Paul D. Tieger - Just Your Type: Create the Relationship Youve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type

Just Your Type

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Just Your Type

Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger

Little, Brown & Company Boston New York London

Copyright 2000 by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger

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First eBook Edition: June 2003

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ISBN: 978-0-7595-2425-5

Text design by Joyce C. Weston

This is dedicated to the one I love.
PDT & BBT

If you don't like someone, the way he
holds his spoon will make you furious;
if you do like him, he can turn his plate
over into your lap and you won't mind.

Irving Becker

Chapter 1
"You Say Tomato, I Say Tomahto"

Susan and Jeff thought they were perfect for each other. They met in college, enjoyed some of the same interests, came from similar backgrounds, and married after both had had time to establish their careers. Although they knew they were different in many ways, they felt a powerful attraction that they attributed to those very differences. Jeff was enthusiastic, outgoing, and creative; Susan was gentle, down-to-earth, and responsible. Each balanced the other's weaknesses, and together they complemented each other's strengths. But a few months after they were married, their bliss began to fade, replaced by a low-grade, constant tension. Susan's traditional nature surfaced. She was a conservative person at heart and wanted a stable, predictable life. Hardworking, quiet, and extremely diligent with all her commitments, she planned carefully for the future, saved their money to buy nice things, and was eager to settle down and raise a family in the town where she'd grown up. But Jeff was the quintessential Renaissance man constantly reinventing himself and talking about his many creative ideas. A natural entrepreneur who kept busy developing new ventures often on a shoestring Jeff was outgoing, flexible, insightful about people, and curious about new experiences. Far from wanting to settle down, he longed to travel the globe with Susan, learning as much as he could about other cultures.