grateful, Not Entitled
10. Represents, Not Uses
Part II: The Giver
11. Stewardship, Not Ownership
12. Heads, Not Just Hearts
14. Partnership, Not Dependency
15. Transformational Giving, Not Just Informed Philanthropy
16. Spirit-Led, Not Overly Structured
17. Anonymous or Named?
18. The Kids or the Kingdom?
19. For Forever or For Now?
20. Together, Not Alone
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
Appendix 1: David Weekley Family Foundations International Giving Summary
Notes
About the Authors
Books by Peter Greer
Back Ads
Back Cover
F OREWORD
Several years ago, I wrote a review for a book on fundraising that was never published. I took issue with one of the assumptions about relationships with donors. The author started from the premise that wealthy donors are rich in possessions but poor in spirit, and the role of the fundraiser is to minister to their hurts and needs. There was no mention of the opportunity to learn from the experience and competence of donors, nor of the possibility that not all donors might need another ministry friend to come alongside them just then.
The formulaic relationship described in that book does not at all reflect the dynamic, honest, and sincere bond forged by Peter Greer and David Weekley. What they have found in each others company is a shared respect for their different strengths and perspectives. The genuine friendship and mutuality that they have is rare between peers but almost nonexistent between major donors and ministry leaders. The pressure for the leader to conform to donor expectations or for the donor to control the programs of the ministry is ever-present, and learning how David and Peter have managed to resist that pattern is one of the rewards of reading this book. Over time, they have learned to grow each other and not be content with a merely transactional relationship.